Almost2, it has to make one wonder, about " free will " and The Churches view or Gods’ view on " love " .
Do what I say , or else. Is the same as saying I love you, so if you dont do what i say, i am going to punish you, or being in a harmful marriage where one spouse says to the other, I do the things you don’t like because I know what is good for you, wether or not you believe me, and if you dont like it too bad and on top of that i will hurt you.
How really does one justify the concept of freedom of choice or love or the church being all kind and understanding or implying that God really wants us to do something when we either have no desire to, nor want to do.
We are supposed to believe that is better for someone who isn’t catholic, doesnt want to be catholic or is a fallen away catholic or whatever, for that person to be there in the pew, when they have no desire to be there for whatever reason they have and to go through the motions, because the alternative is damnation.
And in what world is any of that even remotely logical ? I mean we mine as well pick our mates by force or have forced marriages and state they are for our own good or else.
But the sly answer to get out of being the wrong for this rule, is, big drum roll…
A person punishes him or her self by not being happy or wanting to go to Church and yadda yadda yadda.
So if you don’t understand the Church, don’t like and love the Church, and don’t want to sit in the pews and you dont feel it necessary to go through the motions while there, then woah upon thee.
do people realize that if the Vatican and the Pope came together, and decided that before every Mass, people had to go outside and walk in a circle three times single file, while whistling dixie, or else those who didnt, didnt really love the Church, or God and there fore have commited a mortal sin… that there would be no questions asked and the exact same answer as to why do catholics have to do this, would still be the same answer.
So people feel that rationalizing why things are wrong is incorrect or " bad " yet the way the Church and the Vatican/ Papacy does it is fine because supposedly they are better than the rest of humanity.
That is my reply to your question almost2 which is basically a question with in itself. If you want to take a stab at figuring that out I’ll be interested in your reply. Cheers.