Dryness in Prayer

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Whenever I pray, its incredibly boring and dull, and what I dread all day. I do it only because I know it is best and because its what I have to do. I pray my prayers in my books and little Holy Cards, and it comes to simply feel like I’m reading some flowery words over and over again. Any suggestions?
 
I have some of those days. Try this though. When I start to pray the Rosary, I say each work like I mean it. I say each word and concentrate really hard on what I am saying. Sometimes I am just too tired or I just can’t concentrate, but it is so exciting when I can do it this way. I close my eyes to where they are really tight and then I listen to every word that I say.

It is not really that hard. It makes it so much more interesting praying this way too.
 
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Whenever I pray, its incredibly boring and dull, and what I dread all day. I do it only because I know it is best and because its what I have to do. I pray my prayers in my books and little Holy Cards, and it comes to simply feel like I’m reading some flowery words over and over again. Any suggestions?
St. Therese of Lisieux wrote in a letter: "When I feel nothing, when I am INCAPABLE of praying or practicing virtue, then is the moment to look for small occasions, nothings that give Jesus more pleasure than the empire of the world, more even than martyrdom generously suffered. For example a smile, a friendly word, when I would much prefer to say nothing at all or look bored."

I can’t recall the exact words, but one of the Saints said that prayer was like having a conversation with our best friend who knows us very well.

Keep the faith!
 
Ask Blessed Teresa of Calcutta (Mother Teresa) to intervene for you. She experienced thirty-five (35!) years of spiritual dryness, but never once gave up her several holy hours per day.
 
I think we all have dryness at one time or another. I have found in my experience to keep on praying - you know the Lord is listening, even if we don’t think so. 👍
 
Try just closing your eyes and listening. More often then not I dont even have a clue as to what I need from God. Prayer is a two way conversation not a repeating motion all the time. A nice quiet adoration is chapel is the best but anyplace will do.

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Be Still and Know That I Am God" (Psalm 45:11)

Rev. Fr. Andrew Jarmus
Director of Missions, Education and
Communications, UOCC

Two of my favorite stories about prayer come from Metropolitan Anthony Bloom’s book, Living Prayer. The first is about an old man who would sit in church for hours, without praying. When asked what he was doing just sitting in the church, he replied, “I look at Him, He looks at me and we are happy together.” The other story is about a woman who had prayed constantly, repeating the Jesus Prayer, for 14 years yet never felt the presence of God and never heard Him speaking to her. Then someone pointed out to her that for 14 years, she had been talking but had never stopped long enough to listen. Both stories point out an important concept that the Fathers of the Church have stressed throughout the ages. That is the concept of “hesychia” or stillness and silence.

If we take a close look at our world, we will see that almost every aspect of our lives is filled with noise. Noise for the ears, noise for the eyes and especially noise for the mind. It is very seldom that we take an opportunity to be without noise or distraction. One Orthodox nun talks about the abundance of signs and advertising that she notices on her trips outside her monastery - “visual noise” which we take for granted. Sit and listen at various times of the day and try to find moments in which you are in complete silence. Try sometime to go a day without initiating some sort of noise such as the TV, radio, telephone, stereo, etc.

In North America, we spend our lives on the go ¾ working, playing, always “doing”, always active. The Protestant work ethic, prevalent in our world, tells us that unless we are doing something, we cannot accomplish anything edifying. The Orthodox Church teaches us that silence and stillness is the starting point of spiritual growth and it is also its final achievement. There must be a time when we stop everything, good or bad, and alertly wait, simply standing in God’s presence, ready for whatever He chooses to give us.

The Fathers often speak of our prayer life as a lake which when agitated, even with the slightest ripple, cannot clearly reflect what is around it. The same lake, when still, provides a near perfect mirror image of it’s surroundings. Metropolitan Anthony states that “Silence is the state in which all the powers of the soul and all the faculties of the body are completely at peace, quiet and recollected, perfectly alert yet free from any turmoil or agitation.” He goes on to say that stillness is how we give God the opportunity to reveal Himself to us because it is in stillness that we are more likely to notice.

One of the great spiritual fathers of our Church, St. John of the Ladder, author of “The Ladder of Divine Ascent”, says stillness is “worshipping God unceasingly and waiting on Him.” St. John’s prescription for prayer is threefold: 1) Disengagement from every affair good and bad; 2) Urgent prayer; 3) Inviolable activity of the heart.

Step one means that we are to put all external and inner distractions and noisiness aside. These would also include mental images, expectations of God and even past experiences of Him. In order to achieve this state, we have to give up everything and remain alert so as to be ready for God to reveal Himself to us as He chooses to. As long as there is any outer or inner motion or activity, we are like the pond which has had it’s muddy bottom disturbed and no linger gives a clear view. As Christ says in the Sermon on the Mount, “Blessed are the pure in heart, for they shall see God.” (Matt 5:8) Step two refers to a rule of prayer and step three refers to ceaseless prayer such as the Jesus Prayer. He goes on to stress that “…just as you have to know the alphabet if you are to read books, so if you have missed out on the first task, you cannot enter upon the other two.”

In short, the start of prayer is to set aside time to practice stillness and silence. Sit or stand before God in a quiet place and try to rid yourself of all thoughts and actions. Then be alert and wait quietly for God to act. Start with short periods and try to increase them in length with time and practice. The end of prayer is to reach a level of comfort with God that no words need to be spoken and that you are comfortable just being in His presence. This is when real prayer can begin.

uocc.ca/silence.html
 
I don’t know if I can help you fully with your problem because I, too, have struggled with personal prayer all my life. However, I take comfort in the fact that even the greatest mystics experienced periods of dryness and alienation from God. Nevertheless, their advice is to hang on to prayer like a drowning person would hang on to a rope. God’s grace eventually, somehow, dispels the darkness, and sunshine returns. That is, at least until the next bout in the ups and downs of life, as we hopefully grow and mature.

Fr. Ted Stylianopoulos beliefnet.com/author/author_91.html

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