Well,
this isnât the article I wanted, but it is close. Both were on EWTN, but I canât remember the title of the special one.
II. Fellowship of the Liturgy.
The individual has to renounce his own ideas and his own way. He is obliged to subscribe to the ideas and to follow the lead of the liturgy. To it he must surrender his independence; pray with others, and not alone; obey, instead of freely disposing of himself; and stand in the ranks, instead of moving about at his own will and pleasure.
It is, furthermore, the task of the individual to apprehend clearly the ideal world of the liturgy. He must shake off the narrow trammels of his own thought, and make his own a far more comprehensive world of ideas: he must go beyond his little personal aims and adopt the educative purpose of the great fellowship of the liturgy.
It goes without saying, therefore, that he is obliged to take part in exercises which do not respond to the particular needs of which he is conscious; that he must ask for things which do not directly concern him; espouse and plead before God causes which do not affect him personally, and which merely arise out of the needs of the community at large; he must at timesâand this is inevitable in so richly developed a system of symbols, prayer and actionâtake part in proceedings of which he does not entirely, if at all, understand the significance.
All this is particularly difficult for modern people, who find it so hard to renounce their independence.
The requirements of the liturgy can be summed up in one word, humility. Humility by renunciation; that is to say, by the abdication of self-rule and self-sufficiency. And humility by positive action; that is to say, by the acceptance of the spiritual principles which the liturgy offers and which far transcend the little world of individual spiritual existence.
From the man of individualistic disposition, then, a sacrifice for the good of the community is required; from the man of social disposition, submission to the austere restraint which characterizes liturgical fellowship. While the former must accustom himself to frequenting the company of his fellows, and must acknowledge that he is only a man among men, the latter must learn to subscribe to the noble, restrained forms which etiquette requires in the House and at the Court of the Divine Majesty.
The article reads like a book, but there is a lot of very good information, of this this is only a tiny excerpt.
When we consider that every liturgy consists of elderly, retirees, widowers, working-class middle-agers, young adults in college or marrying and starting a young family, teenagers, and elementary school children, it is a real juggling act for a pastor to try and make each liturgy a communal worship that will support all types of attendees. I donât envy him, and I realize he is bombarded with complaints from all sorts of people who each have lost their tolerance for the rights of all.