Does it get any easier?

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I lost my mom to cancer back in February.

I thought I was doing pretty good over the months but pretty much everyday for the last month or so I have a moment that I just totally break down.

Does it get easier as time goes on? Her birthday is coming up next month and I really worry about my dad.

Please I humbly ask for your prayers for my family.
 
I’m so sorry for your loss. In my own experience I’ve lost both parents and my beloved sister just this year. I can tell you it will get easier, everyone is different, but after a period the stab of sharp grief will begin to dull. You’ll no longer break down, but maybe get teary eyed. That’s where I’m at with my sister.

However, with my parents it was very tough, we were very close. Now I think of them with happy thoughts and not sadness. You come to realize that this is the way things are meant to be. Plus you look forward to seeing them in heaven.

I’m keeping you in my prayers.

Theresa
 
Thank you.

Today has been a rough day so far. Have no idea why.
 
I know, anyone who has lost someone dear can relate to these random crummy days that pop up for no reason.
 
My mom has been pleading with me for years to lose weight and I always said yes mom I will.

The day before she passed I grabbed her hand and told her I would promise to lose weight. She passed on February 5th 2013 and as of today I have lost 60 Ibs. It makes me smile and feel good knowing that I am this for my mom and for my family. 🙂

Thank you for everyone’s prayers.
 
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My mom has been pleading with me for years to lose weight and I always said yes mom I will.

The day before she passed I grabbed her hand and told her I would promise to lose weight. She passed on February 5th 2013 and as of today I have lost 60 Ibs. It makes me smile and feel good knowing that I am this for my mom and for my family. 🙂

Thank you for everyone’s prayers.
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It DOES get easier. But it never goes away. My dad died in 1974, and I still have moments of tears that seem to pop up randomly. They just get more infrequent as time goes by.
 
1st year is always the hardest because of all the 1st time withouts in it.

This is a very sacred time.
 
I have been told the first year is the hardest and so far it’s so true.

My mom and dad would have celebrated their 52nd anniversary in June and my mom birthday is next month.

It just seems like in the last few months I have a moment during the day where I just break down for a few moments.
 
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I** have been told the first year is the hardest and so far it’s so true.**

My mom and dad would have celebrated their 52nd anniversary in June and my mom birthday is next month.

It just seems like in the last few months I have a moment during the day where I just break down for a few moments.
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This is quite normal, especially during the first year. My mom will be deceased five years this December 26th, and still have moments when I cry.
 
Today has been one of those heart ache days…

I’m just setting here on the computer listening to music and bam I’m crying.

She will be missed.
 
Rosco331 said:
Today has been one of those heart ache days…

I’m just setting here on the computer listening to music and bam I’m crying.

She will be missed.
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THese are times when you have to stay close to Jesus, he is the only one that can really help you with this pain. I had no one to help me when my mother died, except Him. The was the one that got me through the funeral, etc. I could not have made it, alone, without his care. Stay close to Him.

I will certainly keep you in my prayers.
 
Yes, it does get easier, but the emptiness never fully goes away. You will remember that person at times that were special to you. Smile and rejoice at those times because you had those times with that person.

Also, rejoice in knowing that person is no longer suffering in this world, but instead are in Heaven with our Lord.

I know this because when I “died” in August 2010, I was in a coma and went to Heaven. I was enveloped in the purest, whitest light one could ever imagine. I felt nothing but the greatest peace, love, and joy from God. God spoke to me and told me that it was not my time because He still has work for me to do. Then I saw my husband, and he told me that I had to go back, but he would be waiting there for me. I didn’t want to come back, and I can’t wait to get back there.

Now, I want people at my funeral to rejoice and be happy that my journey of suffering and pain is over, and that I am in eternal health, peace, and joy with those I have loved, and with God who has loved me.

Yes, your heart will feel sadness and emptiness because that is a natural human emotion. Let your spiritual self rejoice and be thankful that they are with God for all eternity.

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I’m so sorry for the loss of your mother. Yes. It does get easier with time. I promise. I lost my mother when I was sixteen and my entire world fell apart but I survived and you will too. Please go and sit in an Adoration Chapel with Jesus as often as you can. It will bring comfort and calmness to your body and soul.

God Bless You! 😉
 
Rosco, I’m so sorry. I lost my mother in August 2012. I don’t know that it does get easier. I have some days that aren’t that so bad, but then I have days where I feel like I can’t get out of bed or I just end up on the floor weeping. From what I’ve been told, grief can follow a zig zag pattern, kind of like a lightning bolt - sometimes it’s up, and sometimes it’s down. I don’t know what “normal” is when it comes to grief, but from my experience what you are going through is “normal” (if that makes any sense).

My prayers are with you.
 
Rosco331 said:
I lost my mom to cancer back in February.

I thought I was doing pretty good over the months but pretty much everyday for the last month or so I have a moment that I just totally break down.

Does it get easier as time goes on? Her birthday is coming up next month and I really worry about my dad.

Please I humbly ask for your prayers for my family.
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I see I am sorry you feel that way and I am sorry about your mom. One of my best friends mom passed away this month due to breast cancer. I don’t know how it feels though I know as time passes it will hurt less.
 
Rosco331 said:
I have been told the first year is the hardest and so far it’s so true.

My mom and dad would have celebrated their 52nd anniversary in June and my mom birthday is next month.

It just seems like in the last few months I have a moment during the day where I just break down for a few moments.
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I lost my mom in the beginning of 2011 and my dad at the end of 2011.

My first response to your question, is no. It hasn’t seemed to.

But yes, I guess it does.

I still cry. I still miss them both, a lot.

I don’t cry every day, anymore. But I do cry every week. Most of the time, I will remember something that one of them used to do. Or I hear one of their favorite songs. Or, I hear a song at Mass that was part of their funeral. So, I no longer cry at the drop of a hat, but there are still many tears.
 
Hail Mary, full of Grace,
The Lord is With thee,
Blessed art thou amongst women,
and Blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary, Mother of God,
Pray for us sinners, now,
and at the hour of Our Death.
Amen
 
Rosco331 said:
Does it get easier as time goes on? Her birthday is coming up next month and I really worry about my dad.
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I lost my mother 36 years ago, I wasn’t too old, but sometimes I recall some of the things she used to tell me and I find myself smiling as if she were beside me. It does get easier, but It still only feels like yesterday. Hold on to Jesus, to His Blessed mother, to the Sacraments of the Church, we shall meet our loved ones again some day, they only got an earlier train, use this time to pray for them & ask her to pray for you !
 
I also lost my mom this year in March. At first it was like she was away and would be back. Then I realized she won’t. I pray to her everyday. My family is doing good. I call my sister when its a bad day. It’s been 6 months and it does get better, but she is dearly missed. Especially when I need advice for my own family. I watch for signs and I know she hears me and is with me. I take comfort knowing she is in a better place. God Bless and take care!
 
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