Does Catholic rudeness keep you away from the Church?

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Thanks for responding. Actually, I’ve already visited your site (I could have done that in the first place, sorry) and now have the full picture. I wish you well as you continue on your journey.🙂

Grace and peace,
Mick
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And I wish you well on yours as well 🙂
 
Based on the idea that it’s better to reply to the intended meaning than not, the person said they “didn’t believe you.” That is not objectively calling you a liar. But it’s evident from the information given, perhaps not enough exists to have understanding and some justification. There are also other factors not yet discussed. It could also be that each has different standards. Nevertheless, though you did subjectively say that this person has bizarre notions… what does that even mean other than an unfocused broad brush statement which does not tell us where you disagree?

Nevertheless, one also may ask whether you may be cutting off the conversation because you really can’t back it up, or that you want the person to agree with you without support or evidence of your statement.
You would need to go back and see what was said. I said I had learned certain things from Catholic theologians and relgious. The claim was that if I studied Catholic theology I could not leave the Church therefore I must be untruthful. I consider that bizarre reasoning to say the least. I have no duty to prove this, and cannot absent sending my school records which is silly. If the person disagrees with my conclusions, that is one thing, but to essential claim I am being untruthful makes further discussion meaningless and illogical. As I said, you must go back and read the entire corpus of this person’s remarks.

It is not a matter of believeing or agreeing with my conclusion, but that I in fact learned such things.
 
There are no fine Catholic scholars who deny apostolic succession.
That of course is your opinion, and you are welcome to it, but of course that doesn’t really mean much to the world beyond your doorstep does it?

Does this mean that you have never run across such information? If this is the case, I guess I would ask myself, am I afraid to inquire? Reading only what is “approved” especially by the jury here, can be quite limiting in determining truth. Truth can stand the inquiry I assure you. Many here, I understand only read what is “orthodox” from their standard, however they define it.
 
Thanks, MDK, for helping to make this forum possible.

Have you read that very interesting book by a fellow aeronautical engineer J.W. Dunne? It is called an *Experiement with Time. * Also one of my favorite books on metaphysics is by an electrical engineer. Who says engineers don’t have imagination? Hooey!

I agree very much with your signature quote. I think that it explains much. We have some idea of how wildly varied even fresh eyewitness accounts of an event can be. I think that that is why, though many will agree with you about “the full truth” and being perfect as the Father, there will inevitably be some differences as to what constitutes accepting those and what they are in practice an meaning.

Some will certainly agree that what you say is completely valid within the belief system of Catholicism. But they will also question its prima facia truth, especially from a cradle Catholic. There is, from the standoint of scholarship, much to recommend this stance, not so much in historicity, but in meaning. I personally belive that the whole historicity question, fascinating as it is, is a red herring.

What I’m saying is that, from a non-Catholic perspective, your post appears to be mixing apples and organges in that it equates–from the outside–validity with truth.

I know from experience that the argument for Catholicism is unassailable if you accept the premises and exegisis presented by the Church. I submit, however, that for an argument or cognative line to be universally acceptable, as are the formulas you use in your aeronautical calculations, they must be as true as they are valid in the eyes of a non-Catholic. Lift, drag, thrust and weight don’t know religion. They simply* are*. That is experience.

Catholicism, despite its internal logic as a religion, is a personally accepted belief. You din’t know you were a Catholic until someone told you. You didn’t need to be told that you are. Belief is a grown up word for “lets pretend” and is necessariy so because it refers to, i the case of the thread, an internal experience based on arguable historicity and interpretation. If this weren’t so, we would not need the forum that you have so generously supported. Also, if you speak a foreign language, you know this experientially. You know that “Idem non idem.”

A case in point is what RA Heinlein said about the word “I.” He said that in English “only the first person singular is true to fact.” Simply knowing even that, and knowing that in the time of Jesus those very foreign languages had a three tiered (at least) language of parables, some at least would have some valid (lol!) questions about orthodox interpretations, even of origins.
It is pleasant to have someone put into words so well what I have been trying unsuccessfully to say!
 
Would you have a source for this belief ?
I would Mary, but they would include any number of books on theology and biblical exegesis written by folks I doubt you would accept as valid. I am merely stating the general belief of most biblical experts today. There is no perfect statement of that. Again, I learned some of it from a Christology class at a Catholic College, taught by a priest and a Domican sister. Both had degrees in theology of the systematic variety, from Brussels. I suppose I could try to look through some of my old textbooks, if it would in fact be a factor in your decision to accept it or not. I suspect it would not. I’m not sure this is part of our conversation. We fairly got off on a bit of a tangent in our discussion.
 
Actually, the perfect way to end a discussion is to walk away, satisfied in the knowledge you have…

And nevertheless, this was not the full meaning of the post.

Simply stated, the post meant that neither you nor I determine what the truth is. We seek and accept the truth, holding it as precious, desiring more fullness of Truth. Since Christ asks us to be perfect, as the Father is perfect, settling for less than the fullest truth we can have is setting the sight too low. We must keep searching and learning in order to learn more about the truth. For instance, it’s not being obedient to Christ to reject even one of His teachings, or to interpret in the way we would prefer. We keep seeking the truth to make it more full in our lives, no matter if we have 10 PhD’s and go to mass twice a day, every day.

I apologize, as I thought the original post was fairly straight forward.
You fairly said that I was plainly wrong. What you have said in this post I agree with, and I do my best to do exactly as you have written. I have read widely in a large number of spiritual areas, and I have learned from them all. All contribute in some way to my fuller understanding of God and what I believe he desires for us. I reject no teachings of Jesus that I am aware of. But of course, as you must agree, it depends on what is being interpreted and by whom. Faith is forever a learning process, and must never stop I hope.

As long as you understand that you cannot make bald statements of fact about matters of faith, we have no difficulty. When you tell me I am flat wrong, then you have moved into your personal opinion, of which I do not share, and we can end the matter.

This in a nutshell is what so many of us dislike. The claim that we are simply unable or unwilling to accept the truth. We simply have a different understanding of what that is. It is respectful to acknowledge that and simply say “I believe differently, and here’s why.” To say someone else is wrong on a matter of faith is to add rancor to the mix, and you cannot by any means prove your point to a disinterested party.

Are you seeing the difference?
 
That of course is your opinion, and you are welcome to it, but of course that doesn’t really mean much to the world beyond your doorstep does it?

Does this mean that you have never run across such information? If this is the case, I guess I would ask myself, am I afraid to inquire? Reading only what is “approved” especially by the jury here, can be quite limiting in determining truth. Truth can stand the inquiry I assure you. Many here, I understand only read what is “orthodox” from their standard, however they define it.
Of course I have run across such claims, from heretics attempting to justify their heterodoxy. The writings of the Church Fathers and the historical record refutes your claims and reasons for separating yourself from the Church. Historical revisionism isn’t going to change that fact.
 
You would need to go back and see what was said. I said I had learned certain things from Catholic theologians and relgious. The claim was that if I studied Catholic theology I could not leave the Church therefore I must be untruthful. I consider that bizarre reasoning to say the least. I have no duty to prove this, and cannot absent sending my school records which is silly. If the person disagrees with my conclusions, that is one thing, but to essential claim I am being untruthful makes further discussion meaningless and illogical. As I said, you must go back and read the entire corpus of this person’s remarks.

It is not a matter of believeing or agreeing with my conclusion, but that I in fact learned such things.
That’s nice that you have learned from Catholic theologians, but that has no bearing on what I said. I understood what the claim was, but was not saying to same thing. If you could please look at the individual, and consider what I said, it would be appreciated. Please don’t take this to mean something it did not. What I said was very simple in that because someone tells you they don’t believe you, does not equate to you being a liar, unless you accept the standard that the other person has all knowledge and has made a final conclusion. Otherwise, there is more discussion… if you want.

One difficulty I’ve seen too often is that Catholics get far too much “credit” for being rude, when often perceptions add rudeness where there is none.
 
It is pleasant to have someone put into words so well what I have been trying unsuccessfully to say!
It was interesting, but, it made far too many assumptions of my post, that were in fact incorrect.

There was a satement of faith, followed by a truth, and opinion, and recommendation. None of which seemed out of place, nor should it surprise anyone considering the context.
 
You fairly said that I was plainly wrong. What you have said in this post I agree with, and I do my best to do exactly as you have written. I have read widely in a large number of spiritual areas, and I have learned from them all. All contribute in some way to my fuller understanding of God and what I believe he desires for us. I reject no teachings of Jesus that I am aware of. But of course, as you must agree, it depends on what is being interpreted and by whom. Faith is forever a learning process, and must never stop I hope.

As long as you understand that you cannot make bald statements of fact about matters of faith, we have no difficulty. When you tell me I am flat wrong, then you have moved into your personal opinion, of which I do not share, and we can end the matter.

This in a nutshell is what so many of us dislike. The claim that we are simply unable or unwilling to accept the truth. We simply have a different understanding of what that is. It is respectful to acknowledge that and simply say “I believe differently, and here’s why.” To say someone else is wrong on a matter of faith is to add rancor to the mix, and you cannot by any means prove your point to a disinterested party.

Are you seeing the difference?
My statement of faith was different than yours. However, I asked that we both keep learning since the truth is bigger than either of us.

It’s plainly obvious, but the real difference appears to be what was intended and what was received. If there is lack of understanding between us even on what was meant, then what kind of discussion do we really have?

Let me state it a little more clearly, as the wording previously could have allowed unintended interpretation. There is no difference below from what was intended in my initial post on this… just more explanatory notes and clearer wording due to apparent misinterpretation. I provided my statement of faith first in the two sentences, then…

That Peter was assigned as head of the Church (as in whether or not he was) is simply a matter of truth whether we believe or not (truth does not depend on our beliefs).

Of course my belief is that he is, as stated in the initial two sentences, and I have no doubt about this. Of course you believe differently. Since perfection is the standard set by Christ, we need to keep learining and growing to become perfected, but we can’t do this without God, allowing Him to work in us. I believe despite your efforts thus far, you don’t yet know this for some reason. Neither of us can be satisfied with where we are now, and leave it like that, regardless of the amount of work we have put into it thus far. Despite a good imagination, I can’t imagine a scenario where I would find out differently, but if I did find out it was different, I would go adopt the change in my understanding immediately.

Some are unable and unwilling, but normally due to personal roadblocks. Others just haven’t yet. Personally, I believe you are not there yet with Peter, but nevertheless the recommendatin was that since the truth is bigger than both of us, we both keep learning. If I found out I was incorrect, I would adopt the correction immediately.
 
You fairly said that I was plainly wrong. What you have said in this post I agree with, and I do my best to do exactly as you have written. I have read widely in a large number of spiritual areas, and I have learned from them all. All contribute in some way to my fuller understanding of God and what I believe he desires for us. I reject no teachings of Jesus that I am aware of. But of course, as you must agree, it depends on what is being interpreted and by whom. Faith is forever a learning process, and must never stop I hope.

As long as you understand that you cannot make bald statements of fact about matters of faith, we have no difficulty. When you tell me I am flat wrong, then you have moved into your personal opinion, of which I do not share, and we can end the matter.

This in a nutshell is what so many of us dislike. The claim that we are simply unable or unwilling to accept the truth. We simply have a different understanding of what that is. It is respectful to acknowledge that and simply say “I believe differently, and here’s why.” To say someone else is wrong on a matter of faith is to add rancor to the mix, and you cannot by any means prove your point to a disinterested party.

Are you seeing the difference?
What you’ve detailed above makes sense to me.

Perhaps the reason difficulties are encountered is because the apologists sometimes fall into the trap of supposing that they can “prove” the truth of that which they hold dear?

I don’t think such a thing is possible simply because people bring different presuppositions to the debate. If one presupposes that the Catholic Church contains the fullness of truth because it claims to be One, Holy, Catholic and Apostolic, then one is obviously going to process every single fact, challenge, suggestion, assertion, rumor and accusation through that filter. However, somebody who is not convinced by the truth claims of the Catholic Church is going to think along very different lines and therefore come to a very different conclusion.

A worthy example to consider might be the doctrine of papal infallibility promulgated in 1870 by Vatican I. The duty of all Catholics is to trust and obey the Magisterium of the Catholic Church. So once this doctrine was proclaimed by the Catholic Church the question was settled for every Catholic.

But for somebody who has a worldview that does not recognize the Catholic Church as having the authority that it claims for itself Catholic teaching is open to question. That’s the central point. So when the Catholic apologists argue the case for papal infallibility – especially the kind of apologist that thinks his or her task is to “prove” the case – we that are not Catholic simply don’t get it. The argument sounds like somebody who says, “I claim to be telling the truth therefore I must be telling the truth.”

That routine seems to carry forward into every area. So, if somebody who is not a Catholic raises an objection to a Catholic tenet the inevitable references to the Church Fathers soon come tumbling out (which “prove” the Catholic case), followed by accusations of heresy. But the case is only “proved” in the minds of Catholics. That’s because they start out holding the assumption that the case is already settled and any dissent must therefore be purposeful and stubborn refusal to accept what is true.

I haven’t had any Catholic call me a heretic yet but perhaps I’ve shown enough dissent on this occasion to warrant it?🙂

Rebelliously,
Mick
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What you’ve detailed above makes sense to me…
It does make some sense, but doesn’t specifically address the original intention. I could see how the misunderstanding could have occurred, and hopefully it is better understood after additional explanation.
 
It’s called being human.
No I call it hypocracy when someone professes to belong to the one true church established by christ, implies they adhere to all its teachings, and yet support women to have abortions, support the womans right to chose in this matter, and have had abortions themselves. Looking no further than my own relatives, I call it hypocracy when someone close to me waits for their mother to go to work so her boyfriend can come over and they can have sex, using contraception obviously, as we wouldnt want a catholic scandal would we, and then makes a big display of going to church on a sunday and receiving the Holy Eucharist.
Living your life as you want then going to church on a sunday is hypocracy, plain and simple.
I have no problem with them doing that - just lets not pretend theyre catholics. Or any other denomination you care to name if theyre not adhering to the teachings of that faith.
Why cant they just be honest and say Im not a catholic/protestant/whatever. The need to belong to a church cannot mean that much to them since they dont want to obey the rules. So why bother.
 
What you’ve detailed above makes sense to me.

Perhaps the reason difficulties are encountered is because the apologists sometimes fall into the trap of supposing that they can “prove” the truth of that which they hold dear?

I don’t think such a thing is possible simply because people bring different presuppositions to the debate. If one presupposes that the Catholic Church contains the fullness of truth because it claims to be One, Holy, Catholic and Apostolic, then one is obviously going to process every single fact, challenge, suggestion, assertion, rumor and accusation through that filter. However, somebody who is not convinced by the truth claims of the Catholic Church is going to think along very different lines and therefore come to a very different conclusion.

A worthy example to consider might be the doctrine of papal infallibility promulgated in 1870 by Vatican I. The duty of all Catholics is to trust and obey the Magisterium of the Catholic Church. So once this doctrine was proclaimed by the Catholic Church the question was settled for every Catholic.

But for somebody who has a worldview that does not recognize the Catholic Church as having the authority that it claims for itself Catholic teaching is open to question. That’s the central point. So when the Catholic apologists argue the case for papal infallibility – especially the kind of apologist that thinks his or her task is to “prove” the case – we that are not Catholic simply don’t get it. The argument sounds like somebody who says, “I claim to be telling the truth therefore I must be telling the truth.”

That routine seems to carry forward into every area. So, if somebody who is not a Catholic raises an objection to a Catholic tenet the inevitable references to the Church Fathers soon come tumbling out (which “prove” the Catholic case), followed by accusations of heresy. But the case is only “proved” in the minds of Catholics. That’s because they start out holding the assumption that the case is already settled and any dissent must therefore be purposeful and stubborn refusal to accept what is true.

I haven’t had any Catholic call me a heretic yet but perhaps I’ve shown enough dissent on this occasion to warrant it?🙂

Rebelliously,
Mick
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Interesting comments. This could apply to some people as we see evidence, but certainly is limited in scope and leaves out other Catholics from this discussion. We can also place limitations on ourselves by lacking faith, and demanding that what is supernatural be proven to our human minds. In this case, we are deciding what religion is, rather than adhering to it. It’s the Holy Spirit that moves hearts. It would be arrogant and foolish for the Catholic or anyone else to believe they do it completely with their words and explanations.
 
Thanks, MDK. No, agreement is about the last thing I expect, though it is nice when it happens. On the other hand I happen to agree with your statements highlighted in blue. I don’t see that anything I said,from my standpoint anyway, is contrdictory to those. I see, also, nothing wrong with pretending. Another word for it might be teleology. You try something on the hypothesis that it is the right methodology and see if it works. The problem only comes in when you mistake the pretending for finality, or allow the pretending to block out new information.

I like the word “pretend” because it keeps me in the position of knowing I don’t know. I’m not sure where that might fit in the “faithor flesh” dichotomy you appear to have set up, but I also don’t think that those are the only two ways of knowing, and I would hope that sincere inquiry is included in both “f’s” in your accounting.

To me that means that if I take my Catholic understanding, erase the board, look at ALL the information available, what I come up with will at least take into account the whole system as distinct from a particular religious explanatory system. God is untouched in all of that, and the risk is worth it to me, but maybe not someone else. I know that St Augustine said (I don’t have the exact quote at hand) words to the effect that Christianity was from that beginning of time, and only began to be called that from the time of Jesus. The cognative problem here might be that in your case you are taking the Catholic explanation to be the whole, whereas I take it to be a part, a part that congealed some centuries after the events i question.

Do I believe less in God? Absolutely not. It was my quest for knowing beyond faith that finally settled my conviction of the Love of God into an immovable position in my understanding. That search also concretized the practical basis of morality for me. In fact, those both can come from a different reading of the same words in the Bible someone else might use to refute me. Yet of all the things I ever have done, I am most grateful for the events that led me to question my faith and go on the profound search that has me where I now am.

The fun part of that is that I get to meet engaging individuals such as yourself. This is a great place to chat, and I am happy to be here.
 
I would Mary, but they would include any number of books on theology and biblical exegesis written by folks I doubt you would accept as valid. I am merely stating the general belief of most biblical experts today. There is no perfect statement of that. Again, I learned some of it from a Christology class at a Catholic College, taught by a priest and a Domican sister. Both had degrees in theology of the systematic variety, from Brussels. I suppose I could try to look through some of my old textbooks, if it would in fact be a factor in your decision to accept it or not. I suspect it would not. I’m not sure this is part of our conversation. We fairly got off on a bit of a tangent in our discussion.
Tangent it was but none the less interesting. God Bless.
 
Thanks, MDK. No, agreement is about the last thing I expect, though it is nice when it happens. On the other hand I happen to agree with your statements highlighted in blue. I don’t see that anything I said,from my standpoint anyway, is contrdictory to those. I see, also, nothing wrong with pretending. Another word for it might be teleology. You try something on the hypothesis that it is the right methodology and see if it works. The problem only comes in when you mistake the pretending for finality, or allow the pretending to block out new information.

I like the word “pretend” because it keeps me in the position of knowing I don’t know. I’m not sure where that might fit in the “faithor flesh” dichotomy you appear to have set up, but I also don’t think that those are the only two ways of knowing, and I would hope that sincere inquiry is included in both “f’s” in your accounting.

To me that means that if I take my Catholic understanding, erase the board, look at ALL the information available, what I come up with will at least take into account the whole system as distinct from a particular religious explanatory system. God is untouched in all of that, and the risk is worth it to me, but maybe not someone else. I know that St Augustine said (I don’t have the exact quote at hand) words to the effect that Christianity was from that beginning of time, and only began to be called that from the time of Jesus. The cognative problem here might be that in your case you are taking the Catholic explanation to be the whole, whereas I take it to be a part, a part that congealed some centuries after the events i question.

Do I believe less in God? Absolutely not. It was my quest for knowing beyond faith that finally settled my conviction of the Love of God into an immovable position in my understanding. That search also concretized the practical basis of morality for me. In fact, those both can come from a different reading of the same words in the Bible someone else might use to refute me. Yet of all the things I ever have done, I am most grateful for the events that led me to question my faith and go on the profound search that has me where I now am.

The fun part of that is that I get to meet engaging individuals such as yourself. This is a great place to chat, and I am happy to be here.
Thanks for expressing yourself. It’s interesting. I can’t yet congratulate you on accurately presenting my beliefs, so we’re not really having a straight discussion yet. For instance, I think you mistake great confidence (which didn’t come easily or quickly) for a closed mind. One seeking all possibilities would consider this as well. When discussing Christianity, what natures do we have to discuss other than flesh or spirit? I have to wonder if you have considered what these were intended to mean.

Another problem is that from a previous post, you told me that I didn’t know I was Catholic until someone told me. That is a little off base as well. Because I was born Catholic, you assume all these things? It doesn’t automatically follow. After college, I studied many other faith systems, attending services, going to their study sessions, attending other workshops… I still study them, only now I’m better able to see error from errorless. I have been to the Middle East, in Saudi Arabia four months and Dubai three months, and Israel for six months and a lot of study. I have continued to learn about other faith systems to determine if where I was was the place to be. The last thing I desire is a false faith system. There was always something or usually numerous things that disqualified other faith systems. I have found no error with the Catholic faith system, and I have examined it very carefully and put it to the test many times. I still have an open mind, but after much study including being there, I am very confident in where I am is what Christ established. The more I study, the more confident I become. There is more to the story, but I hope you understand the idea.

Can I please ask what drives you to assume there is a cognitave problem? Forgive me, but that does seem a bit rude in nature. From reading what you write, I do not see a decent concept given of how I view the world, yet try to box it in.

Personally, I prefer not using the word pretending for these issues, because it is not the most accurate. I have no trouble keeping this in perspective, and don’t need a word trick to make it happen. We can have axioms, hypothesis, etc. However, simply naming them as they are is fine. The intelligent person is able to keep these straight.

I have not seen good evidence that you really understand what the Catholic Church claims, nor that you understand my view of Catholicism. I detect a touch of intellectual arrogance in your post (I hope it’s really not), but we can really only discuss things in humility. Otherwise, it doesn’t work too well.
 
This is perhaps where we fundamentally disagree. Long before I left the RCC, in fact while I was in process to enter the convent, I studied under various Catholic clergy and religious. It was there that I learned that there was no heirarchy in the Church for some hundreds of years. I don’t believe there was a “Pope” per se for a long time. Much of the “church” statements in the NT are later interpolations added after the fact, not by the original writers. So I believe at any event.

As to what Paul would have wanted, I suspect that is fairly irrelevant. As to Jesus, I suspect he would care more about whether we are about the business of doing his work rather than arguing about how we are to view the real presence at the Eucharist. If we did spend our time in caring for the poor, and so forth, we might find that in th end, a good deal of the rest of this doesn’t matter all that much.

It’s been a pleasure to hear your views Mary. Thank you.
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That of course is your opinion, and you are welcome to it, but of course that doesn’t really mean much to the world beyond your doorstep does it?

Does this mean that you have never run across such information? If this is the case, I guess I would ask myself, am I afraid to inquire? Reading only what is “approved” especially by the jury here, can be quite limiting in determining truth. Truth can stand the inquiry I assure you. Many here, I understand only read what is “orthodox” from their standard, however they define it.
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Please ask me the same questions, I guarantee you you’ll get different answers. You call it hypocrisy I call it lack of knowledge.
My relative to whom I refered in another post does not have lack of knowledge. She is fully aware that having sex outside of marriage is a sin and against the churches teachings. She is fully aware that using contraception is against catholic church teaching. She and her boyfriend decided to go against that teaching, deliberately, for reasons of pleasure, gratification and intimacy. They went to church every sunday, received the Holy Eucharist, and carried on as they were. When they saved up enough money, they bought their house and moved in together. 2 years later they got married. In a catholic church.

Thats not lack of knowlege. Thats hypocracy.
 
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