Empty intimacy

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OraLabora said:
I like to joke that for women to enjoy sex, the planets and stars have to be lined just so, the kids come home with great report cards, their hubby takes them out to dinner, and her mother hasn’t called in 3 days to complain she doesn’t call enough, but her mother-in-law called to get her great recipe for the meal she had when she last visited.

For a guy to enjoy sex he has to have a pulse.

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Seriously, been there, done that. In fact am there right now. I think menopause is God’s cruel joke on men. I think that’s why it’s called men-o-pause.
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A lot of truth in the above. In our case, is it possible menopause began in the early twenties and has lasted, so far, until thirty-three?
 
06convert said:
Might be time to play a little “hard to get”.
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I kind of agree. Sunday night, I tried to initiate, and it didn’t go anywhere. I think she could tell that I was frustrated. Last night, she called her dad early, while I was giving the kids a bath. I was really excited becaue I thought she was clearing the evening for us. I was wrong. Apparently, she was clearing the evening for some singing show.

I don’t ever want to turn her down, as I would be contradicting Scriptural instructions, but what I’m starting to experience is a little frightening, which is a lack of interest in sex because my anticipation of it is so intertwined with frustration. I think I’m going to take a little break from pursuing it. I’ll get a lot more reading done that way.
 
Awful_Things said:
I kind of agree. Sunday night, I tried to initiate, and it didn’t go anywhere. I think she could tell that I was frustrated. Last night, she called her dad early, while I was giving the kids a bath. I was really excited becaue I thought she was clearing the evening for us. I was wrong. Apparently, she was clearing the evening for some singing show.

I don’t ever want to turn her down, as I would be contradicting Scriptural instructions, but what I’m starting to experience is a little frightening, which is a lack of interest in sex because my anticipation of it is so intertwined with frustration. I think I’m going to take a little break from pursuing it. I’ll get a lot more reading done that way.
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Turning her down to make a point, or holding relations hostage is wrong. But declining it because you’re not 100% committed to it, or because it brings you more frustration than satisfaction is not wrong. There are sometimes I just flat out roll over and go to bed if she isn’t into it. It’s not wrong to expect all or nothing. It might take declining to open her eyes to your dissatisfaction.
 
I like to joke that for women to enjoy sex, the planets and stars have to be lined just so, the kids come home with great report cards, their hubby takes them out to dinner, and her mother hasn’t called in 3 days to complain she doesn’t call enough, but her mother-in-law called to get her great recipe for the meal she had when she last visited.
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This does NOT apply to all women
 
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