Does God still love me?

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So this is the deal. I struggle with a lot of issues and one of these issues has been haunting me for a while. A few months ago I began to have horrible thoughts that were pedophilic and I’m scared that I could be a pedo. I struggle with homosexuality also so this is just terrible. What happens if these thoughts are true? I don’t want to be like this. I know this is a taboo topic and I know this is horrendous but I just want to know.

Does God still love me?
 
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Joe1 said:
So this is the deal. I struggle with a lot of issues and one of these issues has been haunting me for a while. A few months ago I began to have horrible thoughts that were pedophilic and I’m scared that I could be a pedo. I know this is a taboo topic and I know this is horrendous but I just want to know.

Does God still love me?
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You’re only 16. I would suggest you talk to a guidance counselor or ask your parents to take you to a therepist. Hormones do wonky things.
 
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You’re only 16. I would suggest you talk to a guidance counselor or ask your parents to take you to a therepist. Hormones do wonky things.
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I guess so. I want to go to a therapist but what happens if they want to drug me? Or tell me I’m some horrible predator? I don’t want to hurt a child. But I guess I should still go and see what he/she (therapist) says
 
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Xanthippe_Voorhees:
You’re only 16. I would suggest you talk to a guidance counselor or ask your parents to take you to a therepist. Hormones do wonky things.
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I guess so. I want to go to a therapist but what happens if they want to drug me? Or tell me I’m some horrible predator? I don’t want to hurt a child. But I guess I should still go and see what he/she (therapist) says
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“Drugs” are not your enemy if you are dealing with a mental illness. You can ask that any drugs be safe for teens, but they might help.

It is unlikely a therapist would label you. It doesn’t work that way. If they find evidence of a greater issue, it’s better you handle it at 16 then at 26, or 36 or 66.
 
Satan attacks everyone regardless, with everything he can. People have all sorts of horrible thoughts, all the time. If the thoughts haunt you, you know deep inside that the thoughts were wrong.

Although…
Wether you need counselling/medicine or not, I wouldn’t know…
What I know is that God loves you regardless
If you feel in distress, remember to ask for his help, he never deceives.

Go to confession, go to mass, refrain from activities that could trigger such thoughts, etc
I think you’ll be just fine.

God bless
 
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Xanthippe_Voorhees:
“Drugs” are not your enemy if you are dealing with a mental illness
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I guess so. But I want to be able to function and not act like a drugged zombie. That’s my only fear
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That isn’t a given. When you work with a psychiatrist you develop a relationship and figure out your tolerances for drugs.

To ensure this is not medical advice on your situation let me give you an relatable example.

There are many drugs that help people with type 1 diabetes due to pancreatic insufficiency. Not every drug works for every person. Some may feel tired even though their blood sugar is fine. Some might tolerate a drug but have it not really work well in the body, so the doctor runs a test on A1C. Sometimes the patient ages and things changes or looses or gains weight and it changes. It’s a process and a good doctor will work with their patients every step of the way.
 
I see your point. It’s uncertain which is understandable with regards to the effects of drugs. I just hope I’m not attracted to children
 
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I see your point. It’s uncertain which is understandable with regards to the effects of drugs. I just hope I’m not attracted to children
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Joe, you’re 16. Any issue you have can be delt with professionally. You are VERY, VERY young yourself.
 
Whatever the case, God will always love you. Presently, everything in popular media over sexualizes everything.

When you say you might be pedo, you might actually just find small kids attractive. And you should! Little kids are so cute you can actually see God’s love in them. What’s wrong is when your attraction becomes a sexual one.

Now, even if that is the case, you still have God’s grace to resist acting on these disordered attractions. Keep on praying, brother.
 
To answer your question; yes! God very much still loves you.

An irrefutable fact infact. Because he is incapable of the opposite.

You seem aware that this alone however does not lead to complacency? Or the freedom to act as you so wish.

God cannot abide sin. Which includes the unlawful harm of minors or pursuing them in contrast to governance/man’s law.

It takes a lot of courage to be honest, and the start of a road to being able to control your compulsions. We all have them, albeit often different from yours.

So don’t feel alone. Be truthful and that above all will guide you to the help you seek 🙂
 
No matter what, “YES, GOD STILL LOVES YOU.”

Now, a professional therapist may be able to help you with the pedophile thoughts but not with the same-sex feelings because the professional establishment does not consider them abnormal. For those I would suggest you visit the Courage website, couragerc.org, for on-line resources and to see if they have any resources for you in Canada.

You will be in my prayers.
 
It sounds to me like you may be experiencing intrusive thoughts. This can be a part of obsessive thinking and scrupulosity.

Thoughts enter our minds. These aren’t thoughts we will. These aren’t thoughts we want. They just come into our mind. For people who struggle with intrusive thoughts they can mistakenly think they cause these thoughts and then obsess over them. If this is what happens with you then I’d definitely recommend psychological and spiritual counseling. You want to learn to deal with these and not feed them.

I’d say if the thought repulses you that is a good indicator that the thought is one of those unwelcome, uncaused thoughts. So if you had a pedophilic thought enter your mind and it disgusted you that is a good sign you aren’t a pedophile.

As to your question, God will love you regardless. God doesn’t love us only if we are good.
 
Joe, you may have got yourself into a way of thinking by focussing too much on the fear. If there weren’t so much focus on pedophiles these days you would possibly just think you love children in the normal way that many people also do.
May God guide you in seeking help, and in practical ways of overcoming any unhealthy fixation.
God bless you
 
I knew the answer to the title of your post before I even read your post,

YES God will always, always love you! ✝️

A therapist would definitely help you work through these feelings, especially if you find a Catholic therapist.

I’ll be praying for you @joe1 :pray:t3:
 
Don’t panic. You are not the only one who has had those kinds of thoughts. I’ve had some weird kinks/attractions toward people of the wrong ages, related to my homosexuality. I imagine its common. If I changed my mind, and decided to act on all of my sexual interests, that would be BAD. I don’t even want to think about it. just saying, We are all human, we are affected by original sin, we all have horrible things we might feel a pull too. Particularily I had this infantilism/man-boy incest thing going on. It’s not really a problem anymore, at least that particular one, but it was there. You might benefit from examining your chilhood for traumatic memories(traumatic for a child). That’s what I did. I realized that there were some points as a toddler that marked a traumatic end of an intimate relationship with my father. That’s why I couldn’t keep my mind off the days before that, because when I was younger I got more attention, before I lost most of it. Since it was such an obsessive memory its something that was tempting to sexualize out of fear, or make an escapist fantasy(which could be sexuallized). When you can look back and feel the pain, instead of the shame, it can heal. When I was able to identify specific memories that were the focus of an obsession, and revisit them from a self compassionate perspective, the feelings lost their obsessive power.
 
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Hey Joe! Thanks for advice. I think there probably was something in my childhood that could have caused this, however I’m not completely sure.
 
God loves you as long as you dont act out on your thoughts . I also think he would still love you even if you did but he would punish you for that, I suggest you seek help, maybe therapy ore talk to a priest, Wish you the best
 
Our sexuality does not define our identity. God loves each one of us as though we were the only person in the entire universe. Can you imagine that?

As long as you don’t act out on it or dwell on it, it won’t matter. Sometimes the devil puts images in our minds as a means to confuse or frighten us and take away our peace. When these thoughts come, focus on Jesus’s passion as Mary relates it in the Revelations of St. Bridget.

I also recommend reading He and I by Gabrielle Bossisi. Venerable Marthe Robin recommended it in her lifetime. Jesus reveals to Gabrielle how He loves each individual soul. It’s beautiful.
 
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God loves you as long as you dont act out on your thoughts . I also think he would still love you even if you did but he would punish you for that, I suggest you seek help, maybe therapy ore talk to a priest,
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Two things:

(1) God’s love is not conditional. His love is there for all the worst sinners, no matter what their sins are.
(2) Joe is 16. Just to give you a bit of perspective.

I think the world would be a better place if more of us were willing to share our fears and seek support, like Joe is.
 
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