Ending My Marriage?

[newmommy72]

I’ve written a couple of posts before about my marriage and how it does not seem to be improving. This evening, my husband said, “I want out of this marriage” while we were disagreeing about something else. Although he apologized and said that he guesses he needs to rephrase things and choose his words more carefully, I don’t know any other way that I should feel but to be depressed. What is it going to take for me to realize that he just doesn’t want to be married to me anymore? If it weren’t for our daughter, I would have left by now and let him out of his misery. But, now she is here and sees me crying often and I don’t know where to turn. I have tried talking to priests and I can’t talk to family. I’m lost.

 

[the_phoenix]

Praying for you …

Hail Mary,
Full of Grace,
The Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women,
and blessed is the fruit
of thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary,
Mother of God,
pray for us sinners now,
and at the hour of our death.
Amen.

 

[Still_Hoping]

Hi,

I am very familiar with your situation. However, I don’t know much about why your husband wants out. It is very normal to have disagreements or to have different views but if you can’t agree to disagree well that is the part that you have to work out.

Often when a child comes into the picture the dynamics of the couple’s relationship change. Of course, one would assume that it is a miracle and something great, which it is but for some men it can be a situation where they feel or become insecure even jealous. Your diverted attention to this beautiful miracle, your child, may have him feeling useless or that his romantic feelings for you are set aside because of the time needed to raise and care for your child. Of course there can be other issues I am not aware of, however you both should be sharing in this new adventure of being parents and not considering divorce. This should be a beautiful time in your life.

Look deeper and find the love you once had even if it means comprimising a little. Make a date night just for you two; while a parent can care for the baby. If there are bigger issues then work them out with a priest(preferrably one that married you) and get therapy.

Please, try not to feel hopeless. I was in a worse situation. Pray to Jesus and recite the rosary. Pray with your child and teach her good things, happy things. She shouldn’t see you depressed; it’s ok to cry but get right back up. Good things will come.

God Bless

 

[Trishie]

Heavenly Father, in Your Son’s name I ask You to flood renewing life, light, and love into this marriage.

 

[Suslar]

Oh, your story makes my heart ache!

It’s a life I have already lived and believe me when I say that divorce does NOT end the pain but it only makes things worse.

Now as a single mom with that relationship annulled, things are so hard. I have to take care of my child 24/7 while he is off at bars and out with other women. And, I have the added pain of watching my child suffer life without a father.

I’d beg you to do EVERYTHING in your power to work through things with your husband. You loved him enough to marry him and bring a child into the world, so please try to rekindle that love. Have you seen the movie “Fireproof”? It is excellent at making the point about working through the tough times. In the movie, they talk about “the love dare” - and you can get that book at just about any Christian bookstore.

You are in my prayers. May our Blessed Mother and Dear St. Joseph help you rebuild your marriage to be the covenant that God designed.

 

[saveusfromhell]

Our Father who art in heaven,
hallowed be Thy name.
Thy kingdom come,
Thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread
and forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us.
And lead us not into temptation but deliever us from evil.
Amen.

Hail Mary,
Full of Grace,
The Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women,
and blessed is the fruit
of thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary,
Mother of God,
pray for us sinners now,
and at the hour of our death.
Amen.

Glory be to the Father, and to the Son, and to the Holy Spirit,
as it was in the beginning, is now, and ever shall be world without end. Amen

 

[ready]

Lord, I pray that this couple can go on one of those retreats for couples with marriage problems (Retrouvaille retreats). May their relationship be strengthened and healed. I’m not convinced the husband in this marriage wants to leave, please do not let his wife believe he wants to leave if he is only experiencing discouragement, anger or stress. Please help him and his wife to be faithful to their marriage vows; do not let them take the easy way out and leave the other spouse. Thank you, Lord, for hearing my prayer.

 

[jerry_joseph]

Consecrate your family to the immaculate heart of mary…

 

[CEM5]

I’ve written a couple of posts before about my marriage and how it does not seem to be improving. This evening, my husband said, “I want out of this marriage” while we were disagreeing about something else. Although he apologized and said that he guesses he needs to rephrase things and choose his words more carefully, I don’t know any other way that I should feel but to be depressed. What is it going to take for me to realize that he just doesn’t want to be married to me anymore? If it weren’t for our daughter, I would have left by now and let him out of his misery. But, now she is here and sees me crying often and I don’t know where to turn. I have tried talking to priests and I can’t talk to family. I’m lost.

Dear newmommy,

What about going to marriage councelling? Ask your Priest if he can suggest a Catholic one you can both go to. Would your husband be agreeable to going?

I pray that things will work out. Keep praying, (you are in my prayers), and if possible, do not let your daughter see you crying. She is too little to understand and this just adds to her anxiety and confusion. Try to hold back your tears when she is asleep then go and have a good cry – tears let out the stress horomones that we have and do help.

When I cry (and we all do!) I have a good cry in the shower.

blessings to you,
CEM