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DH filed for divorce today.
So why I am I the one comforting him and trying to ease his guilt?
He says he doesn’t love me anymore. He says he doesn’t trust me (I take blame for that. I kissed a male friend of mine after having a screaming match with DH), and doesn’t want a relationship with a woman he doesn’t trust.

sigh I still love him. He is still my best friend.

He wants to go on Retrouvaille, but so that we can part on “good terms” and “as friends”, not to save our marriage or work on us. Do I register us and we go anyway? Do I hope that Retrouvaille will fix things, even if he thinks that it won’t?
 
I’m so sorry to hear that. If I woke up in your shoes today, and my spouse was willing to go, I probably would. You never know what can come out of it, and I wouldn’t want to be sitting there afterwards wondering “What if we’d gone…”. I will pray for you.
 
I’m sorry…😦

If he’s willing to go than I would say go for it. It might turn out to be good… I’ll be praying for you.
 
I’d say go also. You have no idea how powerfully the Spirit may move at times. Sounds like a great opportunity to talk.
 
Go with him. Maybe something will change between you. Dh and I have been and it was very powerful. I will keep you in my prayers.
 
Yes, go. I’m only vaguely familiar with this Retrouvaille thing, but anytime you and your husband can get away and be near others where the Spirit is moving is good. Never doubt what God can and will do for you. The mere fact that he wants to go is good news.

Be full of joy, despair is a weapon of the enemy.

Praying for you and your husband.

Bryan
 
Oh, Patience.

Honey, my heart breaks for you.

I will keep you, your daughter, and your husband in my prayers.

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Truly_Beloved said:
Oh, Patience.

Honey, my heart breaks for you.

I will keep you, your daughter, and your husband in my prayers.

:signofcross:
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Danke.
I still haven’t figured out how to to DD. She is with her father right now, and I am here in TX trying to sort this all out.
She has recently figured out familial relationships, and loves to tell me who everyone’s mama, daddy and sisters/brothers are. And who’s married to who, etc…

And now, this apparently includes princes/princesses and kings/queens.

And, apparently- DH is my King and My Knight. Because DD is my daughter, she is the princess. And princess’s mamas are Queens. So their Husbands are Kings.
But Princesses only marry princes and knights. So, because Mama married Papa, and Mama is DD’s Mama, then Mama must be a Queen. And if that’s the case, then Papa is the King and a Knight. Because Princes are Knights and they rescue Princesses, and then marry them. (I swear, it all makes sense in the 4-year-old sense). And, apparently, DH rescued me when I was sad (how she remembers this, I have no idea. She was 2), so that makes him a Knight.

So… yes.
 
I am so sorry. You’re in my prayers. I have heard wonderful things about how it can save marriage. Definitely go. You never know!
 
PatienceAndLove said:
DH filed for divorce today.
So why I am I the one comforting him and trying to ease his guilt?
He says he doesn’t love me anymore. He says he doesn’t trust me (I take blame for that. I kissed a male friend of mine after having a screaming match with DH), and doesn’t want a relationship with a woman he doesn’t trust.

sigh I still love him. He is still my best friend.

He wants to go on Retrouvaille, but so that we can part on “good terms” and “as friends”, not to save our marriage or work on us. Do I register us and we go anyway? Do I hope that Retrouvaille will fix things, even if he thinks that it won’t?
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I would go and pray fervently for it to work out. What the heck were you doing kissing another man. I would be extremely ticked off at my wife for doing so. Pray for forgiveness act with contrition. You crushed him by doing that. We men are not all that tough when it comes to the women we love. When you kissed that other man you ripped his _____ off in front of everybody. Not good. YOu need to fix it.
 
mesurman said:
I would go and pray fervently for it to work out. What the heck were you doing kissing another man. I would be extremely ticked off at my wife for doing so. Pray for forgiveness act with contrition. You crushed him by doing that. We men are not all that tough when it comes to the women we love. When you kissed that other man you ripped his _____ off in front of everybody. Not good. YOu need to fix it.
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I know. And I have apologized I don’t know how many times.
I am speaking his love language now- and he keeps telling me that he knows I love him and that I am sorry for what I did (to which he has forgiven me), but he still doesn’t trust me.
 
mesurman said:
I would go and pray fervently for it to work out. What the heck were you doing kissing another man. I would be extremely ticked off at my wife for doing so. Pray for forgiveness act with contrition. You crushed him by doing that. We men are not all that tough when it comes to the women we love. When you kissed that other man you ripped his _____ off in front of everybody. Not good. YOu need to fix it.
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Easy man. The damage has been done, and she’s already beat up about it. No need to add insult to injury.
 
PatienceAndLove said:
He wants to go on Retrouvaille, but so that we can part on “good terms” and “as friends”, not to save our marriage or work on us. Do I register us and we go anyway? Do I hope that Retrouvaille will fix things, even if he thinks that it won’t?
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Absolutely go!!!

Divorced people have reconciled after attending!

Best of luck.
 
PatienceAndLove said:
DH filed for divorce today.
So why I am I the one comforting him and trying to ease his guilt?
He says he doesn’t love me anymore. He says he doesn’t trust me (I take blame for that. I kissed a male friend of mine after having a screaming match with DH), and doesn’t want a relationship with a woman he doesn’t trust.

sigh I still love him. He is still my best friend.

He wants to go on Retrouvaille, but so that we can part on “good terms” and “as friends”, not to save our marriage or work on us. Do I register us and we go anyway? Do I hope that Retrouvaille will fix things, even if he thinks that it won’t?
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OMG Kristen, I am so sorry :hug1: I cannot begin to imagine what you’re going thru… but I would take him up on the Retrouvaille, it might change his mind completely. Tammy (teakafrog) is one of the best success stories of Retro. I went, and you know DH and I have been thru a lot, but if it hadn’t been for Retro, our marriage would be over.

I will keep you in my prayers. BTW, I’d tell you more about retro, but I can’t or I’d ruin the program for you. But if you go, you guys will come out so in love, it’s incredible.
 
DH and I leave for Retrouvaille on the 27th!

And he is trying to love me, again.

Thanks all, for your prayers!
 
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