Thanks for reading my post and responding with such thoughtfulness. It dawned on me, as I read what you wrote, that my own experiences have a big impact on the way I feel about this issue. I was brought up very Catholic, in a very Catholic extended family and I went to a very Catholic grammar school. This was during the period of Vatican II. I can remember, in Fifth Grade, participating in a series of debates about proposed liturgical reforms.
Unlike the DRE in this thread, our teacher, Sr. Patricia, never revealed her opinions on the topics we were debating -- but she made sure that, if we spoke on a topic, we knew what we were talking about. And I was ten at the time!
The effect of my own religious upbringing was to convince me of the power of prayer, honest conversation, reason and good will. It also served as a warning against people whose understanding of issues is so shallow that all they can do is say, "I'm right, and that's that." I realize, as I converse with you, that I still have a way to go before I'm past being 'hot under the collar' about that.
You talk about wanting a DRE who's 100% on dogma. I find it hard to ask of others what I can't give myself. Take the issue of birth control, for example. Our church teaches that the "rhythm method" is acceptable. I can't find it in myself to agree on that one. I've prayed about it, thought about it, read about it (as you can see I'm even WRITING about it) ... and I still maintain that unless a couple fully expects and intends to reproduce, they shouldn't have sex. I don't spout my 'heretical' views to teenagers (well, not to OTHER PEOPLE'S teenagers) but I know my ideas are at variance with the Church and it pains me.
I see no way past the pain that doesn't involove honest conversation -- and in 2006, I feel that that sort of conversation is in short supply. In 1964 it seemed (happy day) to be easy to come by. But maybe I look at the past through rose colored glasses.