“Gay” is a descriptor. It simply means being attracted to the same gender.
How do you expect someone to come to repentance of their lifestyle if you even rob them of this very basic reality, which is the attraction that, without a miracle, does not ever go away? One can use all sorts of other descriptions (e.g., “deep-seated homosexual tendencies”, “same-sex attraction”), but it’s the same thing: gay.
What do you mean “misses the marks in a lot of ways”?
Not all gay people subscribe to all the ideologies you mention. That’s like saying there’s a small Hispanic sub-population that believes in reclaiming California, so every Hispanic person must believe in its ideology. We, the actual ones who are gay/have same-sex attraction/etc, are not the ones trying to instill an ideology into the word “gay” — it is the religious conservatives that pigeonhole us. And who are you to define what “meaningfully homosexual” is?
Do you even know how much pain even the phrase “intrinsically disordered” is coming from the Church and having to be obedient to it? The word “gay” is morally neutral, and yet you want to make it an anathema.
Yes, there are all sorts of lunatic ideas out there spouted by “activists”. And they get media attention.
I’m sorry if I sound sour and bitter…every time someone makes an argument like this on CAF, I have resisted saying something, but this time, I feel compelled to offer another viewpoint.