All this is true on one level (at least, . . . )(snipped to meet character count)
Free will is real. God gave it to us for choosing Him, and He respects it in us. Now surely, there is more grace in the one who goes to Confession than in the one who does not. But what determines the difference? Not God, for we are not Calvinists. We do not hold that grace is irresistible, but rather that it requires co-operation. So one co-operates, the other does not. It is not possible, given the nature of Love, that God did not wish for both to co-operate, and thus, He most certainly gave to both the necessary grace to co-operate. But one accepted it freely, and the other rejected it freely.
None of this is to say that any of our goodness has its source in ourselves. “God alone is good.”
Perhaps we can utilize the error of Calvin to bring out a point. Calvin says grace is irresistible, but does he mean by this that no believer commits sin? Clearly not. Nor can he possibly mean that every believer goes to Confession whenever he knows about his sin, since Calvinists reject the Sacrament of Confession. So what does he mean? Remember that an additional error in the heresy of Protestantism is “salvation by Faith Alone.” They are not actually talking about Faith in the Catholic meaning of that word, what they are referring to is bare intellectual assent to the Truth of the Gospel, and that, in its stripped down version of “Jesus died for your sins.” That is the entirety of religion in a nutshell, according to Luther and Calvin. Just hold that proposition as true, and you’re saved. But how does a person come to hold that proposition as true? Not by reasoning or proofs. It is by hearing, according to Saint Paul, that Faith comes. When a person first hears about Jesus, he has an immediate reaction to the “News.” It is like learning for the first time that 1 + 1 = 2. No one who knows this can possibly deny it. The Gospel is like that, initially, in some, and not in others. It is the “and not in others” part that causes all the nastiness that is Calvinism.
Our Lord Himself stated, “think not that I have come to bring Peace on Earth. I bring, not peace, but a sword of division. I have come to set a man against his father and a woman against her daughter, and a household of five shall be divided, two against three and three against two.” That is what the Gospel does. It is selective. Some, immediately believe, others, do not. Since for a Protestant, salvation is by “Faith Alone,” according to Calvin, the selectivity of the Gospel message is manifestly God’s selecting some to save and others to condemn.
O.K., I’ve kind of drifted onto a tangent here, but I’m going to leave all this in because it seems to me to have value. My point was this: the idea, “I ought to go to Confession,” has the character of “1 + 1 = 2.” No one can resist experiencing an idea that God puts into their head. What we can resist, is acting on the idea. So, the idea in the first place, “I ought to go to Confession,” is part of the grace to actually go, and actually going is the rest of it. God’s purpose in granting the grace is to bring the soul to Confession. It is not a first grace, the idea, and a second grace, actually going, rather, it is one grace: God bringing you to Confession. You either co-operate and go, or refuse to co-operate and skip. Since no one can resist the idea, if we call the idea a grace, it seems we are kowtowing to Calvinism and affirming that there is actually irresistible grace after all. But “irresistible grace” implies infallibly efficacious grace, and plainly, in the one who refused to go, it wasn’t. So while we must insist that the idea was an actual grace, we must at the same time maintain that experiencing the idea is not the same thing as accepting the grace. The idea comes, irresistibly, and is part of the grace of getting to Confession. Pushing the idea aside is resisting the grace, so in the one who pushes the irresistibly encountered idea aside, that is the end of it. There is no completion of the work of grace, because there is an obstacle offered by the one who received it. The grace was merely sufficient due to the fact of the free will resisting it. The one, on the other hand, who co-operated with the grace and did go to receive the Sacrament, rendered that selfsame sufficient grace efficacious by acting on it. Since it was an actual grace, its whole purpose was action, and in the one who co-operated it was both sufficient and efficacious, while in the one who resisted it was merely sufficient. Receiving sufficient graces and rejecting them is cause for damnation. Thus grace is
not irresistible; but receiving grace is irresistible. God gives sufficient grace for salvation to all without exception, both the elect and the reprobate. The elect, freely accept them and increase in grace until finally, they are accepting 100% of the graces they receive, and they are in Heaven. The reprobate, reject all grace until finally, God no longer grants them any, and they are in Hell.
A lot of words. I hope I’ve made my point clear.