Engagement Ending- Advice?

[beckers]

I just need some advice.

I have a girlfriend who maybe breaking off an engagement (to be married this April). (I know it may seem weird to say “maybe”. But it still a very active situation. She has put her foot down. She and the decisions they made together need to come before his parents wishes and the priest agreed so depending on the actions of the groom it may or may not be ending) If the engagement ends, I was wondering if any one had an information to help her through this time. She searched online and could only find stuff about giving back the ring. She is looking for more information geared to advice on how to deal with the emotions. Since I have never been married the only suggestions besides continuing to go to adoration, mass and confession is to treat it like almost a death. She will go through a mourning period and such but time will heal all wounds and that she shouldn’t rush in the healing process.

Any suggestions or advice on how you or someone you know got through would be most appreciated.

 

[kevinsgirl]

Don’t tell her it’s “for the best” when she tells you about her breakup. What she’ll be looking for and needing first is sympathy and encouragement. With time she’ll see why it really is for the best, but it’s not something that she should be told.

Besides praying with and for her, I’d suggest a couple girl nights…shopping, dinner and a movie, etc. Another suggestion is to plan something to do with her on what would have been her wedding day…she may find it a very challenging day to get through. Stay in touch more than normal until she’s developed new interests and you can tell she has moved on somewhat.

And good for you for trying to find ways to help her!!!

 

[JoAnn1981]

Well, I broke off an engagement myself last May due to some similar issues. What helped me the most was the support of family and friends. (Not to mention the Priest telling me I was making a good decision based on what I told him.) I agree that girls’ nights out are a great idea. Also, becoming more active in my Faith has helped me as well.

 

[bebaker22]

When I ended my engagement, I had a lot of trouble with still wanting to call him. He wanted me back and called a lot. Luckily my friend told me I could call her 24/7 and talk, cry or yell and I did. It helped me to call someone instead of calling him. Ending a relationship is like getting stabbed in the heart and you have to heal it just like a real wound. Don’t pick at it, let it heal its self, do what you can to ease the pain and don’t dwell on what you did or didn’t do to get hurt. It is hard ending a relationship like that and the best thing you can do is be there for her.