Does anyone else ever feel like this?

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It seems as though no matter what I do or how much I try, I feel like I fail at everything. I feel as though I can do nothing right. I don’t know why I feel like this, and I don’t know what I should do. :bighanky:
 
I feel like this a lot. I think I was feeling like this when I chose my signature quote for CAF, though I’m not sure it really applies to me except the fact of weakness and the sufficiency of grace.

I don’t know what to say except to pray and stay close to God, and if you feel you are failing in that too then always come back to God after you have failed. Also I’m sure you’ve heard the idea that “we’re not called to be successful, we’re are called to be faithful” many times. It’s good to remind ourselves of that sometimes.
 
Quiet Singer,
I often feel that way and to be perfectly honest, I am really pretty bad at most of what I do! But really, I think this is to remind us to rely on God.

I don’t remeber who said this, bit we are to pray as if it all depended on God, then act as if it all depends on us. So we don’t think we can do it all on our own, but we don’t kick back and let God do all the work. Mother Teresa said that what counts for us is what we do bit that the result is in the hands of God. And in Spiritual Combat, Dom Scupoli says (in the context of fighting sin) that we must distrust our own abilities and rely solely on God.

So, I may feel that way, and in fact it is often true! but I have to keep on doing my best so God can bring what He wants out of my efforts.
 
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It seems as though no matter what I do or how much I try, I feel like I fail at everything. I feel as though I can do nothing right. I don’t know why I feel like this, and I don’t know what I should do. :bighanky:
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I feel the same way. It’s probably more common than people are willing to admit. Hang in there.
 
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To answer your question, one thing is I feel like every time I say something to someone I know, I constantly feel like I’m bothering them. It always feels like they are upset with me. But no matter what I do, or how hard I try not to think about it, it is always there, eating at me. Again, I don’t know how this came about, or if it has something to do with the past, but it is very hard for me to deal with.
 
Yes. i have gone through many emotions like that. I once read a couple of good quotes that could help you. “Never look at the distance between where you are and where you want to go you’ll get discourage every time.”

Here’s a proverb from Hinduism " Put all your focus on the action and not on the fruits"

Its not verbatim but I’m sure you get the point. This could help with perfectionism.God Bless:thumbsup:
 
I understand how you feel. Maybe the answer is humility, by accepting all our failures and despite all of this trying to continue our walk with the Lord. We will never going to be perfect in this life, and even those who seem to do everything right on the outside also have their weak points.
One example would be St Therese of Lisieux. She was very holy and a lot of nuns in her community thought she didn’t had any struggles, one envied her for being so “perfect”. But she said that it was not because of this achievement that God loved her, but because she was embracing her litleness and her fragility and relied only upon Him. On her death bad she was sometimes impatient towards nuns who were disturbing her, but she said that she found great consolation in being so in need of the mercy of God at that moment.
I know we have a lot more to feel guilty about in our lives, but the point is that we have to accept our failures and keep going trusting in Jesus. And I think it’s only an impression that others are upset and bothered by you. I once read in the spiritual letters of a holy priest that one of his directees believed that she was a burden for him and that he was directing her because of obligation and that he felt no contentment in that spiritual relationship. This priest responded that he wasn’t having any of this ideas and bad feelings towards her and even if that would have been the case, if God is infinitely pleased when we serve him despite periods of dryness and repulsion towards religion, she should be happy that he was directing her only for the love of Christ.
 
Hi, sometimes in life it does seem as though you are banging your head against a brick.wall constantly, continuously getting nowhere despite your efforts & only see doors shutting & not opening. It is at these times you have to think that maybe this is the way God wants it to be for the time being, & then you can find some peace in that. Also saying the rosary is a wonderful way to find strength to continue the battle & to find comfort. God will be opening different doors to you, of a kind you didnt know existed. God Bless & find that narrow door of His.
 
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To answer your question, one thing is I feel like every time I say something to someone I know, I constantly feel like I’m bothering them. It always feels like they are upset with me. But no matter what I do, or how hard I try not to think about it, it is always there, eating at me. Again, I don’t know how this came about, or if it has something to do with the past, but it is very hard for me to deal with.
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First I want to say, I relate and I honestly think a lot of people feel like that. However, I also think (and this is my opinion) something like that can not be changed overnight. I think that a lot of prayer with a total willingness to hear God is the only solution that could take years.

I would start with explaining to God how you feel and then being open to His answer. Some possibilities (and by no way do I want you to take this to heart because I am not God and He will give the perfect answer. I am just throwing out some possibilities)

1-) You like being around people you bug so no one will love you

2-) Perhaps you just need to learn to read the non verbal cues as to when is a good time to approach people

3-) there are bigger issues in your life so you concentrate on this to avoid the bigger issues

4-) You feel you are failing at helping people so you jump to the conclusion you are disturbing people

5-) You need to stop thinking of yourself

Honestly, I think the is an excellent question you pose because it is a good starting point to opening yourself up to hear God

Angie
 
I just read your additional post to your problem. Its a form of social anxiety fear of constant rejection and fear of criticism.It keeps the real you lock up.Sometimes ruminating thoughts in our head overly preoccupied with ourselves and the way others perceive us I have dealt with the same issue

Here’s a good organization out of Phoenix ,Social Anxiety Institute. Check their website google books on Social Anxiety and shyness and you will get some great info. God bless. I know what your going through. Good luck:D
 
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