You know, a lot of Anglicans feel this way towards the Catholic Church. And then Catholics say “sorry, you are outside the Church and you must come back to her, even though we know we are all brothers in Christ” Unity has to be real unity, we cannot forget about serious doctrinal issues.
Well, that’s fine, I can understand that position, even if I do not agree with parts of it.
What I find weird is when those same people get all upset when the Orthodox say the same thing to them, as if it is some personal affront.
Of course this is a false comparison. The Anglicans, for one very important consideration, have no valid sacraments. They allowed the bishops who had the charisms die away for almost two centuries without passing them on to others. By the time they realized the error of throwing away the sacraments, there was no one left with apostolic succession or the powers of effecting the sacraments. Furthermore, the differences between what anglicanism had been holding to in belief and catholicism had involved a wide gap, nothing like what the orthodox purpot to be the differences in the faiths of the catholic and orthodox churches. Of course progress is being made(Anglican and Catholic talks) for sure, and we eagerly wait the day we can enjoy union, just as we do with the Eastern Orthodox and the Oriental Orthodox.
One of the problems between Catholic and Eastern Orthodox efforts towards union is ofcourse this awful habit of insisting on ascribing to the other side what
you think
they teach. Honest polemics, I saw described somewhere else, involves first understanding what the other side’s position actually is- This involves a series of questions, the other side answers, you repeat the answer as you understand it, the other side confirms or clarifies and then again until you’re both clear on what each actually means and
then proceed to debate on the merits of each position. You don’t insist “you hold this, and I don’t agree with it” when the other side is saying “Actually, I have no idea what you’re talking about, coz what I
actually hold is this” And then you go “No, but I believe you hold this position, and that’s that!” This attitude is what Catholics complain about- the dishonest polemics- Not the waiting first of reaching agreements before union. We know without honest, open discussions, everything else is moot.
Catholics don’t want to just fly into union with EO as you suggest- What we
do want is to engage in honest talks and discussions. First- To remove any misunderstandings so that we are all clear what we truly
do agree on, to get that out of the way. After all, why spend any more decades/centuries arguing over something
nobody in fact teaches or believes? Secondly, what we do differ on to ask- Is that truly a contradiction or difference in emphases, understanding, language, tradition etc.