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AlanFromWichita
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I rest my case.And so must we have a good explanation when we stand before God.![]()
Alan
I rest my case.And so must we have a good explanation when we stand before God.![]()
And Alan and I would be on agreement on this, too.Anyway - I sort of hear something similar in Alanâs post on contraception. That he defers to the Churchâs teaching on the matter, but if one is engaging in sex outside marriage anyway, the use of a condom âlimits collateral falloutâ (pregnancy and disease). Itâs not saying that it is right but âŚIf one is to advise (or admonish) the person it is better to admonish them for the fornication rather than the condom useâŚStop the one and the other goes away.
Peace
James
Actually, the best post Iâve read on this topic is found here.OK, then I mean the teachings of the Church. Surely you have seen scores of posters claiming they are perfect?
Actually, Alan, what we must presume, as the Church does, is that the marriage is valid, until proven otherwise.And if we find out 10 years after a marriage whether it was âactuallyâ a marriage or could be annulled as if it didnât happen, that means that when we go to a wedding we have no idea whether the wedding weâre witnessing constitutes a valid marriage.
Iâm trying to navigate my way through your responses, and Iâm still not quite sure you understand my question, and the point of my question.Thanks for sticking with me. I donât know about you, but this is helping me sort out what I think and what I donât. That way if Iâm right Iâm also clearer about it, and if Iâm wrong I know where I stand now and where I need to go.
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Alan
I havenât found this to be the case.So basically even if we think we have an idea that might help the Church, if it goes against any documentation, we canât even consider bringing it up.
I am unsure why you would think that we are not given permission as Catholics to âact immediately in a situation.âTo me that isnât obedience; thatâs blindness and a robot could do a better job if all the rules are determined in advance. We have human instinct and guidance by the Holy Spirit to act immediately in a situation, without having to refer each and every time to the books.
In your paradigm, what is the criterion we should use to be the final arbiter of a decision?If every decision we make is subject to a previously written document as its final arbiter, then like I said we would be worse than robots.
This is interesting. You knew, before âhearingâ the Church say that:I do not require Church teachings to agree with what I believed before I hear the teaching.
Itâs not. This isnât about whether the Church is up to par for me, but whether Iâm up to par for the Church! Iâm ready to commit, even though I recognize my own shortcomings.I must humbly proffer that it sounds absolutely like this is what itâs all about.
*I *wonât leave her. But, in the analogy, weâre not married quite yet. The question is: If I donât quite live up to *her *criteria, does *she *still want to marry me?But will you leave her because of this?
I really like your post here. Well done.And Alan and I would be on agreement on this, too.
My own personal opinion is that condom use, between a married couple when one of them is infected with AIDS, may be the licit thing to do. One is using it for medical reasons (infection control) and not contraceptive reasons. In my mind, itâs the same concept as using the birth control pill for medical purposes, not for contraceptive purposesâwhich is permitted by Church teaching.
HOWEVER, as the Church has not proclaimed that condom use in the situation I have described is permissible, I will defer to the Church on this point. And as a Catholic I will continue to say, âIt is not permissible to use condoms, even if itâs between a married couple and the intent is to prevent infection, not prevent conception.â
**So, if I understand James and Alanâs postsâŚ
Alan also defers to Church teaching here when his own personal opinion is different? Yes?**
But do you see, James, if a person cannot answer, âYes, I have conformed my view to that of the Churchâ on any particular issue, then the conclusion is that you have created a god in your own image, rather than conforming your image to Christâs.I really like your post here. Well done.
In regards to the bolded, I cannot speak for Alan, but I would say that, after properly forming oneâs conscience on a given matter (condom use?), one must act in a specific situation in the way they, personally, believe to be correct.
I would not phrase this as âpersonal opinionâ as you have above, but rather âpersonal convictionâ operating within ones best understanding of teaching and intentâŚand governed by the Catechism section on conscience.
And I must emphasize that such a thing is highly personal and specific. It should not be broadcast (as some do who disagree or doubt Church teaching), nor should one arrive at a âpat stanceâ on how they would proceed in a given situation that is contrary to Church teaching, nor should one reject a teaching because they simply do not understand it.
However, if one finds ones self in a difficult situation, they might need to choose between the âlesser of evilsâ. Then, âwell formed conscienceâ must be relied on.
Peace
James
Fair enough.Itâs not. This isnât about whether the Church is up to par for me, but whether Iâm up to par for the Church! Iâm ready to commit, even though I recognize my own shortcomings.
II]wonât leave her. But, in the analogy, weâre not married quite yet. The question is: If I donât quite live up to *her *criteria, does *she *still want to marry me?
The Divine Marriage Proposal is always present.
But if you say yes it comes with all the duties and obligations that come with any Yes.
'Tis true, this. And I imagine when Jesus proclaimed doctrines and teachings, (say, on divorce and re-marriage being adultery) none of his disciples told him, âLord, I am your disciple but I really think youâve got it wrong on this one.âBut, perhaps Iâm being overly cautious. After all, when Jesus called his first disciples (e.g., Mark 1:16-20), he didnât quiz them on their understanding of theological issues. What Iâm hearing in this thread is that Iâm far enough along.
Rather, those who could not take his difficult sayings grumbled and left.
See John 6: 41-52
At this the Jews there began to grumble about him because he said, âI am the bread that came down from heaven.â 42 They said, âIs this not Jesus, the son of Joseph, whose father and mother we know? How can he now say, âI came down from heavenâ?â
43 âStop grumbling among yourselves,â Jesus answered. 44 âNo one can come to me unless the Father who sent me draws them, and I will raise them up at the last day. 45 It is written in the Prophets: âThey will all be taught by God.â[d] Everyone who has heard the Father and learned from him comes to me. 46 No one has seen the Father except the one who is from God; only he has seen the Father. 47 Very truly I tell you, the one who believes has eternal life. 48 I am the bread of life. 49 Your ancestors ate the manna in the wilderness, yet they died. 50 But here is the bread that comes down from heaven, which anyone may eat and not die. 51 I am the living bread that came down from heaven. Whoever eats this bread will live forever. This bread is my flesh, which I will give for the life of the world.â
52 Then the Jews began to argue sharply among themselves, âHow can this man give us his flesh to eat?â
53 Jesus said to them, âVery truly I tell you, unless you eat the flesh of the Son of Man and drink his blood, you have no life in you. 54 Whoever eats my flesh and drinks my blood has eternal life, and I will raise them up at the last day. 55 For my flesh is real food and my blood is real drink. 56 Whoever eats my flesh and drinks my blood remains in me, and I in them. 57 Just as the living Father sent me and I live because of the Father, so the one who feeds on me will live because of me. 58 This is the bread that came down from heaven. Your ancestors ate manna and died, but whoever feeds on this bread will live forever.â 59 He said this while teaching in the synagogue in Capernaum.
Many Disciples Desert Jesus
60 On hearing it, many of his disciples said, âThis is a hard teaching. Who can accept it?â
61 Aware that his disciples were grumbling about this, Jesus said to them, âDoes this offend you? 62 Then what if you see the Son of Man ascend to where he was before! 63 The Spirit gives life; the flesh counts for nothing. The words I have spoken to youâthey are full of the Spirit[e] and life. 64 Yet there are some of you who do not believe.â For Jesus had known from the beginning which of them did not believe and who would betray him. 65 He went on to say, âThis is why I told you that no one can come to me unless the Father has enabled them.â
66 From this time many of his disciples turned back and no longer followed him.
A lot of posts to answer. Whew. I think Iâll start with this last one to James.But do you see, James, if a person cannot answer, âYes, I have conformed my view to that of the Churchâ on any particular issue, then the conclusion is that you have created a god in your own image, rather than conforming your image to Christâs.
One way is to advance until you are reborn in the Spirit. Then you will not sin, and you donât need to know rules in advance to know whatâs right to say or choose, as you get your head out of the way and let the Spirit guide you by the heart. You just have to quit using the carnal mind as a prophylactic against intimacy with God by raising shields to interfere with true learning, healing, and renewing that requires a fully open mind and heart to receive.For how could it be that your conscience has always been informed enough to defy the teaching of the Church and one has never had to conform?
The Divine Creator punished the entire human species because one man tried to do what we are doing here. We think that our knowledge of the Scripture and dogmatic obedience to it is going to get us into the kingdom, and thatâs rubbish. The Bible clearly speaks the opposite. For example, knowledge of the kingdom of heaven is hidden from the wise and learned, but know to little children. So what do we do? We keep trying to be more like the wise and learned and look to them for to figure out things with great complexity. What I want to know, is if honest scholars are a loggerheads for generation about what a particular teaching means in any given situation, is how do we pick which exclusively right answer that is the only answer, do we pick? (Hint: consider dualistic v. non-dualistic thinking.)Does that seem consonant with reason and our understanding of a Divine Creator? Our ideas are always in conformity with his so that we never have to change our views?
I just canât see Jesus standing 10 feet in front of me, telling me to my face, âAlan, tell your daughters that if they should sin, they should never use a condom because it offends Me enough that Iâd rather see them at higher risk of being killed.â How about telling me, âAlan, you MUST vote for this candidate for governor because the pro-life organization said they were pro-life, even though they may have done untold damage to the condition of states they governed previouslyâ'Tis true, this. And I imagine when Jesus proclaimed doctrines and teachings, (say, on divorce and re-marriage being adultery) none of his disciples told him, âLord, I am your disciple but I really think youâve got it wrong on this one.â
Rather, those who could not take his difficult sayings grumbled and left.
Two pointsâŚBut do you see, James, if a person cannot answer, âYes, I have conformed my view to that of the Churchâ on any particular issue, then the conclusion is that you have created a god in your own image, rather than conforming your image to Christâs.
For how could it be that your conscience has always been informed enough to defy the teaching of the Church and one has never had to conform?
Does that seem consonant with reason and our understanding of a Divine Creator? Our ideas are always in conformity with his so that we never have to change our views?
- Church teaching is not designed to cover every single permutation of every single aspect of every single condition of every event in every single personâs life that ever lived.

Not even the scholars can say that, for at least two reasons I can think of.Recognizing our imperfection, and our struggle to become perfect as we are called to be in Mt 5:48, AND given the shear volume and magnitude of teachings given to us by Holy Mother Church (some of which is quite involved and detailed and intellectually âdeepâ), how can the average layman say - in Truth - that they have âconformed their viewâ on issues they have perhaps not given a great deal of study.
YESSSSSSSSSSS!The Church recognizes that they cannot cover every situation. She tries to provide the best possible training she can. She tells us that we need to learn and understand her teaching. BUT, a part of that teaching makes the point that the conscience is free to act. The conscience is not confined to slavish obedience like the pharisees tried to enforce, nor to a strict, âIf-Thenâ series of statements like a robot running a computer program.
The conscience is to become informed - trained in Church teaching and if, when and where, the conscience finds itself in an unclear circumstance, it needs to look, not at the letter of the law, but at the principles - principles that all boil down to Love (Mt 22:36-40).
Absolutely. Totally. Without doubt. Beyond question. At least it is to me. It seems that the more we intellectualize God, the more we miss the boat. What do we say when God asks us why we called His people a pejorative name? No point in trying to fool God so maybe something like, âYes, Lord, well I did the research and found out that not only does the term objectively apply, I was morally obligated to warn him that he was in danger of going to hell because of it.âIn every case, our basic guide is Love. What is the Loving solution. That is our guide through, and test of, how we apply Church teaching.
Indeed.
- Church teaching is not designed to cover every single permutation of every single aspect of every single condition of every event in every single personâs life that ever lived.
'zactly.BUT, a part of that teaching makes the point that the conscience is free to act. The conscience is not confined to slavish obedience like the pharisees tried to enforce, nor to a strict, âIf-Thenâ series of statements like a robot running a computer program.
Oh wow. Sorry but Iâve gotten backed up and forgot about that question.Now, I have asked Alan if thereâs anything that he is able to say, âYes, I believe but have conformed my belief to because God has decreed this to be soâ and it appears that his answer is no.
This is quite curious and speaks to a conscience that has not deferred to God but rather has allowed itself to believe that Godâs will conforms perfectly with Alanâs own tastes.
The fact that some say âwhat the Church teachesâ does not necessarily equate with what God wishes is curious, in that I always find these posters always find the Church to be quite reliable on a number of teachings. To wit: they will readily accept that God is love, and the only way they would know this is because the Church has preserved this teaching for them. They will accept that we are to love our neighbor and help the poor, something else that the Church has proclaimed. They will quote the Gospel of Matthew, accepting the Churchâs declaration that the Gospel of Matthew is* theopneustos, * yet peculiarly will say that they donât believe that God is speaking when she says , which does not conform to their own personal theology.
You have a valid concern, and you might be surprised but I agree this happens a lot. We all seem to have a horse in this race. We all seem to have something at stake if the rule is this way v. that way. Like if God said we wear purple on this day and pink on that day, then sure, why not? But if God said do not call your brother a fool (or heretic, or CC, or whatever) or you will be subject to fiery Gehenna, somehow we just donât hear it. We simply donât hear it, despite having ears. We donât hear it because we cannot hear it, because we have so much invested in what we already do that even when God SHOUTS at us, STOP IT!!! we go on and on, unscathed, day after day, telling each other what an idiot the other one is for not complying with Church teachings. Hells bells, is that the pot calling the kettle black, or what?
You are correct. No one has made that specific argument and I was not suggesting thy had.Indeed.
Is there a Catholic poster here who has been asserting that Church teaching is designed to cover âevery single permutation of every single aspect of every single condition of every event in every single personâs life that ever lived.â
Iâm quite certain that I havenât read anyone making that argument, but, perhaps you have and youâre addressing this?![]()
Well, while I never like to use absolutes, I do see what you are saying.'zactly.
And my point is simply this: if a Christian has never had to examine his conscience, and RE-CONFORM it to that which he doesnât prefer/believe/profess, then I proffer that this is a conscience made in oneâs own image and not in Godâs.
For it stands to reason that the conscience of any human creature is not going to be aligned with Godâs, and will need to re-conform it.
The fact that some say âwhat the Church teachesâ does not necessarily equate with what God wishes is curious, in that I always find these posters always find the Church to be quite reliable on a number of teachings. To wit: they will readily accept that God is love, and the only way they would know this is because the Church has preserved this teaching for them. They will accept that we are to love our neighbor and help the poor, something else that the Church has proclaimed. They will quote the Gospel of Matthew, accepting the Churchâs declaration that the Gospel of Matthew is* theopneustos, * yet peculiarly will say that they donât believe that God is speaking when she says , which does not conform to their own personal theology.
No argument here.
It would be helpful if you could perhaps give an example of this?Oh wow. Sorry but Iâve gotten backed up and forgot about that question.
The quick answer is âyes.â Now for the baggage I have attached to it âŚ
There are many ways I have changed or enhanced my understanding of things because of Church teachings. This often happens right in the middle of a thread. Someone gets through to me what the Church really says about something, and I say, âoh, I get it. I can get on board with that.â
Could you give an example of this as well, Alan?One problem I have is that I can literally go for months or years of posting with one poster after another bombarding me with the same âtruthsâ the Church teaches, only to discover they were misstating Church teachings.
I donât think this is a very good ideaâexcept if what youâve read is from a poster that is clearly well-informed. I certainly wouldnât go by what every or any Zealous Anonymous Catholic Poster says here on the CAFs.Since I donât pretend to be a scholar, I defer to what others say the Church teaches or what a particular passage in the CCC for example actually says.