Drowning in potential Orders

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Hi all,

Am thinking of going into religious life (have posted here before to that effect).

My initial thoughts had been towards the Carthusians. I wrote to them and they suggested I needed to wait a few years and ‘be more realistic’, those words immediately made me think about the real needs of the Church (rather than my own selfish needs) that I could satisfy through religious life. While the life of a Carthusian lay brother would be amazing for me, maybe the Church needs priests and scholars more than it needs someone with a PhD to spend the rest of his days cooking and cleaning in silence.

So, now I’m drowning in potential religious orders. The Salesians have a very active charism, and a focus on education (which is my PhD specialism), the Dominicans have a strong intellectual side, as do the conventual Franciscans. There are the Franciscans of the Immaculate, also the Franciscans of the Renewal, and a friend of mine is soon going to join the Cappuchins. I have thought of the Basilians, though the only ones in Britain are Ukrainian. There are the Augustinians, the Passionists, the Redemptorists, and the Transalpine Redemptorists (formerly affiliated to the SSPX, but now back in regular standing with the Church). There are the Carmelites, and the possibility of professing vows as a lay Carmelite. There are numerous less obvious orders, who have a charism in the world in some way, working with the poor, with children, the elderly, etc. There are societies of apostolic life, which I don’t really understand, and don’t have any connection to. There are institutes of pontifical rite, like the Institute of Christ the King. Basically, I’m drowning in orders.

At first, it seemed so simple, there was the Carthusians, and that was that. Before my conversion I spent some time discerning with the Anglican Franciscans, again that’s pretty simple because they’re the only Anglican religious order of any size. I suppose the Franciscan element is still part of my thought process, and I have that Franciscan spirit of being willing to be either priest or lay brother in whatever order I choose to submit to. That only makes it more complicated though, as it doesn’t rule out lay orders, nor does it rule out clerical ones. It seems no matter what I’d want to do, the opportunity is there through the many forms of Religious Life in the Church.

How do you make your way through this morass? Is something meant to jump out at you? I don’t have the time or money to go travelling all over, making retreats with all these different orders. Should I try different aspects of their different rules of life? I’d appreciate some help.

And then, to top it all, I don’t even know if I’m called to religious life. Maybe I’m getting tied up in all these different forms of Catholic religious spirituality as an escape from the responsibility to live faithfully the lay spirituality of the life where I find myself now, as a single lay person in academic life.
 
First thing, don’t panic. Remember this is not entirely up to you. In discernment you do have to have an understanding of yourself, your desires and whatnot, but it is more about listening to God. He’ll let you know. You’re not shopping for a car.

Pray about it. Try to find a good spiritual dierector. (Ask your parish priest or the diocesan vocation director to recommend one.)

You may want to make a short visit to an active community and a contemplative community to see if and how you would fit into that. Or you may want to see some of the major orders just so you have an idea of who they are. Or you may just want to start writing some of the communities that appeal to you.

Just remember that you are not shopping. You don’t have to try every one. You don’t have to find the perfect one. You just have to look and trust that God will reveal the right one to you. You’ll know when you find it.
 
How do you feel called to serve the Church?

What charisms are attractive to you?

What charisms are complementary to how you feel called to serve the Church?

Consider that you said that you wonder if the Church, “needs priests and scholars more than it needs someone with a PhD to spend the rest of his days cooking and cleaning in silence.” Now, I would warn of course that you enter the type of order that attracts you, and not just do what you think you ought to do. But let’s suppose that you want to do priestly and scholarly work.

Well, doesn’t that from the outset exclude the entire litany, the entire laundry list of good orders which you launched into in that paragraph of yours? The Institute of Christ the King is great, but you aren’t going to be a priest-scholar with them… you’re going to be a diocesan priest in a fraternal society. Likewise, those innumerable small orders which serve the poor-- do they really fit into what God is calling you?

That is a way in which you can quickly cut down the list of orders to look in to, leaving you more free to rank and pursue the orders which you do think fit you.

In fact, something tells me that your own ordering indicates what you really think, and that this panic about too many choices isn’t too big of a problem. 🙂 1. Salesians, 2. Dominicans, 3. conventual Franciscans.

Sounds lovely and manageable. They are the only ones which you admittedly noted to have the sort of intellectual emphasis you wanted.

Three isn’t too bad.

Start reading about them. And start planning trips over a period of time. The Blackfriars can’t be too far outside of London, can they be? I don’t know where the other two orders are.

Don’t worry, God’s not going to let you miss the boat on the order that’s right for you. 😛 Worse comes to worse, you decide that you don’t really like any of those and then… you check out the other orders.

Personally, I think praying with the community a bit and forming some relationships with some of the brothers might be really helpful in discerning. That might start with a visit… perhaps it might be continued through correspondence. God bless,

Rob
 
You list yourself as Tiber 2008. So you have at least one year before you’re even eligible to join anything. Also you should be confirmed, if you aren’t already.

I agree that you need a good spiritual director, one who’s used to directing people of your background.

Surely you can visit orders around London and in England and the UK. One of the largest charterhouses is in or not far from London.

In the end you should follow your inclinations and natural desires, not what you think you ‘should’ do with your background. Who knows, you may become a Carthusian after all. Or married!
 
You list yourself as Tiber 2008. So you have at least one year before you’re even eligible to join anything. Also you should be confirmed, if you aren’t already.

I agree that you need a good spiritual director, one who’s used to directing people of your background.

Surely you can visit orders around London and in England and the UK. One of the largest charterhouses is in or not far from London.

In the end you should follow your inclinations and natural desires, not what you think you ‘should’ do with your background. Who knows, you may become a Carthusian after all. Or married!
I’m actually in Glasgow, I can’t seem to change my profile for some reason.

I guess if I had to cut it down, I’d cut the list down to:
Redemptorists
Conventual Franciscans
Salesians

There are Redemptorists in Scotland, and Conventuals in London (who I might be able to stay with while I finish some of my PhD research!) I have been confirmed, and still have 18months-2yrs to run on a PhD before I can think about starting anything.

I wrote to the Carthusians, they won’t even have me in for a visit until 2 or 3 years have passed. Who knows, maybe I’ll join another order and ‘migrate’ to the Carthusians later in life. They seem to have a particular charism for 2nd vocations like that, indeed, this was the means of St Bruno’s own call to contemplation.

You say I should follow my natural inclinations. That would lead me towards marriage. In a way, I feel like I need a vocations director to tell me “this isn’t for you, go and get married”, before I have God’s permission to marry. Also, my career path (I’ve always thought academia should be a clerical thing, and in the UK it doesn’t really pay enough to raise a family on a single income) seems to militate against faithful marriage.

PS, I already have a great Spiritual Director. I trust his advice. It’s always good to talk to others who are going through the same process though.
 
How can you be sure one is called by God. I know one girl who is very easily led by people she trusts. The fact that she has trouble deciding on her own worries me. She “feels” led but her “Spiritual director” has also “led” her in that direction.

She is from a broken family (abusive household) and I sincerely think she is trying to “get away from the world”. She was “led” into the SSPX and is very faithful to them. Her SSPX priest is her spiritual director. I hope he isn’t just trying to add to their numbers. I have met this priest and my assessment is not far from the truth.

She has visited a convent in Mass. called the Fransican Sisters of the Immaculate. She says they are not SSPX but are of a “pontifical right” I really don’t know that much about convents as “pontifical right”. Can anyone help me understand “Pontifical right”. or lead me to where I can find out if this convent is one of the SSPX’s.
 
I tried to find an order who is vegan/vegetarian. The vocations contact and myself haven’t found any, even though the founders of some were vegetarian.
What is the first step to start a community?
 
I tried to find an order who is vegan/vegetarian. The vocations contact and myself haven’t found any, even though the founders of some were vegetarian.
What is the first step to start a community?
Two spring to mind - the Minims (Franciscans who take a 4th vow of vegetarianism. Unfortunately, they haven’t had much success outside of Italy, so you’d probably have to move there to join them.) and the Carthusians (a bit extreme, but there you are.)

There may be particular Benedictine houses or similar who have adopted a vegetarian diet. You can always ask.
 
She has visited a convent in Mass. called the Fransican Sisters of the Immaculate. She says they are not SSPX but are of a “pontifical right” I really don’t know that much about convents as “pontifical right”. Can anyone help me understand “Pontifical right”. or lead me to where I can find out if this convent is one of the SSPX’s.
The FSSP and the Institute of Christ the King are both institutes of Pontifical right. I think it means they are fraternities which don’t belong to an order or a diocese, but have been directly sanctioned by the Holy See. Both of those are very traditional but also faithful to the Pope (the only difference I can tell between the FSSP and the SSPX is that the former are in good standing with the Church.)

The Franciscans of the Immaculate are a traditionalist group of Franciscans, with a strong Marian devotion, started by St Maximilian Kolbe. I have never met any of the sisters, but have met a few friars, and they seem very holy and faithful to the Church.
 
Since you are in Glasgow, how about spending a few days of silent retreat at Pluscarden Abbey?
 
Two spring to mind - the Minims (Franciscans who take a 4th vow of vegetarianism. Unfortunately, they haven’t had much success outside of Italy, so you’d probably have to move there to join them.) and the Carthusians (a bit extreme, but there you are.)

There may be particular Benedictine houses or similar who have adopted a vegetarian diet. You can always ask.
moved comment to respond to another query.
 
I tried to find an order who is vegan/vegetarian. The vocations contact and myself haven’t found any, even though the founders of some were vegetarian.
What is the first step to start a community?
I think that the larger monastic houses may offer veg as an option–those with quite a few members who eat buffet-style. There is a lot of interest in religious life these days ein ecology/green/stewardship etc.–the entire spectrum, which includes eating lower on the food chain. There’s wind/solar/special building techniques–lots of stuff going on. I think that the larger Benedictine and Franciscan groups might be very sympathetic to a veg inquirer—tho’ they might ask you to enter with your recipes and put you in the kitchen! Don’t be afraid to inquire. I think that adhering to a veg diet of whatever type shows that you have principles and discipline–good attributes for religious life.

I don’t know any orders that have animal welfare as an apostolate, tho’.
 
By looking at your signature, I see you only officially came into the Church just over a year ago. Most orders will require you to wait a couple years before considering you as a candidate.

If you were in the States or a couple of the other European countries, I would of suggested the Order of Canons Regular of the Holy Cross (ORC). They are a very traditional order that helps out at my parish. One of the priests there was one of the first to celebrate the Extraordinary Form of the Mass on EWTN. They are a small order, but are growing. My regular confessor is an ORC.

They also run the confraternity I belong to.
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How can you be sure one is called by God. I know one girl who is very easily led by people she trusts. The fact that she has trouble deciding on her own worries me. She “feels” led but her “Spiritual director” has also “led” her in that direction.

She is from a broken family (abusive household) and I sincerely think she is trying to “get away from the world”. She was “led” into the SSPX and is very faithful to them. Her SSPX priest is her spiritual director. I hope he isn’t just trying to add to their numbers. I have met this priest and my assessment is not far from the truth.

She has visited a convent in Mass. called the Fransican Sisters of the Immaculate. She says they are not SSPX but are of a “pontifical right” I really don’t know that much about convents as “pontifical right”. Can anyone help me understand “Pontifical right”. or lead me to where I can find out if this convent is one of the SSPX’s.
Hi. A vocation is merely discerning where God is calling someone to be. I’m in the process of it, and it’s hard business.

The SSPX isn’t necessarily evil.

I’ve heard about the Franciscans of the Immaculate, in addition to the FSI. They aren’t SSPX. Apparently, they used to be under the “Ordinary Form”, but now have almost completely gone to the “Extraordinary Form”, as far as I can tell.

Their website is here:
marymediatrix.com/religious-life/sisters-of-the-immaculate
We are the Franciscan Sisters of the Immaculate, a religious community of sisters faithful to the Holy Father, the Pope. We are a pontifical institute who are clothed with the angelic garment of the Immaculate Virgin and clad with sandals of seraphic poverty, prayer, penance and perfect joy.
On the website, they have a picture of their sisters kissing the hands of Pope John Paul II.

In addition, the Friars (the men) have been given “control” of the Shrine of Our Lady of Guadalupe in La Crosse, Wisconsin, which was built by Arch. Burke when he was bishop of La Crosse.

So, overall, the Franciscans of the Immaculate seem to be traditional, but not SSPX.

Prayers for the lady you know, and the OP

OP:
Narrow down your list, find yourself a good spiritual director, and pray - hard! 😉
 
There is a tendency on this forum, and maybe also on phatmass, to favor conservative orders. Latin, the extraordinary form, penance, ultra-Marian devotion(special vows, etc). This is over and above what the standard Franciscan, Salesian, Dominican orders may be doing.

One thing that you should discern with your spiritual director is the direction your vocation should take* within* the religious life, in addition to whether you should elect religious life at all.

I would consider SSPX off limits for Roman Catholics until all of it re-unites with Rome, unequivocally.
 
There is a tendency on this forum, and maybe also on phatmass, to favor conservative orders. Latin, the extraordinary form, penance, ultra-Marian devotion(special vows, etc). This is over and above what the standard Franciscan, Salesian, Dominican orders may be doing.

One thing that you should discern with your spiritual director is the direction your vocation should take* within* the religious life, in addition to whether you should elect religious life at all.

I would consider SSPX off limits for Roman Catholics until all of it re-unites with Rome, unequivocally.
Do you know that up until 40 years ago, everything the “conservative” orders are doing now were STANDARD FARE for Franciscans, Salesians, and Dominicans?

Also, those “conservative” orders are also the ones that have bursting vocations.

I won’t speak to the SSPX here, aside from saying they are not evil. We spend our time better by praying for their full and complete reunion with the Church, rather than bickering on things that have been bickered about for 30 years. 😃
 
Do you know that up until 40 years ago, everything the “conservative” orders are doing now were STANDARD FARE for Franciscans, Salesians, and Dominicans?

Also, those “conservative” orders are also the ones that have bursting vocations.

I won’t speak to the SSPX here, aside from saying they are not evil. We spend our time better by praying for their full and complete reunion with the Church, rather than bickering on things that have been bickered about for 30 years. 😃
I am not bickering. I am simply addressing the original interests of the OP. The drift on forums is towards a certain group of orders, ignoring others. He is asking how to sort them through. I think that we have already answered his question in a general way, without having to recommend certain orders. He will decide for himself what his course will be.
 
I am not bickering. I am simply addressing the original interests of the OP. The drift on forums is towards a certain group of orders, ignoring others. He is asking how to sort them through. I think that we have already answered his question in a general way, without having to recommend certain orders. He will decide for himself what his course will be.
Right. Apologies if I came off mean.
 
I’m actually in Glasgow, I can’t seem to change my profile for some reason.

I guess if I had to cut it down, I’d cut the list down to:
Redemptorists
Conventual Franciscans
Salesians

There are Redemptorists in Scotland, and Conventuals in London (who I might be able to stay with while I finish some of my PhD research!) I have been confirmed, and still have 18months-2yrs to run on a PhD before I can think about starting anything.

I wrote to the Carthusians, they won’t even have me in for a visit until 2 or 3 years have passed. Who knows, maybe I’ll join another order and ‘migrate’ to the Carthusians later in life. They seem to have a particular charism for 2nd vocations like that, indeed, this was the means of St Bruno’s own call to contemplation.

You say I should follow my natural inclinations. That would lead me towards marriage. In a way, I feel like I need a vocations director to tell me “this isn’t for you, go and get married”, before I have God’s permission to marry. Also, my career path (I’ve always thought academia should be a clerical thing, and in the UK it doesn’t really pay enough to raise a family on a single income) seems to militate against faithful marriage.

PS, I already have a great Spiritual Director. I trust his advice. It’s always good to talk to others who are going through the same process though.
*Blessings and welcome!
It is good thing that you have a spiritual director. I would encourage you to work with him. Perhaps go on a few retreats? Get involved in your parish? Have your director help you discern if marriage is the right vocation for you ? Or the religious life? Have him help you in the discernment process. (perhaps to help him draw up a list of your thoughts pro and con of each???)
Once you have a clear indication of whether or not you are called to marriage or if indeed to the religious life then perhaps you can start prioritizing orders and ways of life . If indeed he feels you are called to religious life then he can help you to figure out if your calling is to be a brother? a monk? a priest? active? or not???

Even though you have other priorites like the time frame from conversion, and the finishing of your phd… you can still discern your calling and go on retreats (to discern religious vocations, or to deepen spiritual life or to determine if called to marriage) There are lots of things you can do so you are not “waiting for two years”… do speak to your director… Blessings and congrats on your course work!*
 
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