Engagement ring question

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pianistclare said:
I’d take a plain band any day over a “promise ring”.
Those are for 13 yr olds.
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Well like I was saying earlier, while there are plenty of promise rings that absolutely would not pass for an engagement ring, there are some that look like some engagement rings of old, and therefore the only real difference is marketing for higher profit margins.
 
slaveofmary21 said:
Well like I was saying earlier, while there are plenty of promise rings that absolutely would not pass for an engagement ring, there are some that look like some engagement rings of old, and therefore the only real difference is marketing for higher profit margins.
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I personally think that ultimately, you should go with what you’re comfortable doing, since you know your intended best, and you know what she would like. Plus, you’re also working off of a budget, and there’s nothing wrong with that, either. 🙂

At the time that I was getting engaged, I picked out a very modest engagement ring that was affordable for my husband. I kept his budget in mind then.

We picked out our wedding bands together at that same time, and picked out plain gold bands then. My band matched my engagement ring, and they came together as a set.
 
pianistclare said:
I’d take a plain band any day over a “promise ring”.
Those are for 13 yr olds.
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I personally don’t really think that they were made for 13 year olds back when I considered wearing one as a gift from my husband, which was way back when in the olden days…😉

Back when I was going out with my husband and we started to get serious about each other, he talked about getting a promise ring for me.

I recall that we looked at some of them in a catalog together, I remember that they were actually quite lovely.

Edited to add: Many of the promise rings now do look like diamond engagement rings, and rather than being 14k gold rings like an engagement ring would tend to be, they’re set in 10k gold or sterling silver, instead. There are some very pretty rings out there. 🙂
 
Whoever come up with the idea of engagement rings was a marketing genius. I mean seriously, the engagement ring meme must have made a fortune for the jewellery industry.
I mean where did engagement rings come from? Did people always have to give their lady a ring when proposing?
Exchanging rings at the wedding, I can understand but the engagement ring thing seems like such a scam.
 
I’d say save a bit and splash out on the engagement ring. I had zero cash but still managed to get a €2000 engagement ring. for my wife. I just arranged with the jewelry store to give a deposit and then pay it bit by bit. I imagine most stores will do that?

Believe me, even if the lady says it doesn’t matter, she’ll appreciate the fact that you made the effort and got her something more expensive.
 
I can’t speak for everyone but I was just so happy to be proposed to I wouldn’t have cared if it had been a haribo jelly ring.
 
Well I would probably have expected a ring later but I was genuinely very happy to be proposed to. My engagement ring was cz as my husband knew I would rather something big but cheaper than expensive but tiny.
 
ConfusedLucy said:
Well I would probably have expected a ring later but I was genuinely very happy to be proposed to. My engagement ring was cz as my husband knew I would rather something big but cheaper than expensive but tiny.
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That actually reminds me of something else. Sometimes the woman wants to choose her own ring. I brought my wife around to look at rings before I proposed as I wanted to discover what kind of ring she’d like. But sometimes people prefer to have the proposition and then choose a ring. I wanted to propose with the ring. Fortunately my choice was right on the mark. But it’s not what everyone does.
 
Blood_Angel said:
Whoever come up with the idea of engagement rings was a marketing genius. I mean seriously, the engagement ring meme must have made a fortune for the jewellery industry.
I mean where did engagement rings come from? Did people always have to give their lady a ring when proposing?
Exchanging rings at the wedding, I can understand but the engagement ring thing seems like such a scam.
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Engagement, or to be more traditional, betrothal rings have been around for ages. The use of the diamond as the stone dates to 1744 when Archduke Maximilian of Austria proposed to Mary of Burgundy. It took DeBeers to turn it into an industry.

Once upon a time, the betrothal ceremony carried as much weight as the wedding does today, and the ring was the physical symbol of the contract, and can be traced back to Roman times.
 
AdamPeter said:
That actually reminds me of something else. Sometimes the woman wants to choose her own ring. I brought my wife around to look at rings before I proposed as I wanted to discover what kind of ring she’d like. But sometimes people prefer to have the proposition and then choose a ring. I wanted to propose with the ring. Fortunately my choice was right on the mark. But it’s not what everyone does.
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I think, like with a lot of wedding related things, some women have a very fixed idea of what they want their engagement ring to be like.
 
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