Does having pre-marital sex mean I must marry

[TheLittleLady]

Prayers for all.

Because something happened to does not mean it applies universally. You have shared your struggles on this forum in the past, I pray you have found some good counseling.

 

[Titivillus]

Well then let me tell you from experience and my own marriage. My wife filed for divorce today, please pray for me, my wife, and our marriage. We fornicated before we got married, it does 100%, if its not dealt with and forgiven, put a strain on a marriage.

I am sorry to hear of your situation, and I do pray for you, your wife, and your marriage.

Without being argumentative, however: I know people who have broken marriages, and I know people who have been married for decades. Some in each category led lives of licentiousness and some in each did not.

I repeat: I am sorry to hear about your experience, but you cannot generalize from the particular.

 

[Bernoulli]

The problem with fornication is that if you do marry this person you will have problems in your marriage because of the fornication. Memories will be there.

Fornicating with someone and then marrying someone else will probably also cause problems. I would assume that such problems are likely to be more difficult compared to marrying the partner of fornication, other things being similar. In the latter case, there’s still only one partner, after all.

 

[Tis_Bearself]

The problem with fornication is that if you do marry this person you will have problems in your marriage because of the fornication.

This is not the case for every couple out there. It might be a problem and then again it might not.

Fornicating with someone and then marrying someone else will probably also cause problems. I would assume that such problems are likely to be more difficult compared to marrying the partner of fornication, other things being similar. In the latter case, there’s still only one partner, after all.

Same thing I said above. It might be a problem and then again it might not. It depends on the couple and their expectations of each other and what emotional baggage they attach to this. Which in the case of some couples is little or none.

Best to avoid the blanket statements.

 

[MiserereMeiDei]

But you know what I mean.

Yes. Use people for your pleasure and toss them aside when you tire of them or think someone else will give you more pleasure.

 

[McDale721]

I’m fairly involved with the TOB Institute and I’m fairly certain they don’t teach this. I don’t recall Fr. Rippenger being involved there.

 

[MiserereMeiDei]

It’s only nature and nothing higher. It’s not “harsh,” it’s debased and lacks forethought. It is akin to the impulsiveness and selfishness of a child who cannot defer gratification for a greater reward because he’s incapable of thinking of the future.

 

[Niccip]

I just wanted to interject. Since a teenager I have heard and read the studies that being sexually active prior to marriage does increase divorce rates. Read at https//.ifstudies.org. Sin always has consquences, always. God’s laws and commandments are for our protection: psychologically, spiritually, physically, emotionally.

 

[PennyinCanada]

I’m just honest. No one buys a car before test driving it, or a house prior to a thorough tour. I think even God would approve.

Or you could say that if your shopping for a toaster, go to the store and look over them all, check the prices, pick one you like best, and stop at the till before leaving with it. If you walk out without paying for it, you’re a thief.

I’ve heard the ‘no one buys a car before test driving it’ a long ways back. Everybody loves that phrase, and no one likes the toaster analogy. I can see why. We sure do love our ‘free’ stuff.

 

[babochka]

Well then let me tell you from experience and my own marriage. My wife filed for divorce today, please pray for me, my wife, and our marriage. We fornicated before we got married, it does 100%, if its not dealt with and forgiven, put a strain on a marriage.

I am so sorry to hear that. I will pray for you and your marriage.

 

[PennyinCanada]

I am very sorry to hear this. You and your wife will be in our prayers.

 

[Angel_Bradford]

No you do not “have” to marry her, but you do have to abstain from sex until you are married.