Enormous Guilt people suffer

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How do people come to terms with huge guilt? Being responsible for someone else’s death for instance. Whether it be through negligence, carelessness or just bad luck. It must scar the rest of their life. A drunk driver is just one example but there are others.
I know the victims suffer terribly. Families of the one killed. But we need to have some empathy for the ones responsible too, don’t we?
 
I heard the news recently a parent accidentally ran over their child in the driveway. The child died.How awful! Just so tragic. How could they ever see the sunny side of life again?
 
I know what you mean but if I think how many times I drove a car in my twenties, over the limit and escaped doing myself or anyone else harm.
It was very common for people to drink and drive in the seventies. Just play cat and mouse with the police.
 
It was very common for people to drink and drive in the seventies.
Oh yes I would grant that.
Perhaps I should have said I have zero sympathy for drunk drivers in present days when there are ads and education about it. There is no excuse.
 
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So how about those in their twenties now? How often would drivers be driving over the limit? It hardly ever happens now?
 
I heard the news recently a parent accidentally ran over their child in the driveway. The child died.How awful! Just so tragic. How could they ever see the sunny side of life again?
Sometimes we think forgiving others is hard but forgiving oneself may be harder. In both cases we need to look to the mercy of God.
 
If someone has a repentant heart, God forgives and, of course, so should we.
Only God sees the heart. Some people think forgiveness means shrugging off the consequences, that certainly is not true. God has empathy for all sinners who go to Him. Today’s Mass reading is all about this.

“Come now, let us reason together, says the LORD: though your sins are like scarlet, they shall be as white as snow; though they are red like crimson, they shall become like wool." - Isaiah 1:18
 
I think being responsible for an awful accident or even crime would make you suicidal. I would lose all hope. It would surely test my faith anyway.It would either become incredibly strong or go completely the other way.
 
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“Come now, let us reason together, says the LORD: though your sins are like scarlet, they shall be as white as snow; though they are red like crimson, they shall become like wool." - Isaiah 1:18
I remember that quote. I studied Isaiah last year. But when we are under incredible stress, quotes like that fall on deaf ears. Only through a very sensitive soul who would act as our counsellor, could help.
 
My brother was killed by someone driving under the influence. To be honest I was so torn up by his death I didn’t think about this man who hit my brother as he was crossing to get to his car. A few months later this man flew up to Philly [ This happened in Texas ] to see my mother and ask her forgiveness, which she gave. I on the other hand screamed for him to get out, which he did. My mom didn’t say anything. I did forgive him a year later, he cried and said it was something he would live with his whole life. It is between God and him now and I ask God to forgive him. Please remember my brother Joey in your prayers. God Bless you.🦋🦋🦋
 
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Sorry if any of my words are insensitive or trigger bad memories for you. I really appreciate you sharing that anna.
 
I was a drunk driver who NEARLY ran over a policeman.
By the mercy of God, I stopped short of running him over
when he was directing traffic one night I was driving while
drunk. I would’ve killed myself, I think, than live w/ the
Guilt. (This happened when I was 17 years old)
 
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Not insensitive. I have so many happy memories of my brother. I didn’t mention he was my twin brother, made his dying like someone tore my heart out. God has soften the pain somewhat, knowing I’ll see my brother again…The person who hit him was so sincere, I pray his pain eases. God bless
 
About 35 years ago I was driving with my mom and sister Andrea
on a very poorly lit road. All of a sudden a man’s face and hands
popped up out of the road. Thank God I was able to brake, pull over,
and we waved cars away from him, asked for someone to find a phone
to call the police, and helped him to the side of the road. He said he
was an off duty police officer and fell from his truck that he pointed toward
in the brush. I can’t imagine how I would have felt had I struck him with
my automobile.
There is a prayer attached to the Divine Mercy Chaplet that I like regarding
turning from stress (i.e. dispair or despondency). I certainly need this prayer
in my circumstances, while I never killed anyone, I made a huge amount
of poor decisions in my life hurting others and myself. This situation causes much distress. But I’m told that I should not listen to this stress, for example, Jesus Christ told Peter that fear & doubt are the enemies of faith.
“Eternal Father in Whom Mercy is Endless,
and the Treasury of Compassion InExhaustible,
look kindly upon us and increase Your mercy in us, that in difficult moments we might not despair nor become despondent, but with great confidence submit ourselves to Your holy will, which is Love and Mercy itself.”
~
His Holy Will certainly, with surrender, alleviates stress, and turns
our will to His — for prayer and helping others instead.
 
Good question. Luckily I have never been responsible for loss of life, but I still regret many thoughtless, cruel, and destructive things I did as a teenager. Confession with absolution is good for the soul but doesn’t undo the harm done to others.

I imagine the score will be settled in Purgatory, or at the Final Judgment.
 
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I had suffered from enormous guilt. This lead me to habits of extreme escapism that spiraled into depression.

Guilt is a pointless, negative emotion that doesn’t serve any purpose. People who feel guilt often do so as a result of a subconscious decision, in the mistaken belief that it help them reduce their bad habits or somehow get them to improve on a personality trait. Though I believe that rather than helping us change, it gives us an excuse to stay the same.

There are really only two options in dealing with guilt. Either change what you do or change how feel about it. It’s sort of the Angel or the Devil approach to doing things. The decision should be easy from a Christian perspective. Of course, no one is perfect and when we sin, we always justify. Either way, guilt has got to go.

Fortunately as Catholics, we have the sacrament of Reconciliation. It took me a long time to go to Confession, because I didn’t think I could be forgiven. But the truth is I was fooling myself, trying to justify my sins. Once I realized that God’s Mercy is endless, the grace I received allowed me to forgive myself and release me from my burden.
 
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How about those who abort children and then regret it? That’s just another example of tremendous guilt. Yes, we all carry guilt, even if it is lesser than killing a person. We’ve hurt parents and spouses and friends and strangers. We’ve done enormously stupid things. The more sensitive we are, the more it can haunt us.
The Catholic Church and her sacraments are the BEST way to come to terms with guilt. Confession tells you unequivocally that God HAS completely forgiven you. The hard part is forgiving yourself, but if God allows the guilt to continue to haunt you, it can be used to draw you ever closer to God and thus turn into a blessing.
I’m a pretty sensitive person (not really a good thing) and am guilty for things in my life that were not sins. I know that doesn’t make a lot of sense, but it is true. I pray a lot to ask God to help me only be guilty about sin, not mere human failing, lack of information, stupidity, etc.
 
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The Catholic Church and her sacraments are the BEST way to come to terms with guilt.
I’m tempted to agree with you but personally I wouldn’t leave out counselling both secular and Christian. Also I think you only mean the sacraments of Baptism, Communion and Confession, don’t you?
 
There are TWO kinds of guilt recorded in the Bible,
2 Cor. 7:10 “godly sorrow(regret, conviction) brings
repentance unto salvation but worldly sorrow(regret,
but condemnation) brings death”
 
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