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josofarim40
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I’m sorry I’ve come across the way I have. I wish I could delete this post. I am sorry to anyone who was repulsed and pray for me please that I may be a true man of God
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yellowbird
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Remind me not to ask a question that makes other posters uncomfortable. I’ll get labeled a troll and told to keep my facts straight. Nice. To the OP - perhaps you should speak to a priest - I’m certain they hear it all. I’m going to assume you’re sincere and tell you that I’m sorry for your struggle. Peace be with you.
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Bruised_Reed
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I don’t see anything inconsistent in his posts. That the OP indicated that he believes it is sinful in his case that does not suggest that he has recently.In post #3 you said:
I don’t wear them. I was a varsity athelete in high school who did pushups and situps everyday for years. I’m not some soft person, I’ve resisted these feelings for ten years now.
I don’t know about wearing diapers but you certainly can’t keep your own facts straight.
Have a good day!
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Bruised_Reed
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I wish calling out posters as trolls was still against the rules.Don’t feed the trolls.
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Hoosier_Daddy
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I wish I had my own Catholic apostolate…
I wish there were no trolls at all.
I wish I was a little bit taller…
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Bruised_Reed
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I’m not repulsed; and I’ve heard of this before. Since this fetish isn’t abating even though you haven’t engaged in the behavior, therapy may be your best bet. Someone upthread suggested a priest with a background in psychology, and since you feel that it is sinful on your part, talking to a priest would be best.
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Bruised_Reed
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You could.
That would take a miracle.
Well, it used to be against the rules so it could be again, ya know?
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pianistclare
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it’s a forum.
trolls can be found anywhere.
Glad you have so much compassion,.
I tend to highly doubt first time posters when they have some bizarre thing to say.
It’s often a big “let’s get the Catholics all worked up” game.
I hope it’s a troll. I really do.
If it’s not, he won’t find answers on a forum full of strangers on the web.
OP: see a counselor if you’re for real. No one here can help you IRL.
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josofarim40
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I’m not a troll. I don’t know how to make it clear but I appreciate the advice and like I said I’m sorry I’ve upset some people. I’m just trying to do the right thing.it’s a forum.
trolls can be found anywhere.
Glad you have so much compassion,.
I tend to highly doubt first time posters when they have some bizarre thing to say.
It’s often a big “let’s get the Catholics all worked up” game.
I hope it’s a troll. I really do.
If it’s not, he won’t find answers on a forum full of strangers on the web.
OP: see a counselor if you’re for real. No one here can help you IRL.
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Bruised_Reed
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I know there are trolls all over. I also know that some people’s troll-dar isn’t very accurate.it’s a forum.
trolls can be found anywhere.
Glad you have so much compassion,.
I tend to highly doubt first time posters when they have some bizarre thing to say.
It’s often a big “let’s get the Catholics all worked up” game.
I hope it’s a troll. I really do.
If it’s not, he won’t find answers on a forum full of strangers on the web.
OP: see a counselor if you’re for real. No one here can help you IRL.
Trolls go away if the replies are kind, which is not what they are expecting from Catholics. Also, brevity helps. Engaging, asking for more details, and calling them trolls, is what encourages them.
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josofarim40
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does anyone have additional advice for me in regards to this? is it sinful to carry this out for the comfort?
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Hoosier_Daddy
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I think “comfort” is a word you are using to justify. None of us can determine your conscience and you have been told repeatedly to speak to your confessor. Now please go do so.
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yellowbird
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I think people turn to all sorts of things for comfort… drugs, alcohol, food, shopping, binge TV watching - and all can be destructive. I don’t know if wearing a diaper is destructive, any more than sitting around with a lampshade on your head is destructive. A diaper isn’t sinful… many people wear them out of necessity. It sounds sort of harmless, but another poster is correct in saying it may become an issue if your desire is to marry. Not sure what your wife will think of it so perhaps it’s better to find a more mainstream way of coping & comfort?
What I read from your posts is you wish you didn’t have to do this for comfort… so in my mind that’s the best reason to get some help. So you can feel better about yourself.
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mikekle
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Is this anything similar to the adults who like to pretend they are babies? I watched a documentary awhile back about men (and some women) in their 40s and 50s, they liked to wear diapers, other baby type clothes, they would lie on the floor and play with toys, some had custom furniture made, like a high chair and crib suitable for adults, some even paid other people to come over to their house and treat them like babies, nothing sexual about it, they would just talk to them like babies, feed them while they sat in a high chair, etc.
This could go to the level of a sexual fetish, but imo, it has something to do with their brains not developing in a certain area and for some reason, they feel the need to continue doing things a baby does.
I wouldnt say this reaches a sinful level, as long as thats all it is and no sexual fetishes involved, just a minor mental problem.
This could go to the level of a sexual fetish, but imo, it has something to do with their brains not developing in a certain area and for some reason, they feel the need to continue doing things a baby does.
I wouldnt say this reaches a sinful level, as long as thats all it is and no sexual fetishes involved, just a minor mental problem.
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Hoosier_Daddy
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I think it is beyond our pay grade to distinguish the sins of another. Lest we take responsibility for them ourselves. As far as a “minor” mental problem well let’s be realistic. If this young man has a wife and kids and daddy likes to sit in diapers and soil them or urinate in them for comfort well… That is not minor.
Op: let me ask you a question. How many people have to say it isn’t sinful for you to think it is a good and holy thing to do? 1? 100? See. That is the problem and you need to speak to a priest.
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josofarim40
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You’re right. I really need to put this in the hands of the Lord and fight this. It’s gravely disordered and it’s humiliating to consider. I engaged in it today for the first time in 7 years and it is gravely disordered. I’m ashamed of myself and will be going to confession later today. Thank you for the time you’ve all put in to these replies. Hoosier is right, I need to start taking responsibility for myself.
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josofarim40
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I spoke to three different priests.
One said it was outright sinful, another said gave a more qualified response that I could try it, and it wouldn’t be very sinful if I was conscious of my feelings but the better way would be to “give it to God” and pray for an end to temptation. The third priest said there was nothing sinful about it if there was no masturbation involved and said it was a distraction but not sinful.
I don’t know what to do. Wearing makes me feel so comfortable but I also feel a sort of shame afterwords. Hoosier Daddy I’m sorry I’m posting again. I’m trying to take responsibilty and me reaching out is just to reconcile the different advice given to me by these priests.
One said it was outright sinful, another said gave a more qualified response that I could try it, and it wouldn’t be very sinful if I was conscious of my feelings but the better way would be to “give it to God” and pray for an end to temptation. The third priest said there was nothing sinful about it if there was no masturbation involved and said it was a distraction but not sinful.
I don’t know what to do. Wearing makes me feel so comfortable but I also feel a sort of shame afterwords. Hoosier Daddy I’m sorry I’m posting again. I’m trying to take responsibilty and me reaching out is just to reconcile the different advice given to me by these priests.
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Maximilan_Kolbe
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I wish I was a baller, I wish I had a girl who looked good, I would call her…
Sorry, your post took me back.
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OP, I would look at it as a mental health issue, and add counseling to your continued prayer. Prayer is wonderful, but we have means at our disposal to help us combat our failed tendencies. Men who struggle with lust can spend time in adoration AND install an internet filter. Women who sturggle with spending can cut up their credit cards AND pray about it for strength. Use the tools God has given us, in addition to prayer.
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