Does it get any easier?

[Michael57]

Praying for you and your family in your loss…

Hail Mary, Full of Grace, the Lord is with thee. Blessed art thou amongst women, and blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus.

Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners now and at the hour of our death.

Amen

 

[ClearWater]

I suspect that it will. Still, one idea would be to have a mass said on anniversaries…of the death…birthday, etc. That would be the BEST gift anyone could give, anyway!

 

[ClearWater]

For Catholics in my life who are hard to buy for, or who already have everything, I have sometimes offered masses. Many have told me they appreciated this. Since, I just lost my father, one of my friends said she’d offer a mass for his soul, and I told her that was the best gift she also could have given me at this point, as well!

 

[TK421]

I’m so sorry dove

Hail Mary,
Full of Grace,
The Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women,
and blessed is the fruit
of thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary,
Mother of God,
pray for us sinners now,
and at the hour of death.

Amen. :hug1:

 

[Rosco331]

Thank you I will do that.

I’m so sorry for the loss of your mother. Yes. It does get easier with time. I promise. I lost my mother when I was sixteen and my entire world fell apart but I survived and you will too. Please go and sit in an Adoration Chapel with Jesus as often as you can. It will bring comfort and calmness to your body and soul.

God Bless You!

 

[Rosco331]

The days and weeks following my moms passing was very difficult. A few months went by and I had more good days then bad and I started to feel guilty that it wasn’t affecting me. But these last few months I would be listening to a song and just start crying.

Rosco, I’m so sorry. I lost my mother in August 2012. I don’t know that it does get easier. I have some days that aren’t that so bad, but then I have days where I feel like I can’t get out of bed or I just end up on the floor weeping. From what I’ve been told, grief can follow a zig zag pattern, kind of like a lightning bolt - sometimes it’s up, and sometimes it’s down. I don’t know what “normal” is when it comes to grief, but from my experience what you are going through is “normal” (if that makes any sense).

My prayers are with you.

 

[Rosco331]

I’m so sorry about your mom.

Her birthday is on the 2nd of October and 8 months on the 5th of her passing.

I have good and bad days. I too feel like oh she will be back but when I call to my parents house and my dad answers with sadness in his voice makes me feel horrible that he lives alone and I’m 3 hours away.

My mom had ovarian cancer that went into her liver. I felt like **** knowing how selfish I was begging and praying for her to stay with us and knowing how much pain she was in. She fought as much as she could and now is returned home to be with Jesus…

I miss her dearly but their was so many good times.

I also lost my mom this year in March. At first it was like she was away and would be back. Then I realized she won’t. I pray to her everyday. My family is doing good. I call my sister when its a bad day. It’s been 6 months and it does get better, but she is dearly missed. Especially when I need advice for my own family. I watch for signs and I know she hears me and is with me. I take comfort knowing she is in a better place. God Bless and take care!

 

[Rosco331]

Yes thank you that was one of the first things I did when I got back home from my parents house.

I suspect that it will. Still, one idea would be to have a mass said on anniversaries…of the death…birthday, etc. That would be the BEST gift anyone could give, anyway!

 

[DeniseNY]

The days and weeks following my moms passing was very difficult. A few months went by and I had more good days then bad and I started to feel guilty that it wasn’t affecting me. But these last few months I would be listening to a song and just start crying.

Oh, yes. I experience the same kind of guilt and there are things that will just trigger a memory and I’ll all of a sudden start to cry, too. Grief isn’t easily explainable nor is it predictable. Sometimes I think all we can do (and it’s the best thing we can do) is allow ourselves to feel what we are feeling and ask God to see us through.

 

[Rosco331]

My wife and I are in the process of adopting and we want to honer my mom by using her name for our baby girls middle name.

Thank you to everyone for your support.

Oh, yes. I experience the same kind of guilt and there are things that will just trigger a memory and I’ll all of a sudden start to cry, too. Grief isn’t easily explainable nor is it predictable. Sometimes I think all we can do (and it’s the best thing we can do) is allow ourselves to feel what we are feeling and ask God to see us through.

 

[Michael57]

Domine Iesu, dimitte nobis debita nostra, salva nos ab igne inferiori, perduc in caelum omnes animas, praesertim eas, quae misericordiae tuae maxime indigent. Amen.

 

[DeniseNY]

My wife and I are in the process of adopting and we want to honer my mom by using her name for our baby girls middle name.

Thank you to everyone for your support.

I think that’s wonderful! You continue to be in my prayers

 

[YADA]

1st year is always the hardest because of all the 1st time withouts in it.

This is a very sacred time.

I am sorry about your mom … please take care of your dad …

Hopefully Hospice will provide some support for you.

Yes - it will get easier - at least that is my prayer every day.

I lost a spouse two years ago … In my experience the 2nd year was much harder then the first and studies are backing my reality …

hospiceotp.org/beginning-the-second-year

psychcentral.com/lib/grief-healing-and-the-one-to-two-year-myth/000375

havenofnova.org/articles/how_am_i_doing/after_the_first_year.pdf

ptbertram.wordpress.com/2012/01/08/the-five-major-challenges-we-face-during-the-second-year-of-grief/

I will pray for you and your family … Take care …

 

[Michael57]

Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee. Blessed art thou amongst women, and blessed is the fruit of thy womb Jesus.

Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death.

Amen.