It is also interesting that the US is considered to be very rule conscious: they will cry and moan, and kick the traces if they don’t like the rule. Europe, however, will not disagree with the rule; they will smile and promise compliance, and then do as they please.
It is very difficult for Americans to grasp this; that Europe (and last I recall, we have had European popes for a bit of time, and not a few Cardinals and bishops in the Curia) is the home base for the rule makers, who generally follow cultural trends (and how they respond to law is in large part a cultural viewpoint), and when they make rules, they do so primarily from a viewpoint of how Europeans look at laws. They often have a hard time dealing with Americans apparent obsessiveness with rules and their application.
In short, we tend to look at rules as absolutes, and they tend to look at rules as guidelines. As I said, “tend” as any given circumstance can make a lie out of the general observation.
Just as there is a hierarchy of doctrine, there generally is a hierarchy of rules; some are more important than others and are absolutes; others are less important and are guidlines.
Even guidelines are not to be completely ignored. The point comes where the line is drawn; and most often, Americans tend to draw the lines as absolutes; and that is not always the case. A bit like moderation in all things, including moderation.
There are those in these fora who come across as liturgical police, and I have to echo what I feel I have heard herein; we are at Mass to meet Christ, to be nourished by His Word and His Body, to give praise, petition, thanksgiving and reparation. When we focus on the rules - play liturgical police - we are walking towards the position of putting form over substance. Not all do, but I can pretty well guarantee, being an observer of human behavior, that some do. The Mass just isn’t right unless every jot and tittle have been properly and correctly addressed; one has to wonder if the issue is Phariseeism or magic.
On the other hand, some are more sensitive to liturgical rubrics and are disturbed by abberations, and it does impede their worship. Whether that is due to an increased awareness of what is or is not supposed to happen - meaning the amount of expirimentation that has occured these last 38 years has caused this sensitivity - or is just an inordinate need for order I don’t know. But I think the OP is correct; if our primary focus is on meeting Christ in the Mass, and we keep it there, a lot of the angst over any specific rule can be diminshed.
The attitude that Rome said it and obedience is paramount has a very good result in that the important rules are obeyed, as they should be. It also results in making rules that are meant as guidlines - to be most generally observed, to be ends in themselves, and to take on a level of importance that overshadows the purpose behind the rule.