Double Standards

[MT_Reynolds]

I realize how important chastity is before marriage (read: abstain from sex). As a young woman, I have been brought up under this principle, and as a hispanic, virginity at marriage is “valuable.” Is it wrong for me to expect the same of who ever I decide to marry? or is this just me being jealous/angry with societal norms?

 

[puzzleannie]

you are absolutely correct to point out that a man’s virginity is every bit as valuable as a woman’s, especially and essentially when it comes to marriage. Societal norms are sometimes cultural norms. But because the double standard is operational is no reason for a woman to debase herself to that level, rather she should seek to raise the men she influences (especially her own sons) with the higher standard. by the way, I am so sick of hearing the excuse that misbehavior by men is part of Hispanic culture and women just have to accept it. That is a libel against all the fine Hispanic men I know who are chaste before and within marriage, faithful husbands and good examples of Christian fatherhood.

 

[marty1818]

You are quite justified in wanting the same thing from a future husband. There’s nothing wrong at all with having these beliefs.

matthew

 

[EsclavoDeCristo]

MT Reynolds:

I realize how important chastity is before marriage (read: abstain from sex). As a young woman, I have been brought up under this principle, and as a hispanic, virginity at marriage is “valuable.” Is it wrong for me to expect the same of who ever I decide to marry? or is this just me being jealous/angry with societal norms?

No, this isn’t a double standard. And, you should be angry with societal norms, they are a big lie! Stay faithful to Christ and the teachings of the Church! God bless you for your faith!

 

[Genesis315]

MT Reynolds:

I realize how important chastity is before marriage (read: abstain from sex). As a young woman, I have been brought up under this principle, and as a hispanic, virginity at marriage is “valuable.” Is it wrong for me to expect the same of who ever I decide to marry? or is this just me being jealous/angry with societal norms?

I’m a guy who has remained chaste and I sure hope it will be valued by the woman I marry as much as I value her chastity.:yup:

 

[MilesJesu]

Congratulations on your journey! Stay strong in your faith!

Is it wrong for me to expect the same of who ever I decide to marry?

Not if you marry a practicing Catholic who adheres to the tenets of the faith. Although we are all human and make mistakes, a practicing Catholic should be well aware, regardless of “societal norms” that Christ’s norms are binding.

Keep your standards high, and don’t settle for less.

Peace,

MilesJesu