Do you typically sit in the same location for Mass?

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If I’m by myself, I sit in the center pews closer to the front. If I am with my family, depending on the day of the week and how many are there, we may sit in the center closer to the front (Father’s preference for Daily Mass) or if the school children are there, on the left side. On Sundays, we sit in the back.
 
That gave me a chuckle. In my parish it seems the front rows are the last to fill in. You need to get there early if you want to sit in the middle to back or on ends.
We had a large family for years who pretty much decided they owned the front pew and would sit there every time. As there were 6 of them and they were physically large, they took up the whole pew. My mother on the other hand thought my dad should sit there because he’d had a stroke and sitting on the right hand end of the pew made it easiest for him to get to Communion or the priest would just bring it to the seat.

For a few years it became a contest between Mom and this Large Family to see who was going to get to church first and snag that pew. Drove me nuts.
 
Always same place. I get flustered if someone is there and I have to adjust last minute. Though I do attend different services and for some I always go to the left, others right side of the Church. This does not vary. That way I can enjoy both sides of the Church. Different views which I love. There are reasons why I like each.

I heard a priest once say they like it when people do that, always go to the same spot - it flusters them when people move around. Throws them off a bit. I think that is true.
 
That gave me a chuckle. In my parish it seems the front rows are the last to fill in. You need to get there early if you want to sit in the middle to back or on ends.
I once said to the Pastor, “If I ever got to set up my own layout for a church it would only have one row of pews…the last row.”

I have never, ever understood why with 25 rows of pews, 4 pews to a row, 6 people have to sit in rows 24 and 25 with nobody else in church. It just doesn’t feel like a community even if everyone knows everyone else.
 
Sometimes when I get to church VERY early for sacristan/MC duties, I will get a knock on the door. It’s an older woman who shows up an hour before Mass (usually big Masses like Christmas, Easter, etc.) to place “fake” purses, sweaters and copies of the bulletin on the front right pew to reserve it for her and her friends, who meet for coffee before Mass. I said she could just call my cell phone and I could put out some of those cheesy “reserved” placards for her? She declined my suggestion.
 
Yeah, I always sit in the same spot first row. I don’t mind if someone took my seat I’ll just find a place to squeeze in.
 
I MUST sit in the same spot.

If someone takes my seat, I will fall to the floor and loudly wail while pounding my fists and feet. I then proceed to get up and if they haven’t moved by that point, I throttle them.
 
Also, does anyone here know anything about generations past where Catholics would make a donation (typically to buy new pews) in some areas, and they would receive a certain number of pew spaces with their family’s name on them? When did that practice end? Was it widespread in the US? I think some churches even had “box pews”?
Yes, that’s true.

When churches were being built, a family would donate the cost of a pew (and probably a little more to contribute to the overall construction), and it would thereafter be “their pew.” Some old churches still have the little plaques attached to the ends of the pews designating whose pew it was.

If the family was not sitting in “their pew” then it was available for someone else to use, but it was customary to drop a coin into a little box somewhere (sometimes even at the end of every pew) to “rent” it. The practice was even called “pew rental” and the money received was categorized as “pew rental” on financial reports.

There’s no single time that this ended. I suppose generally speaking, after World War II when our society became so much more mobile would be the general time-period.
 
Gosh. A long time ago… my dad “bought” one of those pews. Probably late 40s. Anyone could use it. As my dad explained, we didn’t own it, God did. That may have been to satisfy the curiosity of a snotty kidlette, but it was a “take” that stuck with me.
 
At first I thought you were going to respond that you always sit in the same spot, Father. 😉
 
Gosh. A long time ago… my dad “bought” one of those pews. Probably late 40s. Anyone could use it. As my dad explained, we didn’t own it, God did. That may have been to satisfy the curiosity of a snotty kidlette, but it was a “take” that stuck with me.
It is a good point. A very good point!

However, the fact is that in the past, people actually did own their pews. It seems to me that by that time, in that place, the idea had changed somewhat (and changed for the better).

In Europe, Catholic churches originally did not have pews (not before the Reformation period). When people went into a church, they did not expect to find a place to sit (indeed, such would have been an odd experience for them). So the idea that wealthy people would spend money to build a place to sit was not contrary to their expectations.

And in the U.S. as we had to build our churches, we had to deal with the expenses; and our challenges were different from the Europeans. We needed NEW churches, lots of them, and we needed them fast. By that time, seating for the congregation was no longer considered optional. Our parishes (nor our diocese) did not have centuries of savings, or patronage from royalty or nobility, that we could draw upon. So we modified the European system. Families sponsored what they could. Each family gave a pew, or a half a pew. Every candlestick was sponsored by someone. etc. etc. At the time, it made sense to say to people “if you didn’t sponsor a pew, please make a small donation each time you use the pew that someone else paid to build.”

Although we would eventually see it this way, AT THE TIME, buying ones own pew was simply the normal way of doing things.
 
Sitting in the same pew every week isn’t a problem here, attendance is usually about 200, and the nave can fit close to 1000.
 
i prefer to be on the priest’s right hand ; rear

and towards the back end of the church; where they ran out of money to put kneelers

so i have an excuse to not kneel & save my aching joints
 
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Whatever church I visit, mostly choose 3rd or 4th pew on the side closest to the music ministry, whether left or right.
 
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