Etiquette question

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At my parish, whenever a certain deacon is there his young grandchildren always run up onto the altar to give him hugs during Mass. My question is…is it appropriate for these kids to be doing this? :confused:
 
If this is happening during the Mass proper, no it is not appropriate.
I would hope that this happened only once and that the priest/pastor has addressed the issue.
 
I don’t think it’s even a question of etiquette, but whether disruptions of the public worship should be allowed.
 
kk(name removed by moderator) said:
At my parish, whenever a certain deacon is there his young grandchildren always run up onto the altar to give him hugs during Mass. My question is…is it appropriate for these kids to be doing this? :confused:
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Sounds like a breach of protocol to me.

I like children as well as anyone, but there is a time and a place, and while grandpa is hard at work it just isn’t appropriate.
 
kk(name removed by moderator) said:
At my parish, whenever a certain deacon is there his young grandchildren always run up onto the altar to give him hugs during Mass. My question is…is it appropriate for these kids to be doing this? :confused:
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um… no. did that question need to even be asked? its pretty obvious
 
I hope that this is happening only during the Exchange of Peace.
 
SKWill said:
I hope that this is happening only during the Exchange of Peace.
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That’s what I was thinking…still inappropriate if he’s in the sanctuary, but if he comes out to the congregation, it’d be acceptable for them to greet him.
 
Newbie2 said:
That’s what I was thinking…still inappropriate if he’s in the sanctuary, but if he comes out to the congregation, it’d be acceptable for them to greet him.
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But Grandpa Deacon probably shouldn’t be leaving the sanctuary to exchange the sign of peace with anyone, grandchildren or not. GIRM 181 refering to the deacon says:
He faces the people and, with hands joined, says, Offerte vobis pacem pacem (Let us offer each other the sign of peace). Then he himself receives the sign of peace from the priest and may offer it to those other ministers who are closer to him.
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This is in line with GIRM 154 concerning conduct of a priest conducting a deacon-less Mass:
The priest may give the sign of peace to the ministers but always remains within the sanctuary, so as not to disturb the celebration. In the dioceses of the United States of America, for a good reason, on special occasions (for example, in the case of a funeral, a wedding, or when civic leaders are present) the priest may offer the sign of peace to a few of the faithful near the sanctuary.
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Crumpy said:
I don’t think it’s even a question of etiquette, but whether disruptions of the public worship should be allowed.
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I don’t understand the dichotomy. Of course it’s a question of etiquette - it is simply not good form to disrupt public worship, without good reason. If troops are moving across the plaza toward the church entrance, slaying all in their path, it would be acceptable etiquette to interrupt the mass to warn people. On the other hand, parents or grandfather allowing kids to tear up and down the aisle because they recognize someone is poor etiquette. Can’t always be helped, but an effort should be made.
 
SKWill said:
But Grandpa Deacon probably shouldn’t be leaving the sanctuary to exchange the sign of peace with anyone, grandchildren or not. GIRM 181 refering to the deacon says:

This is in line with GIRM 154 concerning conduct of a priest conducting a deacon-less Mass:
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Yes, quite true. I was referring more to the actions of the kids rather than the actions of Deacon Grandpa.
 
Digitonomy said:
I don’t understand the dichotomy. Of course it’s a question of etiquette - it is simply not good form to disrupt public worship, without good reason.** If troops are moving across the plaza toward the church entrance, slaying all in their path, it would be acceptable etiquette to interrupt the mass to warn people.** On the other hand, parents or grandfather allowing kids to tear up and down the aisle because they recognize someone is poor etiquette. Can’t always be helped, but an effort should be made.
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Sort of. It depends on when in the mass the interuption comes. If the consecration of the Eucharist has started, then the priest must stay and finish the mass, even though the people should be warned and would be within their rights to leave.
 
promethius said:
Sort of. It depends on when in the mass the interuption comes. If the consecration of the Eucharist has started, then the priest must stay and finish the mass, even though the people should be warned and would be within their rights to leave.
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I didn’t say the mass shouldn’t be finished, just that someone interrupting the mass would be appropriate etiquette under those dire circumstances.
 
I would mention it to the priest if the kids are going up to see him during Mass. I would rather he go to their seats for the sign of peace instead of them running to him especially if the EMHCs are making their way to the altar. Perhaps speaking to the deacon privately, and tell him that he has nice grandkids but they should greet their grandfather only before or after Mass is done, and not run in the sanctuary.
 
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