Effects of premarital sex

[Charlotte2008]

Just another thought…

Our priest once said in a sermon (Anglican Church) that if you imagine two people at pieces of paper. When they have sex those pieces of paper are being glued together. When you try and pull them apart cleanly you cannot because you will always leave part of yourself “on” the other person.

I thought that summed it up very well.

 

[Janet_S]

Pookie, I think you have given the best testimony so far.

Also, the point many have made about the connection between sex and oxytocin is a good one too.

Also, since most premarital sex involves birth control, the following study gives evidence of how premarital sex involving the pill can be detrimental to a future marriage:

“Pill Users Choose ‘Wrong’ Sex Partners”
emedicinehealth.com/script/main/art.asp?articlekey=91795

Aug. 12, 2008 — A woman is sexually attracted to men who smell like a good genetic match, but birth control pills make her desire the “wrong” men, a U.K. study shows.

 

[brigid12]

The most important thing that premarital sex does is break God’s Commandment.

 

[kyria]

Hopefully one day I will feel clean again.

He will make you clean if you let Him.

 

[otjm]

The most important thing that premarital sex does is break God’s Commandment.

Yes; however, it is much more powerful to understand the “why” of it. I was taught the
commandment; but not the “why”; and what is so amazing is that there is so much in the physical world that does explain it. When I was taught the commandment, it was pretty much answered “Because!” when I asked “why?”. “Because I said so!” “Because God said so”.

The answers are true; but they pale into insignificance whne one begins to understand the “why”. “You’ll go to hell if you do” doesn’t carry as much weight as an explanation of why waiting is so much in tune with nature (and Who made nature???) and the results of not following the Commandment in the here and now make so much more sense.

 

[yellowbicycle]

Pookie-
You should write a book.
Seriously.
That was beautiful, just beautiful

 

[Pookie_Dupre]

Pookie-
You should write a book.
Seriously.
That was beautiful, just beautiful

Well, yellowbike, many people of my generation live very similar lives. Especially “Cajun” girls were taught by their Mothers the value God places on the “self” of a person … that the body is a temple … that God lives there continuously … and that you are to respect God’s temple above all else. You were to be extremely conscience of who you let in. That any desecration to that temple would be the measure my which you would have to live … with your head down forever in submission … or with your head held high forever in respect! Just as given free will so the choice to do the “right thing” was a personal one. To always remember what choice you made … you would have to be the one “alone” to always live with that choice. That was a lesson repeated constantly by my mother … gentle but firmly … so much so … that it became a habit in “thought” that saved me … for today!

Also it didn’t hurt that I went to mass everyday for the first 23 years of my life!! It was what we did … say our evening prayers, go to bed and first thing in the morning slip from under the covers … kneel and say morning prayers, make our beds, dress, and go to God’s house for a visit … before beginning the day. We had fisherman’s mass at 5:30am. It really was quite BEAUTIFUL because we lived in a small town and everyone would be walking to church while still dark … my brother Charles use to carry me on his shoulders when I was small! I am the youngest of ten children. Not everyone in the family could go to mass … some had to be at work or doing chores … but Momma and the younger ones would go.

After mass we would come home, make breakfast for the others, do our chores and then go to school. It was a good life and I am so grateful to God that he gave me to my family in the year of our lord 1938 … one cold and frost morning in November. Actually who I am today really began way back then.

That is why I never forget to say, “by the grace of God” when I claim a “decision” … many blessings have been given to me in order for me to be able to do “the right thing”. And I am well aware from living so long in this world … not everyone has had the advantages I have had. I am not a BETTER person … but just a person, for whatever reason(?), who has been given “gifts” and people in my life to help me along the way. What else can I say,“Thank you JESUS.” If I can help just one young person to see the “light” from the beginning then I will have cast my bread on the water!!!

 

[thomfra]

There are not any specific negative aspects of sex without marriage per se.

There are, naturally, many negative aspects to having sex before one is really ready for the consequences etc , but those are the same whether one is married or not.

 

[thomfra]

Finally, it just makes sex a biological thing, just a very short-term physical pleasure. A LOT of romance withers and dies away. It becomes just a handshake…

Are you basing this on personal experience, or some propaganda you read?

 

[thomfra]

Pre-marital sex separates the sex from the marital commitment, therefore becoming something that provides mutual masterbation

So are you saying that people who love one another deeply, and have sex together are merely “mutally masterbating”. What a silly statement.

 

[chris_molter]

So are you saying that people who love one another deeply, and have sex together are merely “mutally masterbating”. What a silly statement.

In a sense, it is silly. The uniative aspect is certainly present, however, by contracepting, the married couple has diluted the purpose of the marital act by eliminating the procreative aspect, which is, of course, the actual primary biological and theological purpose of the act.

 

[Captain_America]

Pookie: that’s a wonderful and very moving testimony! You’re impressive.