It is all part of the 3 dynamics of spiritual growth: Purgation, Illumination, Union.
We often think of purgation as “giving up” things we like, especially vices. And see it as our “Dark Night”. But that is only practice for the bigger things, the bigger surrenders that truly transform us, though in what seems a painful way.
I know he is not Catholic or even Christian but I find the wisdom of Sri Aurobindo t o be the most helpful to me on this journey. He refers to “Equality” which is the same as equinimity, a Christia n virtue.
"The knot of the ego is loosened and the personal claim begins to disappear, we find that we are no longer bound to joy in things pleasant or sorrow over the unpleasant; we bear them without either eager acceptance or troubled rejection, refer them to the Master of our being, concern ourselves less and less with their personal result to us and hold only one thing of importance, to approach God, or to be in touch and tune with the universal and infinite Existence, or to be united with the Divine, his channel, instrument, servant, lover, rejoicing in him and in our relation with him and having no other object or cause of joy or sorrow.
“Here too there may be for some time a division between the lower mind of habitual emotions and the higher psychical mind of love and self-giving, but eventually the former yields, changes, transforms itself, is swallowed up in the love, joy, delight of the Divine and has no other interests or attractions. Then all within is the equal peace and bliss of that union, the one silent bliss that passes understanding, the peace that abides untouched by the solicitation of lower things in the depths of our spiritual existence.” P. 714.
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