Does Anyone Actually *Date* Anymore?

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I’m not really sure which subforum is best for this topic. There was a thread on this months ago but it only totaled two posts, and I still have some questions. I’ve been married for awhile and am somewhat clueless, so I’d especially like to hear from single Catholics on this topic!

Has anyone seen The Dating Project? https://www.thedatingprojectmovie.com/

I still haven’t! I’d like to order the DVD because the trailer, (shown on the link), intrigues me.

As a friend of mine described it to me, a college professor noticed that students were no longer dating, just “hooking up,” (i.e. making out, having casual sex). Her hypothesis was that “hook-up culture” was leaving single people feeling lonely, isolated, and unfulfilled. It was also making them socially inept and unable to connect to form real relationships. So she assigned some bold students to go on REAL dates. They had to meet in the morning, go out for coffee, and converse. It goes without saying that “hooking up” was prohibited.

If you’re single, have you observed the same phenomenon as the professor? Do you think our culture is losing the art of dating and courtship? If so, how has it affected you? Do you see any movement back to more traditional dating?
 
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I am not single, but my 3 children are.

I sometimes think we just hear about hooking up being discussed more than dating. I think there are people that still date. They just don’t get the attention.
 
I’m over a decade outside of the college scene, but everyone was always talking about the “hookup culture” back then too. In my opinion, it’s more like the “hookup sub-culture”. Reality TV and the sensationalization by the media make this look a lot more pervasive than it actually is.
 
There have been surveys on this, and it’s even happening on Catholic campuses. I think it’s premature to say that “traditional” daters didn’t participate in the surveys. http://www.beliefnet.com/faiths/cat...ookup-culture-exist-on-catholic-campuses.aspx

Casual sex has been around college campuses since at least the 1960s. I think that the professor makes a good case, however, that students are getting more socially awkward and inept about how to date.

I’m still hoping to hear from single people, however.
 
That’s an excellent point. Technology addiction socially impairs us even outside of the dating realm.

I haven’t yet seen the documentary but hope that she put Smartphone restrictions on the young daters.
 
When I go dancing, there are girls who stick their faces to their phones and I find that rude. I don’t say anything unless I know the person well. But I will not hesitate to interrupt their time on the phone to ask them to dance. After all, I thought they were there for the dancing, not to keep up with their phones.
 
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