I stated that those in heaven can understand and even appreciate the perfect righteousness of an all-holy God in condemning an unrepentant person, even a friend or family member, not to mention that the perfection of one’s love for God once in heaven would eclipse our love for others.
How can we claim this? What is our source for this?
Then how could I possibly prove anything to you? If I demonstrate anything, you could always have recourse by stating I don’t believe this or that… or I am rather skeptical about absolutes. Technically, I cannot even quote you chapter and verse from scripture since you could always claim that either the bible is in error in this regard, or that a certain passage of scripture has been obscured and corrupted over time or intentionally by the Church, or that a certain scripture is not an absolute, etc.
Great! I am not conversing with anyone silly.

Let me assure you, then, that I am also sceptical of what I believe, and willing to listen to all kinds of arguments, and to investigate them honestly.
I am a relativist and a historicist, not a postmodernist. I do not believe that the
Bible is necessarily correct, but I do believe that it is honest in its attempt to be so.
I mean, how do you know that there is even a heaven? What investigation lead you to this conclusion, especially since you do not accept absolutes, and with what certainty can you know that you are correct?
I do not know that there is a heaven, nor do I know that there is a God. All I can prove is my own existence, and that only to myself. Instead, I choose to believe that there is a heaven, and that there is a God, and that my Beloved exists, etc. How much certainty there is in these things varies: denying the existence of God or my Beloved would require a rejection of the most basic sensory data, which would be tantamount to accusing myself of complete schizoid delusion.
I choose to believe in an omnipotent, benevolent God, and I choose to believe that the
Bible shows interactions of this God with mortals. I do not choose to believe that the mortals always understood these interactions, however.
So a criminal guilty of a capital offense should not go to prison since this does not redress the disorder caused, and in fact, “the suffering of the culprit’s victims is not taken away by the punishment of the victim, and so it continues, and to that has been added the suffering of the culprit.” Now using your reasoning, the criminal should not go to prison.
This is not quite true. Using my reasoning, a criminal should not go to prison
as punishment. I would suggest that criminals should go to prison
as a security measure, i.e., to protect the rest of the population. In prison, attempts at rehabilitation can be made, but the prisoner is also prevented from recommitting the crime (assuming that the prison is properly managed), which is a nett good.
It doesn’t matter where you can find that since you are skeptical of absolutes and you do not necessarily believe that what the Catholic Church says is true. But one example is when God allowed Pharoah’s heart to be hardened (cf Rom 9:14-24??).
While you could retreat into defensiveness at this point, you might consider that, if it did not matter to me, I am unlikely to have asked about it. Even if we do assume that Paul is necessarily correct in all that he says, please note that vv. 22-3 are
hypothetical, and not actual assertions.
God’s patience eventually runs out (see 2 Thess. 1:6-10, Jude 5-7)
God claimed to have lost patience with the Sodomites, and Abraham argued against punishing them (Ex 18). Go claimed to have lost patience with the Israelites, and Moses argued against punishing them. An angel complained that God was mistreating the Jews (Zech 1). Should I fail to follow their example, and argue against God losing patience with creatures which were made imperfect?
Throughout the OT, God’s mercy is trumpeted, so much so that prophesied doom is repeatedly forestalled as God gives the Israelites yet another chance. I do not imagine that God was unaware of what Abraham, and Moses, and the angel, were going to say before they said. In each case, God allowed them to speak, and did not rebuke them for contradicting the expressed will of the Almighty. If you look up the passages in my sig-line, you will see examples of God rebuking people who followed the rules, rather than what was right: mercy is more important than obedience.
Following this, even were I to find in the text an unambiguous representation of perpetual suffering for the unsaved, that would merely lead me to argue against it with God.