Does NFP really work?

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Debora123 said:
Everyone has their own parenting style. I fully intend on paying for my future kids’ schools and making sure they never struggle while they are young, but that doesn’t mean I’m going to teach them that they are “entitled” to everything and anything in life, either. My parents payed for all my education from private schools to college, and though you can call me many things, “spoiled brat” isn’t one of them. 🙂
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My husband talks about working all through college. Basically he worked 25 - 30 hours a week AND went to school full time. :eek: His grades suffered because of it. I mean, really, even young people need to sleep sometime.

And he was an only child. But his parents wanted him to learn to appreciate his schooling.

Our son is also an only child. We use NFP to avoid getting pregnant. It has nothing to do with whether we can afford another child, but due to medical reasons.

While in high school, his job is school. And it will be the same while he is in college. I can’t imagine anyone that has met him calling him spoiled.

As you have said, each family has different needs vs. wants. With NFP a couple is called each month/cycle to discern their reason.

For us it is easy, do I want months of bedrest? A very premature baby? A high chance of ectopic pregnancy? No. So we avoid for another month.
 
maryjk said:
My husband talks about working all through college. Basically he worked 25 - 30 hours a week AND went to school full time. :eek: His grades suffered because of it. I mean, really, even young people need to sleep sometime.

And he was an only child. But his parents wanted him to learn to appreciate his schooling.

Our son is also an only child. We use NFP to avoid getting pregnant. It has nothing to do with whether we can afford another child, but due to medical reasons.

While in high school, his job is school. And it will be the same while he is in college. I can’t imagine anyone that has met him calling him spoiled.

As you have said, each family has different needs vs. wants. With NFP a couple is called each month/cycle to discern their reason.

For us it is easy, do I want months of bedrest? A very premature baby? A high chance of ectopic pregnancy? No. So we avoid for another month.
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I definitely wouldn’t want my kids to work long hours while still in school just so they can pay their way through it. 😦

I’ve been married for a little over a year now and we are still avoiding any children. My husband just graduated from aviation studies (to be a pilot) 2 weeks before our wedding day. And though he has enough flying gigs to pay for half of our expenses each month, he doesn’t have enough flight experience yet to get a real job with an airline. I still have to work to help pay the bills, and we don’t have health insurance. Having a child right now is out of the question.

If we ended up having one by accident, we’d have to move back to our hometown, move into our parent’s house, and probably apply for some government help. It wouldn’t be pretty.
 
Well, its a great book…I suggest reading it.

His minimum is for the purposes of forming community within the family. Three is suggested by JPII
 
maryjk said:
My husband talks about working all through college. Basically he worked 25 - 30 hours a week AND went to school full time. :eek: His grades suffered because of it. I mean, really, even young people need to sleep sometime.

And he was an only child. But his parents wanted him to learn to appreciate his schooling.

Our son is also an only child. We use NFP to avoid getting pregnant. It has nothing to do with whether we can afford another child, but due to medical reasons.

While in high school, his job is school. And it will be the same while he is in college. I can’t imagine anyone that has met him calling him spoiled.

As you have said, each family has different needs vs. wants. With NFP a couple is called each month/cycle to discern their reason.

For us it is easy, do I want months of bedrest? A very premature baby? A high chance of ectopic pregnancy? No. So we avoid for another month.
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I understand your perspective as well as Debora’s and if God grants that you do all this for your children then that’s great. Studies do however find, that overall, students who work, are more disciplined and have higher grades. I worked in high school and college, got a scholarship and graduated cum laude. My days and nights were completely cut out for me and it helped with my discipline and sense of responsibility as well as my work ethic.

My best friend’s parents payed for her and she dropped out twice before she decided to pay for herself in order to be more motivated. So it can work both ways.

Here in eastern Europe, there is a prevalent mentality of doing everything you can for your child ( even if he’s 25) so as to not burden them. Working while studying is one of those " did you hear that so and so’s friend’s, neighbour’s son is in college AND works?! " and I can tell you that got this country a whole generation of youth who are quite lazy and literally afraid of work. They take no risks, no initiatives and live with their parents right up until they get married or later. My husband does training with these youth and is often exasperated to see how little motivation they have and how cushy they are. They complain about wanting more money but would never consider working harder…they want their jobs to be 9-5, low-stress, no expectations and the salary, if it’s enough to get by, is fine by them.

I think teaching our children the value of work, budgeting (time and money) and empowering them to strive for more even at the expense of their comfort will take them farther than providing for their necessities. But, ultimately, good parenting is the most important thing.
 
I was recently matched as a donor for a stem cell transplant. The patient was very ill and I was THE match. Ultimately, his doctor decided on a different treatment plan so my donation was not needed, although I still felt honored to be the person that made transplants an option for him. During that time I knew that over the course of the next several months getting pregnant needed to be out of the question. Filgrastim, the drug used to mobilize stem cells prior to a peripheral transplant, is NOT safe for pregnant women. I knew that pregnancy would deny that patient the opportunity to have potentially lifesaving high dose chemo with an allo transplant. I work in the oncology research field and I know how serious this is. My husband and I use NFP and we stayed very conservative with our NFP use during those months. I did not get pregnant. NFP works!
 
Yes it works.

We wanted many children without NFP we wouldn’t have had the last one. The window of getting pregnant was one day.

We have five children all but the first one was conceived using NFP. I am sure we are not the only couple that used NFP to achieve pregnancy rather than to avoid it.
 
Iheartcoffee said:
I was recently matched as a donor for a stem cell transplant. The patient was very ill and I was THE match. Ultimately, his doctor decided on a different treatment plan so my donation was not needed, although I still felt honored to be the person that made transplants an option for him. During that time I knew that over the course of the next several months getting pregnant needed to be out of the question. Filgrastim, the drug used to mobilize stem cells prior to a peripheral transplant, is NOT safe for pregnant women. I knew that pregnancy would deny that patient the opportunity to have potentially lifesaving high dose chemo with an allo transplant. I work in the oncology research field and I know how serious this is. My husband and I use NFP and we stayed very conservative with our NFP use during those months. I did not get pregnant. NFP works!
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Thank you for choosing x2!!!
 
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