Does God not love me?

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Lately, especially over the past few years I’ve been feeling more and more like God doesn’t love me anymore. I hate being alive(though I’m not suicidal). I cannot find any happiness in anything because much of what made me happy I have lost, including my Christian friends, ability to attend Church services, and participate in ministry.(It’s kinda of complicated to describe how I lost all of this stuff, so I’ll leave it at that). I feel so alone in my faith. I try so hard to change my situations as well as pray but it feels like God doesn’t care about my happiness.
 
“Jesus is with you even when you don’t feel His presence. He is never so close to you as He is during your spiritual battles. He is always there, close to you, encouraging you to fight your battle courageously. He is there to ward off the enemy’s blows so that you may not be hurt.” — St. Padre Pio
 
Well, you came to the right place. Perhaps interacting with the people here will help you feel less lonely. I don’t want you to fall into self-pity. The primary purpose of your life is not to be happy-- the purpose is to glorify God. If you worship Him, you’re fulfilling that purpose and the love of God will overcome you. I know you’re having a difficult time, but I believe that God will get you through it.

Never stop praying. Go to HIm and tell Him everything that’s on your mind and He will comfort you. I know He’ll do it for you because He has done it for many people (including me).
 
I know this is a serious post from you, but when you say “ I hate being alive “ - I had to smile 😛

Your in a tough spot being without a Catholic friend.
You got seagull though…but I know what you mean.
Something beautiful and warm about having fellow Catholic friends.

And going to mass.
That’s a number one priority.
I hope you can find a way around this… .

For me, it was like a tug of war - with God
Receiving consolation - and then having it taken away -
That’s the relationship of the Holy Spirit -
 
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I’m sorry to hear you’re feeling this way. I have to say I love your name here, Joyful, so try to remember why you selected that name. God loves you and he never can stop loving you. This forum is full of folks who love you and pray for you. Does anyone from your church ever visit or call? I love listening to Catholic radio during the day - it always encourages me.
 
Sounds as if you’re in the midst of a “Job” experience.
drac 16 has great advice.

“Behold this Heart, which has loved men so much, that it has
spared nothing, even to exhausting & consuming itself, to testify to them of its love!”
 
Like you said, Catholics need Catholic friends. And both of you being devout Catholics, especially. When you’re without them ,it’s really alientating.
 
good advice. the advice we give here will not understand you fully and may at times seem quite insensitive.
 
Waw. I feel the same at this point in my pathetic life. So alone!

May God hold you tight my friend. I have the same feelings!

I hope to go back to Lourdes in August. Maybe my last.
 
What I’ve heard is that God loves us the most when we’re having a really bad time and we’re all alone. Because then we’re like Jesus in the garden and suffering his passion.

I’m not having a great time lately myself, and sometimes the logic of this is a bit hard to grasp, so I just try to accept it.
 
I have gone through the same thing, and I have been delivered from it through the might Grace of God/Jesus. When God removes things from your life, it is frequently done to remove your dependence on these things / (God substitutes). He is calling you right now to step out of your self based fear/depression, and to turn your eyes to Him, via prayer and getting into the word (look to the Psalms, David went through a similar lonely struggle when he was hiding in caves from king Saul. Check out psalms 103 116 149 139 107.

Life is brutiful, both brutal and beautiful, simultaneously depending on how you look at it in any given moment. I sense you are very lonely as well. I was a total recluse, and it was difficult for any encouragement as such to help until I sought the fellowship of other believers. You have not lost the ability to attend Church services, that is simply not true. I am a Christian, and I am your friend, feel free to reach out anytime. I am in recovery and attend AA meetings, and have great fellowship with the believers in that program too. These programs can be helpful if you feel like Christians don’t understand you, because of a specific sin.

Remember, that God love is constant, and he loves you right now, with the same love that He loves me, i.e. as much as He is able. You need to get out of yourself. Ego is not just pride, it can also be depression or self based fear. Let it go, right now, and turn to God, and give Him thanks for your trials and His forgiveness, and ask Him to lead you into fellowship with other believer. Love always, Peter, a servant of the Lord.
 
Please take time to reflect on a Romans 8. Nothing can separate us from the love of God - not problem, not depression, not loneliness, not mood swing, not sickness, no angels, or anything under the world or above, not even death, nothing, nothing at all can separate us from the love of God.

You know why? Because Jesus has risen from the dead. He is alive and He loves us, continuously, whether we feel it or not, but He never stops loving us and He is with us until the end of time.

God bless you.
 
I struggle with the same feelings. I’m getting spritual direction from my pastor and I’m finding it very helpful. I know what a terrible feeling this is. I urge to you please seek to also get direction from your pastor.
 
I’m not super good with this type of advice, but here goes. The fact that you feel unloved by our most loving Father, is simply a lie that satan is telling you. I’ll keep you in my prayers, I know how challenging it can be. God bless. :pray:t3:
 
I like the poster that I put up on the wall in my younger days as I was renewed in the Lord.

It says,

'I ASKED THE LORD HOW MUCH HE LOVED ME. HE SAID, “THIS MUCH,” AND HE STRETCHED OUT HIS HANDS AND DIED.
 
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Sounds like you’re depressed imo, or it could be spiritual dryness… Have you seen a professional? Talking to somebody might help.
 
thank you. and no I relocated and was being forced to go to a church where theres no one in my age group, mostly elderly or families with small children. no one between 20-30. my family doesnt like me joining groups with people my age so i try to see friends or aquaintances once every few months. i also live in a very liberal/anti-religion area so theres no real Christians at my work. they all make jokes about priests being pedophiles or mock saints. its like that everywhere in this area. im trying to move away but its a long process im in the middle of. sometimes i feel so spiritually drained.
 
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