I do understand that. I think that, one, even in games that do have actual sex scenes, there are some gamers that aren’t lusting during those scenes. Perhaps not
many, but some. And two, I’m interested in discussing whether this is the same situation as tv/movies (where one can also choose whether or not to watch programs with sex scenes in them), or whether choosing to have sex in a game is
uniquely bad because of the element of choice.
Crusader Kings is useful for discussing that distinction, because it includes only the element of choice, without any form of pornographic “payoff”.
Even if we assume that it is impossible to watch any graphic sex scene without experiencing pleasure (and I’m not sure what we’re calling graphic here, as there’s a lot between CK’s clean popup art and games with explicit sex scenes), that still doesn’t prove that all people who watch the scene are watching it
for that reason. With media that has no other draw, yes, we can make that assumption. But in the case of a much larger work that has many things going for it, I don’t think we can. There are going to be many people who end up watching the scene becuse they’re watching the work for other reasons, and the scene is a part of the work.
Maybe someone never skips cinematic scenes because they like the plot, subplots, and character interaction, and they’re paranoid about missing any of it. You can’t know that a given scene is completely irrelevant until you’ve either seen it or someone tells you.
I’m not saying people have really pressing, important reasons so watch such scenes, since obviously they don’t even have pressing reasons to play games in the first place. I’m saying less than 100% of the people who watch the scenes are doing so for the express purpose of experiencing sexual pleasure.
For the record, I do think it’s a good idea to avoid such things! I think that avoiding sex scenes of any kind would make it easier for people to avoid the near occasion of sin, and of course there are some people who simply don’t want to be exposed to that kind of material. But I don’t think we can assume that
everyone who doesn’t do the same is therefore deliberately seeking out sex scenes. I don’t think we know that.
I don’t understand this idea that whether something is porn is dependent on whether the viewer is aroused. If something is actually porn, it doesn’t stop being porn when viewed by an asexual viewer. If something isn’t porn, it doesn’t become porn just because a certain viewer becomes aroused while watching it.