I haven’t had the patience of reading the entire thread, but as someone who’s had to go through more or less the same thing (deciding if Catholic or Orthodox), I want to add my two cents:
To be honest, even though I live in a majority Orthodox country, I have never really been attracted by the EO Church. On the other hand, I have always been attracted by the RC Church (some might say this is the work of the Holy Spirit, some - especially some Orthodox I know of - might say it is the work of His foe): this is just to show that I was biased from the beginning. Also, I won’t offer any theological arguments, because there has been enough discussion on those.
As soon as I started accepting Catholic/Orthodox beliefs on apostolic succession and the like, and as soon as I realized I can’t be an Evangelical anymore, I had to choose an apostolic Church. I wanted to attend both kinds of services, but sadly I never made it to an Orthodox one: waking up early on Sundays is highly problematic, as would have been the question “where are you going on a Sunday morning” coming from my parents. So, I have attended Mass a number of times (must be around 10 or more now) at the RC Cathedral in my city.
And I must say, I felt and I still feel at home when I attend RC Mass. I know there are a lot of posters on the forum who say that the EO Divine Liturgy is very beautiful, and I really mean no offense to any EO or Byzantine Catholics on here, but in all honesty, after watching many different Divine Liturgies on YouTube, I have to say that they don’t fit me at all, and Byzantine chant gives me the creeps big time.
Also, talking about adhering to the Faith of the Fathers is really nice, but I have two observations: 1) Protestants don’t accept any changes after the Bible, and EO don’t accept any changes after the first seven Ecumenical Councils: so while it’s nice to have an ancient Church, there’s no possibility for change - I believe the Church is living and needs to respond to changes in the secular world, and a Church stuck in the ancient times can’t do that; 2) who actually lives out the Faith of the Fathers? all my friends are EO and they are great people, but no one cares about church other than at weddings or baptisms (and maybe Easter or Christmas) - only 4% of population goes to church regularly, even though there’s an 80% EO majority; I realize this is a problem in the RC Church as well, but I always seem to find the RC Cathedral full of people of all ages, while the EO churches fill up with old ladies once and again.
Also, there is a very non-charitable attitude from EOs towards RCs: while Catholics regard EOs as their brothers and sisters, EOs regard Catholics as heretics. I’m not saying it’s true for all, but it’s true for a lot of them and for some of the most vocal ones.
I hope I don’t get banned for saying these things, and please understand that I have nothing against EOs: again, 99% of my friends are EO and they are great people. It’s just that the EO church doesn’t appeal to me at all: some might say you don’t pick churches based on where you feel good, but I personally think that that mattters as well: if I am uneasy listening to Byzantine chant, I will be uneasy in the church as well. So, consider which church feels right to you as well, aside from the theological arguments which will always be presented by either side as the Truth.
Sorry for the very long post.