Ex-boyfriend descending into transsexualism

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Got ahold of the counseling office. They matched him/us with a counselor, but she just hasn’t had time to call us yet. They’re giving her a reminder and hopefully she will soon.

I’m spending hours a day in prayer. I hope it all pays off!
 
We are scheduled for Monday at noon. I hope God can work a miracle for both of us!
 
Continuing prayers…

PRAYER TO BLESSED ANNA MARIA TAIGI

Bl. Anna Marie Taigi, you were favored with many wonderful and mysterious mystical experiences, but it was your charity to lost and hurting souls that enabled God to raise you to holiness. As you lived in the secular world, married with seven children and were tempted to fine clothes and idle gossip, you know the struggles many of us face in our society today, where we have comforts kings in past times could only dream of. Please help us to keep our eyes on heaven, that we may not be so distracted with things of this passing world, but strive to do God’s will for our lives, and thus attain a crown which will never perish.

Blessed Anna Marie Taigi, I ask you to take to your heart all those prayers and petitions which have been posted here in this forum today. Never cease to beg God for the graces and blessings we so very much need. Help us to discern God’s path for us, and pray that we may find peace and contentment in carrying our crosses with Him. Thank you, Anna, for keeping us in your heart and for praying for us always.
Amen.

Bl. Anna Marie Taigi, pray for us!
 
He just called. He admits he’s been under a LOT of stress recently and he’s been drinking too much. He admits he’s depressed and incredibly anxious.

Please keep him in your prayers:

*To resolve his transsexual feelings with his acceptance of himself as a God-given, wonderfully-made male.
*To resolve his drinking, anxiety, depression, and stress.
*To save our relationship.
*To forge a relationship with Jesus.

Please keep me in your prayers:
*To serve as a good example of a compassionate, loving Christian.
*To draw him closer to Christ.
*For the strength to deal with this situation and patience to see it to the (hopefully happy) end.

Please pray for us!
 
He seems to want to take more responsibility and is downright insistent on keeping up with therapy.

Meanwhile, I’ve been begging and pleading with God to save him and save us. I don’t know how to interpret this. Some people tell me to cut him off and run whereas others tell me that God’s hand is at work.
 
Interesting development: So, all of his “friends” have been supportive of him identifying as trans. He spoke to me about how he’s starting to doubt them because it seems all they ever want to do is go out drinking with him.

Like a lot of trans people and cross-dressers, it’s possible that he thought that going out dressed as a woman would “solve everything” (that is, his mental problems) and is now feeling lost because it didn’t.

Keep us in your prayers!
 
May he realize what he is foresaking…
Our Father
Hail Mary’s x10
Glory Be
Fatima Prayer
Amen
 
I am fasting today in preparation for the therapist appointment tomorrow. Spent all morning and much of the night in prayer.
 
We are at the therapist now. Please keep praying.

He says he doesn’t want to do couples therapy and the therapist is specifically “LBTGQAA+ friendly”, although this is a Christian counselor. I hope they do not encourage him in sin.
 
We did not discuss his sexual/gender issues at this appointment. He did say he definitely didn’t want to pursue couples therapy at this time. He emphasized that we are “just friends” for right now.

I asked him how he felt about us, about the future, about himself. He said that he just didn’t know - not about any of it. My big flaw is my impatience; I want to know how things are going to turn out NOW, whereas he is much more patient and willing to see how things go.

They gave us a referral to a psychiatrist so he can get put on an antidepressant. Hopefully that will help.

Please keep us in your prayers. Before all this happened, when J was mentally clear and well, I assumed I’d marry him because he was the finest, most wonderful man I’d ever met. Please, ask God to bring that man back.

In the name of Jesus, Amen.
 
Thank you for your prayers.

We saw the counselor yesterday and honestly I wasn’t much impressed. Her credentials weren’t the best, IMO. Also, apparently the payment we gave didn’t process so now we have to pay the original balance along with fees. Until then, no more appointments.

I wondered, maybe this is a blessing in disguise. I looked for another therapist and found one with more experience and credentials, cheaper, available next week, Christian, specializes in abuse victims and trauma. So I made an appointment with her.

We still need to find a psychiatrist for antidepressants. I’m calling tomorrow.
 
My psychiatrist agreed to see him next month. I was surprised, but it appears she knows what’s going on and genuinely wants to help him. I’m excited, genuinely! I’m hoping this is the beginning of the end of his confusion and suffering.
 
Our Father who art in heaven…
Hail Mary, full of grace… Hail Mary, full of grace… Hail Mary, full of grace…
Glory Be to the Father…
Amen…
 
I was just sitting here praying the Rosary when he called. He said he was feeling ill all day today - he’d been texting me all day about how sick he was feeling and I thought it was low blood sugar and anxiety. He called to say he ate some candy and he felt a little better.

We used to have conversations like this all the time. They always ended with, “I love you.” They don’t end with that now, but I pray they will soon.

For some reason I felt it was significant that he called me while I was praying the rosary for him. It probably wasn’t, but it just felt that way to me. He said he’d call me back.

Please keep praying. I know I am keeping my prayers up, sometimes to the point of exhaustion.
 
I will keep you and your friend in my prayers.

You may need a respite yourself. Please keep up self care and don’t neglect your health. Make a little visit Our Lord in the Blessed Sacrament.
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Memorare**

*Remember, O most gracious Virgin Mary,
that never was it known that anyone who fled to thy protection,
implored thy help, or sought thine intercession was left unaided.
Inspired by this confidence,
I fly unto thee, O Virgin of virgins, my mother;
to thee do I come, before thee I stand, sinful and sorrowful.
O Mother of the Word Incarnate, despise not my petitions,
but in thy mercy hear and answer me.

Amen*
 
He needs to confirm his shrink appointment but he hasn’t yet. This is the first really big snag we’ve had that makes me angry. He’s been working long hours but there’s no reason he couldn’t have confirmed it this morning before he left for work.

I have to stop by his place tomorrow and I’ll see if I can get him to do it then. I know he has mental blocks that keep him from doing these things but it’s super frustrating.
 
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