Does a Latin Wedding Mass make sense if

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if the bride and groom dont know latin and most of those that will be attending the wedding mass? I want the latin mass because I think its beautiful, but my fiance is sorta on the fence because she says no one will understand whats being said.

whats some of your opinions beautiful catholic people.

God bless
 
SoulRebel777 said:
if the bride and groom dont know latin and most of those that will be attending the wedding mass? I want the latin mass because I think its beautiful, but my fiance is sorta on the fence because she says no one will understand whats being said.

whats some of your opinions beautiful catholic people.

God bless
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If the wedding is at a TLM parish - or one that offers it - then missles with english translations should be provided. The vows are exchanged in english.
 
What’s the big deal? I once attended a Vietnamese wedding at a Baptist Church. Everyone received a little booklet with all the prayers and stuff and everyone was happy. I think we all understood what was going on. 🙂

PS There were no protests outside to have all services at that Church in English.🙂
 
I’ve a MS Word doc with the text for a nuptial TLM. It can be altered to put in the two names, and to further personalise if you so desire. I put in a few explanations of what was happening, as the Mass progressed.

Alot of the people attending were not trad Cats, and would have been unfamiliar with it. Apart from one or two who insisted on trying to chime in with the server, the church was dead silent when it should have been. Which is a whole lot different to any NO wedding I;ve been to, where it’s a competition to see who can talk the loudest before and after the ceremony.

If anyone wants the doc, let me know.

Does the CAF allow for the uploading of files like this? I know it allows for PDFs - but that ain’t much good if you want to edit the doc to personalise the wedding booklet…
 
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if the bride and groom dont know latin and most of those that will be attending the wedding mass? I want the latin mass because I think its beautiful, but my fiance is sorta on the fence because she says no one will understand whats being said.
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I agree with the others who responded that as long as you provide a translation, no one is going to complain - in fact, comprehension of the language is one of the least tenable arguments against a mass in Latin when everyone can read along! My husband has also made the point that if it’s in English, non-believers might think they actually understand what the prayers etc. are really about, whereas if it’s in Latin with an English translation they’re more likely to be aware that there’s something they’re not understanding. But that’s an entirely different discussion…

Also, as far as I know it is usual to have the vows in English/your own language. When I got married (almost 6 months ago :)) we had a Latin mass (EF, although we seriously considered a Latin OF since that’s our usual mass) - it meant our ‘order of service’ was around 25 pages long to include the translations and some explanations of what was happening, instead of the usual 4 page outline, but it was definitely worth it 🙂

[Note: I should say we didn’t actually have the texts of the ceremony in the booklet, since they were going to be in English and hence immediately comprehensible - we had to have some way of keeping the length down!]

My husband did a fantastic job of getting accurate translations and making it look pretty too with some artwork - if you send me a PM with your email address, I’d be happy to send you the doc file.
 
My wife and I had a traditional Latin mass for our wedding. Neither of us “knows” Latin, although we regularly attend the Latin mass, and most of our guests had never seen a Latin mass. We thought it went well, however. We used wedding mass booklets from Ecclesia Dei so that the guests could follow the mass. They can be ordered here: ecclesiadei.org/Order%20Form.htm
If you need more than 100, call them for a price. They give substantial bulk discounts.

The actual vows take place before the mass and are in English. For the sake of our guests, we chose a low mass because it is shorter. If your priest, choir, and servers have the skill, a nuptial high mass is very beautiful, but quite long.
 
Hi Soul,

Most of the attendees probably won’t know the difference. Personally I would see it as a gimmick, like getting married in a swimming pool or something.

If you fiancee is uncomfortable with it and you’re confortable with vthe new mass, why don’t you start your married life with something you agree on?

Verbum
 
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The actual vows take place before the mass and are in English. For the sake of our guests, we chose a low mass because it is shorter. If your priest, choir, and servers have the skill, a nuptial high mass is very beautiful, but quite long.
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You’ve got a point there - we had a full sung nuptial mass (missa cantata) since we’d both sung in choirs for many years (and my husband’s a conductor) and it was very important to us. However, the wedding ceremony plus mass did take 1hr 45 mins 🙂 That said, we didn’t hear any complaints - most people said it was beautiful! - but maybe they were just too nice to say negative things on our wedding day 😉
 
Sounds like most of you agree that it would work out fine. I will explain all this to my fiance and let her know. God bless all of you, you all sound like really great people.

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🙂

We are geeting married in October in TLM, i would greatly appreciate if you could email the document to us. My email address is valcurran@hotmail.com. Any help is welcomed.
Thank you and god bless]
 
Soulrebel is my other account name on here. I did indeed have a traditional high mass wedding. It went very well. People came up to and said , I forgot how beautiful the mass use to be when i was a child. others said…the most beautiful wedding they been too. some said…alittle long but really nice.

Me and my wife of course loved it.
 
TruthisBeauty7 said:
Soulrebel is my other account name on here. I did indeed have a traditional high mass wedding. It went very well. People came up to and said , I forgot how beautiful the mass use to be when i was a child. others said…the most beautiful wedding they been too. some said…alittle long but really nice.

Me and my wife of course loved it.
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Congratulations on your marriage! Glad to hear that you were able to have a high mass, and that it was well received by the guests. I’ve been to a couple of high mass weddings. I thought they were beautiful, but I’m familiar with the high mass. II was curious how someone who was unfamiliar with it might perceive it.
 
If I get married, God willing, the Mass will be in the Extraordinary Form…
 
Verbum said:
Hi Soul,

Most of the attendees probably won’t know the difference. Personally I would see it as a gimmick, like getting married in a swimming pool or something.

If you fiancee is uncomfortable with it and you’re confortable with vthe new mass, why don’t you start your married life with something you agree on?

Verbum
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That is probably the most ridiculous thing I’ve read in a long time.
 
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I’ve a MS Word doc with the text for a nuptial TLM. It can be altered to put in the two names, and to further personalise if you so desire. I put in a few explanations of what was happening, as the Mass progressed.

Alot of the people attending were not trad Cats, and would have been unfamiliar with it. Apart from one or two who insisted on trying to chime in with the server, the church was dead silent when it should have been. Which is a whole lot different to any NO wedding I;ve been to, where it’s a competition to see who can talk the loudest before and after the ceremony.

If anyone wants the doc, let me know.

Does the CAF allow for the uploading of files like this? I know it allows for PDFs - but that ain’t much good if you want to edit the doc to personalise the wedding booklet…
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Hello, I am planning to receive the sacrament early next year and would be very grateful if you could provide me with a copy. I can pass on my email to you through messaging if you would like.

Thanks 🙂
 
I am in the same boat as the topic poster. When I am not deployed with the Army (this now the third tour, this one to Iraq), I attend the EF at Holy Rosary in Jersey City NJ. My fiancee sings in the choir - currently looking for an organist/conductor- and she has not fallen in love with the EF like I have. It might be that shes in the choir so shes not able to follow along with the Priest, from that distance she probably can not see well, or the ADD kicks in and shes off in la la land , IDK.

I digress . . . she has agreed to be married in the EF rite and I was wondering if anyone has video of it. I have it in my missal and just had a hard time imagining it from start to finish. Furthermore, anyone who has had it done, what does “plight thee my troth” or what have you in the vows. I read some wear that it its about pledging the truth to the vows. Is their a modern translation that would be deemed acceptable, it just brings images of a food trough.

What was the musical selections of those who had it done? I read there is no Gloria or Creedo, can we have an asperges though?

Thanks
 
We come right back to face the situation…DW and I grew up with the TLM being the “norm”. We were married “old”. DW was 30 and I was 27.

Both of us grew up with the TLM. Both of us would have married each other under the old rite. We were forbidden. We had to be content that all of the music used at our wedding was the music of our ancestors. It was.
 
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