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mandy2
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Hello Everybody! I am 18, just about to graduate and I have always had a desire to be married. Back then it was mainly because everyone else got married but now i am seeing the true beauty of it. So to start off I have an amazing boyfriend who I met at church and we share a huge love for God! We pray together, attend mass, confession, and adoration together, we also both help out with a middle school youth group at church. Ever since we started dating we made a pact to love eachother as brothers and sisters in Christ and use our relationship to love and serve God. Recently I recieved a message from a boy i know who is in the seminary asking “Have you ever considered the religious life”. I thought this was a very random message so i thought “was that a sign?” But I have come to find out he asks almost everybody who goes to church that question! After that it was still bothering me. I kept hearing the word “nun” in my head. So i have been praying a lot about it, talking to people in my family and church and this discernment has led to a two week anxiety attack. I was not able to sleep or eat because i physically could not. I was not my bubbly and loving self. I also let my grades hit rock bottom. I was not living! So many people I have spoke to have said maybe God is calling you to something! But you are thinking to broad. He may be asking you to be a Eucharistic Minister or even look into Missionary work. Doing these things you can serve God and be married. My desires are to grow up, get married, be a teacher, maybe do some catechism teaching, and look into missions. I just want to make sure these are not just my desires but God’s desires for me. Will God give me a desire to do what he is calling me to do? Comments are much appreciated! Thank you and God bless <3
You can tell just by her post that she is going to whatever God wants her to do. So do you really think that she would get married just for the pleasure and not to have kids? In my opinion, you were just trying to act like a know it all and point something out that she didn’t type but was obviously meant in her post. If you weren’t I’m sorry, but that is how that comment came across to me at least and probably to a lot of other people as well. Again if that was not your intent then I apologize, but just make sure you say it a little nicer next time so you don’t come across this way. 
It is when i think of me, myself joining the religious life that is when I am filled with anxiety. I know that my boyfriend wants to lead me to Christ in our relationship and I know we are still young but if all did work out, marriage is a huge possiblity for us. I just wish I knew why I keep hearing the word “nun” or “religious life” in my head. Then again I hear the same with “married life” or “mother”. Also I know God opens doors. So I do feel that God would open a door and give me the desire if I were to become a nun. But then I realize God has opened a door to a good holy relationship with my boyfriend. Thanks for all the help!