Dressing modestly

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I’ll add my opinion to this interesting, although not all that important, thread.😃

I wear heels. But most of my shoes have a very stable, chunky heel or wedge bottom. I have open toed sandals, shoes, and boots. I have 2 pairs of flat shoes… one is a sport sandal for summer walks, and the other is my winter boot, for winter walks.

Everything else I wear has a heel. Most are around 2 inches, at least. Why?

I have big, wide feet, lol. (and I am NOT tall). Have you ever seen a size 10 wide foot in one of those ballet slipper type shoes??? I may as well find the nearest ski slope!:rotfl:

Plus, I am just more comfortable (seriously) in a heel. I tend to get sore feet much more often in a flat shoe. I owned a pair of nurses’ shoes when I worked in a grocery store. I paid a lot of money for them, and I always had sore feet! Once the uniforms were changed and I could wear a nice heeled boot, I was much more comfortable.

I think modesty is a combination of common sense and personal style. I agree that “high heels” can be immodest. But almost any article of clothing has the potential to be immodest. A shirt can be too tight. A skirt too sheer. Pants too low…

I was at a lifeteen Mass this past weekend and was shocked at how a lot of the teen girls were dressed. Since they were a part of the group, I know this was not their first time at Mass… and they were there with their parents!

One of the girls who brought up the gifts was in shorts so tight and short that I was embarrassed for her! And the girl sitting in front of me had an outfit that I’m sure many prostitutes would be ashamed to wear! But they both had flat shoes on…hmmmmmmmmmm

There are some black and white rules to modest dressing… and then there are all the grey areas. Use your good judgement, be concerened with your own appearance and motives, and try not to assume you know the motives of others.

Maybe all of the women who are “judging” those who wear high heels to Mass would themselves only wear high heels to attract sexual attention… so they cannot see that others may have completely different reasons…

Malia
 
Wow, what a thread. Before my comments, I am going to try to establish what is meant by “high heels”. This term could mean everything other than “flats”, or (as one poster mentioned, everything over 3’). That being said, I happen to be short, quite short, and most slacks and skirts litterally drag on the floor if I do not wear dress shoes with at least 1 1/2 inch heals. In addition, not all “loafers” are appropriate with a skirt or dress suit.
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  More importantly morally, the incidence of shoe fettish (as a true fettish) is in actuallity quite low. There are many modest "heeled" shoes, just as there are many modest skirts, shirts, etc. It should be mentioned that until roughly the 1950's (maybe even beyond), heeled shoes were considered "feminine" in this country.

  Yes there are immodest and tasteless heels, but I must strongly agree with some previous posters that not all heels are not inherently immodest. Personally, with dresses, skirts, slacks, I tend to wear heels, both for the height reason mentioned before and due to the fact that I feel it is feminine. I assure you that I do not appear immodest nor is this my intent. I find that someone who's clothing (skirt, shirt, etc.) are modest rarely cause scandel through there shoes. While if the shoes are scandelous, the outfit is usually more so. God bless
 
I must admit this is a question I’ve never before considered. But my instinct says no, high heels are not inherently immodest.

Since feet are something that both men and women have (!) and feet are not generally considered “erotic” things, I cannot see a reason for purposely dressing them down. What’s more, I live on an island, and most of us here wear sandals year-round, even to dressy events (the more formal the event, the more formal the sandal). I associate nice shoes, as Katieq put it, to be “ladylike.”

If we start to consider shoes for their value in modesty, we may as well run the whole gamut: pantyhose, ankle bracelets, nail polish, toe rings … you catch my drift. It could get downright ridiculous.
 
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UKcatholicGuy:
Not to hijack the thread, but as a male, I just want to say THANK YOU AND GOD BLESS YOU for making an effort to dress modestly! I know it’s hard in our modern culture but God will certainly bless you for it. Plus, women are so much more beautiful when they’re dressed how God would want them to be.

Thank you and God bless!
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I couldn’t agree more! Ditto and thanks for piping up! God is good!
 
surf(name removed by moderator)ure:
…If we start to consider shoes for their value in modesty, we may as well run the whole gamut: pantyhose, ankle bracelets, nail polish, toe rings … you catch my drift. It could get downright ridiculous.
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I think we’ve already arrived. 😉
 
Out of curiosity I asked my husband what he thinks about the modesty of high heels. His opinion is that if the heels are in place to accentuate a woman’s legs, then they’re immodest. But if the legs are covered decently enough by clothing, the shoes don’t make any difference.
 
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Cathy2:
Hello from Italy! I enjoy to correspond with catholics around the world. My question, especially (but not only) to the feminine forum posters: Does modest clothing include high-heeled shoes ? Some of my friends wear long skirts for modesty instead of pants. But they walk around in high-heeled strappy sandals, even to church. I cannot find modesty in this habit of dressing. My opinion: Modest clothing includes low heels. You opinion?
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Cathy,

Quite apart from any questions of modesty, I have heard repeatedly that high heels are extremely bad for one’s leg and back. I would militate against them if only for that reason.
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Princess_Abby:
no, but that is possibly one of the uglier shoes i’ve ever seen! 🙂
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Okay since many guys are attracted to women with beautiful feet/shoes this may be a interesting topic.
 
Three more quick comments…
  1. Men can also be attracted to women’s faces/mouths (aka smiles)…should an uncovered face also be thought of as immodest in this light?
2.Alternatives have been mentioned, but their “attractiveness” is always discribed. This would seem to be limitedly affective in solving the problem of men finding women’s shoes/feet attractive.
  1. I happen to find hands attractive (particularly my husband’s ;)), as do many women and men I have spoken with. However this is not an occasion for lust for me, nor would I expect all men to wear gloves. Attraction doesn’t always = lust.
This is not to say that all heeled shoes should be determined as modest, but again, it seems that we should not jump to the opposite conclusion and label all heeled shoes immodest.

P.S. Can anyone clerify for me what their definition of a high-heeled shoe is?
 
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katieq:
P.S. Can anyone clarify for me what their definition of a high-heeled shoe is?
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I’ve always thought “high” heels were 2 1/2 to 3 inches high. (And it takes at least 2’’ to bring me up to average height!) 😛
 
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katieq:
Three more quick comments…

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  1. I happen to find hands attractive (particularly my husband’s ;)), as do many women and men I have spoken with. However this is not an occasion for lust for me, nor would I expect all men to wear gloves. Attraction doesn’t always = lust.
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Odd, but so do I. I thought that I was the only female that found hands attractive-not that I have lustful thoughts on viewing them.:eek:

I am five foot tall. I think that a modert heel is under 4", a low heel would be beneath two inches. My height might play into what I view as moderate height.
 
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deb1:
Odd, but so do I. I thought that I was the only female that found hands attractive-not that I have lustful thoughts on viewing them.:eek:
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Count me in, too. I’ve always looked at a guy’s hands just after looking at his face!
 
Hi Binary,
there is nothing wrong in wearing pants. I can skip heeled shoes and sheer hose by wearing wide pants. What can be more modest for a woman?
 
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Cathy2:
Hi Binary,
there is nothing wrong in wearing pants. I can skip heeled shoes and sheer hose by wearing wide pants. What can be more modest for a woman?
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Thank you for the response. As it turns out, I actually posted my question in another thread, then mistakenly believed I had asked it in this one. :o
 
surf(name removed by moderator)ure:
Count me in, too. I’ve always looked at a guy’s hands just after looking at his face!
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I’ll second that one… or is it third…:whistle:
 
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