First, it’s discouraging to listen to your story. I am tired of hearing about priests giving advice which goes against the Catholic faith.
Second, there are many things you are not being obedient to Jesus about.
If this priest is real, he is very liberal and acting without approval from his Bishop.
I’ve shared the Catholic faith with you. You just don’t agree with it. That’s why you are in need of Reconciliation, and not just “it would be nice if you did”.
But I’ve said what I needed to say.
I reject your spirit, yet will say a prayer for your conversion from this false spirit. Peace