Does this dress make me look fat?

[GraceDK]

Just tell her she is beautiful and kiss her!

It wont be a lie and it wont hurt her feelings. If she is fat she knows it herself… she should not have to worry about how you
might find her unattractive while she looses weight… if she does not eat well and takes care of her health then sit her down and tell her that she needs to…
there are many good ways to deal with this between husband and wife… in a way that builts up instead of breaking down

 

[BillP]

Wow, I never have that problem, I can honestly say that I’ve never seen my wife look fat, at least not to me.

 

[kristie_m]

the proper response is…

“Honey, you look beautiful!”

repeat as necessary.

 

[JRKH]

“No, not at all honey; it’s not the dress that makes you look fat”

AWWWW Thats what I was gonna sayyyyyyy…

Of couse my wife has memeory issues so she would forget in a few minutes.

Peace
James

 

[cascherman]

I don’t think it is right to ask someone that.

 

[theistgal]

Put your arm around her, give her a big kiss, and tell her you simply can’t make an objective decision because her beauty overwhelms you.

(and if that isn’t true, it should be! )

 

[rlg94086]

Put your arm around her, give her a big kiss, and tell her you simply can’t make an objective decision because her beauty overwhelms you.

(and if that isn’t true, it should be! )

Ooh…that’s a keeper…I’m going to use that one, because I know the response it will illicit - “you are so full of it!”

 

[pnewton]

Here is my secret. No one is allowed to ever tell my wife.

I deliberately dress wrong every chance I get. I wear colors that clash, tee shirts to eat out, clothes with stains, etc. When anything important comes up, my wife just picks out my clothes just to keep from having to have me re-dress after I put on something stupid.

As a result, I have established myself as having such horrible taste in clothes, I no longer get asked these questions.

 

[kristie_m]

Here is my secret. No one is allowed to ever tell my wife.

I deliberately dress wrong every chance I get. I wear colors that clash, tee shirts to eat out, clothes with stains, etc. When anything important comes up, my wife just picks out my clothes just to keep from having to have me re-dress after I put on something stupid.

As a result, I have established myself as having such horrible taste in clothes, I no longer get asked these questions.

CHEATER!!! I’m telling your wife!!!

 

[cecilia97]

Even if your wife has a few extra pounds, don’t you still love her and think she’s beautiful? Easy answer: “Honey, you always look great” and then a nice smoochy.

It’s not that hard!

 

[rlg94086]

Even if your wife has a few extra pounds, don’t you still love her and think she’s beautiful? Easy answer: “Honey, you always look great” and then a nice smoochy.

It’s not that hard!

Sure, but, as my wife pointed out to me when I told her about this thread, it wouldn’t help in her decision on that particular outfit. My wife avoids asking “does this make me look fat?” When we are going out and she wants my opinion, she usually asks “does this look okay?” If I told her “honey, you always look great,” then it would not answer the question.

 

[Mirdath]

Sure, but, as my wife pointed out to me when I told her about this thread, it wouldn’t help in her decision on that particular outfit. My wife avoids asking “does this make me look fat?” When we are going out and she wants my opinion, she usually asks “does this look okay?” If I told her “honey, you always look great,” then it would not answer the question.

That’s when you break out ‘ehh, I think this one suits you better’.

Just make sure you’re clear that it’s the outfit’s fault. It is defective, your wife is perfect

 

[graceandglory]

I think the real answer is that women are wired that way. They want to look good because that is what can attract a man’s attention. It is not society that made women that way, it is God.

I disagree in part. Society and fashion has changed from women dressing like Mary to women wearing pencil thin skin tight jeans with their thong showing.

I don’t think five to ten pounds would have made a difference 2,000 years ago.

I also think that men’s unfaithfulness and willlingness to walk away when a woman gains weight has also contributed to women feeling this way about their bodies.

 

[cecilia97]

Sure, but, as my wife pointed out to me when I told her about this thread, it wouldn’t help in her decision on that particular outfit. My wife avoids asking “does this make me look fat?” When we are going out and she wants my opinion, she usually asks “does this look okay?” If I told her “honey, you always look great,” then it would not answer the question.

Well, in my personal opinion as a woman, I think you’re right…I think women only ask THAT particular question when they’re feeling insecure and fishing for a compliment. If you really want to know if the red shirt looks good with the black pants, you ask “honey, does this outfit look OK?”. Different deal.

 

[Tonks40]

“No, not at all honey; it’s not the dress that makes you look fat”

Truth is, I AM fat…so I NEVER ask that question!

(And even if I did, and my DH says “no,” then I KNOW he’s lying…!!)

 

[I_Believe]

lol, if my wife asked me that, I’d say " pull up a couple of chairs and relax while I think on it "

 

[puzzleannie]

yes, tell me the truth, if I am asking while we are getting dressed ready to go out, I really want to know.

If I ask while we are already out, don’t lie but fudge.

No dear, not really, but I do like your green dress better.

I will know what you really mean (I look like a hippo in the red dress) but you won’t be in trouble.

 

[mlchance]

“Honey, does this dress make me look fat?”

“No, vision makes you look fat.”

“I can’t tell. I’m blinded by your beauty.”

“Do I have the words ‘I want to fight’ written on my forehead again?”

– Mark L. Chance.

 

[CB_Catholic]

Why do women require this sort of reassurance? Is it society or something else?

Why can’t they just be happy with how they look. You’ll never hear a guy ask if the jeans he’s wearing make him look fat.

IMO, most guys should ask the question.

I rarely ask my husband if some outfit makes me look fat for two reasons:

1. He doesn’t hesitate to tell me the truth.
2. I don’t want to hear the truth.

 

[deb1]

Reply - Honey, the dress does not flatter you as much as (one that does)

My hubby is very smooth as this is how he answers these questions. He just says that the outfit in question is not attractive on me. On the plus side, he does not fail to compliment attractive outfits on me either.

I would rather him tell me that an outfit was ugly on me then to let me go out in public in it, though.

Actually, I am grateful for his honesty. An honest answer shows respect for me as a human being. A lie means that my husband is not treating me as an adult but a child.