Easily Angered

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Hey everyone,

I wanted to know, as a Catholic, what would be the best way for someone who let’s his/her anger get the better of him/her deal with that anger? People often are known to say mean things, and they simply refuse to apologize for them. It’s these hurtful things that tend to cause others to go so far as to commit murder, suicide, or perhaps some other drastic measure. How does one “deal with it”? :confused: (Especially if that one is Catholic).

-MontChevalier
 
How does one “deal with it”? :confused: (Especially if that one is Catholic).

-MontChevalier
Love him/her anyway. 👍

We should everyday contemplate Jesus on the cross, for, as St. Paul said, “We preach Christ crucified” (1 Corinthians 1:23). That is why it is best that we have a crucifix always with us: at home, around our neck, in our hearts.

So let us contemplate Jesus on the crucifix, right now.

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Let us look at Jesus. Can He push you away? No, His arms are now always open to accept your embrace. Can He leave you? No, His feet are nailed, never to walk away from you. Is there any impediment to His love for you? No, His side is pierced open, nothing will separate His Heart from you. And so it should be for all of us Christians to those who have hurt us.

Lastly, we should remember that, before He died, Jesus prayed for all those who had hated, hurt, and killed him, “Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do.” This should always be our prayer too for those who hurt us.

God love you.
 
Love him/her anyway. 👍

We should everyday contemplate Jesus on the cross, for, as St. Paul said, “We preach Christ crucified” (1 Corinthians 1:23). That is why it is best that we have a crucifix always with us: at home, around our neck, in our hearts.

So let us contemplate Jesus on the crucifix, right now.

http://cache2.artprintimages.com/p/LRG/21/2129/T9WED00Z/art-print/diego-velázquez-crucifixion-1632.jpg

Let us look at Jesus. Can He push you away? No, His arms are now always open to accept your embrace. Can He leave you? No, His feet are nailed, never to walk away from you. Is there any impediment to His love for you? No, His side is pierced open, nothing will separate His Heart from you. And so it should be for all of us Christians to those who have hurt us.

Lastly, we should remember that, before He died, Jesus prayed for all those who had hated, hurt, and killed him, “Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do.” This should always be our prayer too for those who hurt us.

God love you.
Dearly beloved friend,

Cordial greetings and a very good day. Thankyou for the above.

The best and most effective form of ‘anger management’, to use the modern parlance, is indeed to look to Jesus on the Crucifix frequently and to remember that our dear Lord died to save us from this sin (and many others) and the dreadful things that can result from it, if it is not checked early.

O Sacred Heart of Jesus, I implore, That I may love Thee daily more and more". That is surely our antidote to anger.

Warmest good wishes,

Portrait

Pax
 
I think it depends on a person’s upbringing, not that I’m specifically attacking any sort of parenting, but it goes back to the fact that some parents oversensitize their children towards compulsive reactions to swearing, ill treatment etc. Some parents just teach their children to “fight back” and “give them the same treatment”. In the end, it is an issue of maturity, and no, this isn’t gained by reading books, it depends on the person’s character and how they develop and train themselves to control their emotions. The best way to limit anger is, to always act as if the stimulus that is driving the reaction is not there. It is hard, but it takes time. Slowly, you will retreat from whatever it is that normaly arouses any anger feeling. Pray for it, and I’m sure you will receive it.
 
I don’t suppose there are any prayers or novenas that might help?

-MontChevalier
 
I don’t suppose there are any prayers or novenas that might help?

-MontChevalier
I would say the Chaplet to the Divine Mercy.

ewtn.com/devotionals/mercy/dmmap.htm

There are many ways to make the Chaplet a meditational prayer like the Rosary. This is my favorite, based on the Wounds of Christ.

On the first decade, meditate on the Head of Christ pierced with the Crown of Thorns. Meditate on the different sins you have done against humility, i.e. against making Christ the Head of your life. Meditate also on the sins using your head, i.e. using imagination, on looking, hearing, and saying what you were not supposed to. Finally, meditate on the sins of the head by others. Meditate especially on the deleterious effects of these sins on the sinner and the sinned, especially on God, the one ultimately offended by sin. For all of these, offer the sacrifice of Christ in reparation.

On the second decade, if you are right-handed, meditate on the Right Hand of Christ nailed on the Cross (if left handed, meditate on Christ’s Left Hand). Meditate on the different sins made by your hands, both of commission and ommission. Meditate also the sins of the hands of others. Again, meditate especially on the deleterious effects of these sins on the sinner and the sinned, especially on God, the one ultimately offended by sin. For all of these, offer the sacrifice of Christ in reparation.

On the third decade, if you are right handed, meditate on the Left Hand of Christ pierced by the nail (if left handed, meditate on Christ’s Right Hand). The non-dominant arm is usually the weaker of the pair, so meditate on the weak and little of this world, and on the sins against them by you and others. Again, meditate especially on the deleterious effects of these sins on the sinner and the sinned, especially on God, the one ultimately offended by sin. For all of these, offer the sacrifice of Christ in reparation.

On the fourth decade, meditate on the Feet of Christ nailed to the Cross. Meditate on the occasions of sin you should have walked away from, and on the occasions of love that you should have stayed. Meditate also on the sins of others in this regard. Again, meditate especially on the deleterious effects of these sins on the sinner and the sinned, especially on God, the one ultimately offended by sin. For all of these, offer the sacrifice of Christ in reparation.

On the fifth decade, meditate on the Wound at the Side of Christ. Have you loved God enough, or were there occasions in which you exchanged God for something else? Have you loved others enough? Did you overcome obstacles to love them, or have you put up those obstacles themselves? Again, meditate especially on the deleterious effects of these sins on the sinner and the sinned, especially on God, the one ultimately offended by sin. For all of these, offer the sacrifice of Christ in reparation.

God love you.
 
Dearly beloved friend,

Cordial greetings and a very good day. Thankyou for the above.

The best and most effective form of ‘anger management’, to use the modern parlance, is indeed to look to Jesus on the Crucifix frequently and to remember that our dear Lord died to save us from this sin (and many others) and the dreadful things that can result from it, if it is not checked early.

O Sacred Heart of Jesus, I implore, That I may love Thee daily more and more". That is surely our antidote to anger.

Warmest good wishes,

Portrait

Pax
You’re welcome, and thank you: the Peace I receive, I share with you 🙂
 
This is from the diary of St. Teresa of the Andes:
“The priest told me that three things are necessary to avoid impatience: 1. Not to manifest my anger exteriorly; 2. To be lovable with the person who causes my anger; and 3. To be silent, to put down anger in my heart.”
Pray for the person who angers you and do good for them and meditate on the sufferings and mercy of our Crucified Savior… and there’s no shame in taking flight from the situation if you feel your anger boiling over.
 
This is from the diary of St. Teresa of the Andes:

Pray for the person who angers you and do good for them and meditate on the sufferings and mercy of our Crucified Savior… and there’s no shame in taking flight from the situation if you feel your anger boiling over.
You’ll find this might be harder for me than you know. 😦
The people who cause me anger are constantly doing bad things and manipulating and manipulating…and manipulating. Ugh…it’s madness. Frustration is one of the chief problems in my life.

-MontChevalier
 
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