Ex-Mormons: Why Did You Leave the Mormon Church?

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I left Mormonism when I became a Muslim. The killing point for me was when the Bishop (leader of each congregation according to Mormonism) told me that indeed, the official position of the church was, Jesus, God the father, and the Holy Spirit were separate deities. I couldn’t handle that, and so I went to Islam which preached one God.

Of course, Islam has its own problems, but polytheism isn’t one of them!
 
You are so very right - it’s that thirst that eventually led me to the Eucharist and the Catholic church. I do believe that many Mormons do know God and Christ as they are, despite what they are taught, but are still held back by the church and by their lack of sanctifying grace. Oh how blessed I am to have such a God that would lead me to Him!

“As the hart panteth after the fountains of water; so my soul panteth after thee, O God.” (Psalms 41:2)

 
You are so very right - it’s that thirst that eventually led me to the Eucharist and the Catholic church. I do believe that many Mormons do know God and Christ as they are, despite what they are taught, but are still held back by the church and by their lack of sanctifying grace. Oh how blessed I am to have such a God that would lead me to Him!

“As the hart panteth after the fountains of water; so my soul panteth after thee, O God.” (Psalms 41:2)

Thanks be to God!

I honestly think Mormonism creates a hunger for God in many people, which cannot be satisfied in Mormonism. That is the trying and trying and trying that you, and others, experience. (IMHO)

I’m more prone to just detaching myself, aka, “screw it”. 😃
 
I will admit that I first left the LDS faith at about 15 because I was rebellious and wanted to do idiotic activities common among American youth. However, when I was in college I overcame my youthful immaturity- or at least a good deal of it -and once again recognized the importance of faith in life. I began going back to church and even got to the point where I could enter the temple. The entire process was a difficult struggle of trying to believe. I recall spending many difficult hours praying to know the Book of Mormon is true as I had always been instructed, but never received an answer.

Regardless of my spiritual emptiness I continued to attend church. In college I began encountering professors and fellow students who made comments critical of the LDS faith. Wanting to become a top notch apologist for the faith I love I began to research LDS church history. To my dismay, rather than making me a top notch apologist I eventually concluded that the LDS faith seemed way to problematic and far-fetched to be believed.

I spent some time as an agnostic before, thanks to a couple professors of mine who are themselves religious, I was able to see that religion was not just a fairy tale for the naive and uneducated, but a complex and deep phenomenon that was to be taken seriously. I have since spent time in an Episcopal church and considered conversion to Roman Catholicism and Eastern Orthodoxy, but have not yet made a decision.

Every once in a while a Mormon friend will attempt to argue the legitimacy of their faith in an attempt to get me back into the fold. They use arguments along the lines of “what about this mysterious element in LDS history that can’t be explained away?” Given all the dark spots on the LDS Church’s history a couple mysteries don’t seem too compelling.
 
I joined the mormon church at a very young age, because I was lonely and they were an instant set of friends (the young adult group).

I left quickly once I became aware of the things the missionaries don’t say. like Mrs God, many “gods”, “heavenly father” being an ordinary human man, who worked his way up to “godhood”, other people becomming “gods” with their own planets to fill with spirit children.

I bit off more than I could chew, and had to be excommunicated to get out.
Isn’t that “instant set of friends” also known as “love bombing”?
 
PrinceHal

Thank you soooo much for stepping out & sharing your poignant story. I am overjoyed at God gently pulling another soul out of an organization such as what you came out of. To me this is a huge blessing - to you and to each one of us, a great story to be sure. He has His reasons and timing, does He not?

I’m particularly thrilled when misguided people find out Jesus Christ IS GOD, the Second Person of the Blessed Trinity (not a so-called “spirit brother” of a fallen, created entity) & that they won’t be a “god” - an unfathomable burden to be relieved of.

I had a college prof say: Trust the evidence of your senses. This dumps that very odd notion of the “burning in the bosom”… realizing when things do not add up is very important to pay attention to. God is not wishy-washy, He doesn’t change doctrine back & forth. GOD is the ultimate in dependability & stability. He says in Deut: “I changeth not”!!!

That a person is blessed with realizing who the Truth really is - is a time to rejoice! Welcome Home!
:blessyou:
 
PrinceHal

Thank you soooo much for stepping out & sharing your poignant story. I am overjoyed at God gently pulling another soul out of an organization such as what you came out of. To me this is a huge blessing - to you and to each one of us, a great story to be sure. He has His reasons and timing, does He not?

I’m particularly thrilled when misguided people find out Jesus Christ IS GOD, the Second Person of the Blessed Trinity (not a so-called “spirit brother” of a fallen, created entity) & that they won’t be a “god” - an unfathomable burden to be relieved of.

I had a college prof say: Trust the evidence of your senses. This dumps that very odd notion of the “burning in the bosom”… realizing when things do not add up is very important to pay attention to. God is not wishy-washy, He doesn’t change doctrine back & forth. GOD is the ultimate in dependability & stability. He says in Deut: “I changeth not”!!!

That a person is blessed with realizing who the Truth really is - is a time to rejoice! Welcome Home!
:blessyou:
Are there any more conversion stories that ex-Mormons would like to share?
 
“heavenly father” being an ordinary human man, who worked his way up to “godhood”
Indeed – as the old cliche puts it, ‘the only difference between you and God is a few years of training.’

(I’m an ex-LDS, now Episcopalian, so I hope I can get away with that.)
 
Wanting to become a top notch apologist for the faith I love I began to research LDS church history. To my dismay, rather than making me a top notch apologist I eventually concluded that the LDS faith seemed way to problematic and far-fetched to be believed. I spent some time as an agnostic before, thanks to a couple professors of mine who are themselves religious, I was able to see that religion was not just a fairy tale for the naive and uneducated, but a complex and deep phenomenon that was to be taken seriously. I have since spent time in an Episcopal church and considered conversion to Roman Catholicism and Eastern Orthodoxy, but have not yet made a decision.
Truthseeker,

It looks like you and I have an awful lot in common. I was born and raised atheist, then, at the age of 17, I had a conversion experience involving the Book of Mormon. From that time on, I spent almost 30 years trying to find my place in the Restoration Movement, while at the same time earning an M.A. in history and writing a book defending Restorationist historical claims about a “Great Apostasy” that had destroyed the Church Jesus founded.

And it was that historical research that led me to understand that there had never been a “Great Apostasy,” and that LDS doctrines often bore little resemblance to those of the early Church. I was a High Priest and Church Historian of the Restoration Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints for about ten years before I withdrew (and then rejoined and quickly went inactive). For the last three years I have worshiped at the Episcopal Church and I was baptized and confirmed last November.

I’m curious to know (especially in the context of this board 🙂 what you find appealing about the Episcopal Church. To me, it’s the combination of theological conservatism (with the emphasis on the historic episcopate, which appeals to my Mormon need for priesthood) and social liberalism, which seems to exemplify in large measure the mission of Jesus in breaking down artificial social barriers.
 
Truthseeker,

It looks like you and I have an awful lot in common. I was born and raised atheist, then, at the age of 17, I had a conversion experience involving the Book of Mormon. From that time on, I spent almost 30 years trying to find my place in the Restoration Movement, while at the same time earning an M.A. in history and writing a book defending Restorationist historical claims about a “Great Apostasy” that had destroyed the Church Jesus founded.

And it was that historical research that led me to understand that there had never been a “Great Apostasy,” and that LDS doctrines often bore little resemblance to those of the early Church. I was a High Priest and Church Historian of the Restoration Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints for about ten years before I withdrew (and then rejoined and quickly went inactive). For the last three years I have worshiped at the Episcopal Church and I was baptized and confirmed last November.

I’m curious to know (especially in the context of this board 🙂 what you find appealing about the Episcopal Church. To me, it’s the combination of theological conservatism (with the emphasis on the historic episcopate, which appeals to my Mormon need for priesthood) and social liberalism, which seems to exemplify in large measure the mission of Jesus in breaking down artificial social barriers.
Donatist,
Thank you for sharing your own journey with me. I have an acquaintance who left the LDS faith for Catholicism after doing a masters in Christian history.

When I began attending the local Episcopal Church I was just coming out of the LDS faith. I hadn’t studied much theology or philosophy so my choice to attend was based on two things: 1. One of my best friends attended the Episcopal parish and I was close to the priest, 2. The church itself was beautiful and I liked the services. 3. At the time I was liberal and I liked that I didn’t have to change my political views to be in good standing.

As I really dug in to moral theology, systematic theology, history, and philosophy I immediately began to move away from the Episcopal parish. I found a lot of truth in Blessed John Newman’s statement that “to be deep in history is to cease to be protestant.” I found myself becoming more conservative in both my theological and social views. I actually see them as inseparable in some ways. I’m not sure what exactly you mean by “… social liberalism, which seems to exemplify in large measure the mission of Jesus in breaking down artificial social barriers.”
 
My coming to the Catholic Church was entirely independent of my leaving the LDS. It started when I came back from my mission and began college. I studied molecular biology as an undergraduate and volunteered in two genetics labs. I eventually became proficient enough in the discipline to see through the LDS apologist handwaving which dismissed the very obvious conclusion from DNA that there was likely no transatlantic voyage of Jews, and certainly no large scale Jewish civilization in Mesoamerica. This was the lynchpin, though other findings eventually confirmed it, such as the obvious hoax known as the Book of Abraham, Joseph Smith’s infidelity and convenient revelations on polygamy, the original ordaining of Blacks followed by the divine ban against the same. These others were all peripheral reasons, however. As Joseph’s very introduction to the Book of Mormon attests: it is the keystone of the religion; the entire edifice rests on it. Either the Book of Mormon is what he claimed it is or the entire LDS religion is a farce. I very quickly became an apathetic skeptic of all things religious; an atheist if you will, though I don’t think I much cared to wax philosophical about the topic. I’ve always been a loud mouth, and I was raised to value personal integrity so I didn’t keep quiet about my decision to leave. I told my entire family, my singles ward Bishop, I renounced my callings and officially resigned from the Church.

Toward the end of my undergraduate career, I had to fulfill a general education requirement involving “cultural understanding”. I elected to take a history class at my notoriously secular university called “History of the Early Christian Church: the Apostolic Age to Nicaea I”. Despite the textbooks being authored by none other than the atheistic Bart Ehrman, and my instructor being a quite vocal critic of contemporary Christianity, I nevertheless learned how queer these early Christians were. I mean, they believed they were eating the literal body of their deity, they kept reliquaries filled with the body parts and personal belongings of their dead saints (which they believed would dispense miracles), they prayed over the sites of the deceased and the same deceased were often the object of their prayers. While there were always contenders to what Ehrman called the “Proto-Orthodox”, such as the Gnostics and Montanists, they were always short-lived, were consistently called out by the same “Proto-Orthodox”, and while they certainly challenged some very specific article of the faith, they nevertheless still professed faith in many doctrines we would today undoubtedly classify as Catholic/Orthodox. At this point in my journey, not only was it becoming readily apparent to me that the first Christians were very Catholic, but my previous conclusion was confirmed: these early Christians were certainly not Mormon. There didn’t exist a single cohesive group of Christians you could point to and say “Yep! These are the Former-day Saints!” No matter how much the LDS want to cherry-pick the doctrines of heretics to show that there was a semblance of LDS doctrine before the so-called restoration, none of these groups alone professed the entirety of Mormon faith.

At this point I enrolled in RCIA and spent three years discerning the Church, for at this time I was certain of apostolic Christianity, but not certain that the Catholic Church specifically “held the keys”. There’s a tendency among ex-Mormons to grow very skeptical of all things faith based, and I certainly was no exception. I was fooled once for following the burning in my bosom, so I was adamant that I wasn’t going to fall for that again. During these three years I bounced around from Catholic Mass and Orthodox Divine Liturgy at our local OCA. An Ethiopian friend also would take me to her church (the Oriental Orthodox Church) from time to time. The subtle differences in doctrine between these three were too profound and quite frankly confusing for me to distinguish. It seemed that at this point I hit a dead end in my use of reason-alone. I had to take a leap of faith, and I did just that on the Easter Vigil of 2009. I can’t say that I know for certain that Catholic ecclesiology is more historically correct than that of the Orthodox, but the Papacy makes sense to me, the visible expression of the Catholic Church is much more catholic, she has seemingly executed the Great Commission of our Lord to a much greater extent than the Orthodox churches, and so I went with Rome.
 
My coming to the Catholic Church was entirely independent of my leaving the LDS. It started when I came back from my mission and began college. I studied molecular biology as an undergraduate and volunteered in two genetics labs. I eventually became proficient enough in the discipline to see through the LDS apologist handwaving which dismissed the very obvious conclusion from DNA that there was likely no transatlantic voyage of Jews, and certainly no large scale Jewish civilization in Mesoamerica. This was the lynchpin, though other findings eventually confirmed it, such as the obvious hoax known as the Book of Abraham, Joseph Smith’s infidelity and convenient revelations on polygamy, the original ordaining of Blacks followed by the divine ban against the same. These others were all peripheral reasons, however. As Joseph’s very introduction to the Book of Mormon attests: it is the keystone of the religion; the entire edifice rests on it. Either the Book of Mormon is what he claimed it is or the entire LDS religion is a farce. I very quickly became an apathetic skeptic of all things religious; an atheist if you will, though I don’t think I much cared to wax philosophical about the topic. I’ve always been a loud mouth, and I was raised to value personal integrity so I didn’t keep quiet about my decision to leave. I told my entire family, my singles ward Bishop, I renounced my callings and officially resigned from the Church.

Toward the end of my undergraduate career, I had to fulfill a general education requirement involving “cultural understanding”. I elected to take a history class at my notoriously secular university called “History of the Early Christian Church: the Apostolic Age to Nicaea I”. Despite the textbooks being authored by none other than the atheistic Bart Ehrman, and my instructor being a quite vocal critic of contemporary Christianity, I nevertheless learned how queer these early Christians were. I mean, they believed they were eating the literal body of their deity, they kept reliquaries filled with the body parts and personal belongings of their dead saints (which they believed would dispense miracles), they prayed over the sites of the deceased and the same deceased were often the object of their prayers. While there were always contenders to what Ehrman called the “Proto-Orthodox”, such as the Gnostics and Montanists, they were always short-lived, were consistently called out by the same “Proto-Orthodox”, and while they certainly challenged some very specific article of the faith, they nevertheless still professed faith in many doctrines we would today undoubtedly classify as Catholic/Orthodox. At this point in my journey, not only was it becoming readily apparent to me that the first Christians were very Catholic, but my previous conclusion was confirmed: these early Christians were certainly not Mormon. There didn’t exist a single cohesive group of Christians you could point to and say “Yep! These are the Former-day Saints!” No matter how much the LDS want to cherry-pick the doctrines of heretics to show that there was a semblance of LDS doctrine before the so-called restoration, none of these groups alone professed the entirety of Mormon faith.

At this point I enrolled in RCIA and spent three years discerning the Church, for at this time I was certain of apostolic Christianity, but not certain that the Catholic Church specifically “held the keys”. There’s a tendency among ex-Mormons to grow very skeptical of all things faith based, and I certainly was no exception. I was fooled once for following the burning in my bosom, so I was adamant that I wasn’t going to fall for that again. During these three years I bounced around from Catholic Mass and Orthodox Divine Liturgy at our local OCA. An Ethiopian friend also would take me to her church (the Oriental Orthodox Church) from time to time. The subtle differences in doctrine between these three were too profound and quite frankly confusing for me to distinguish. It seemed that at this point I hit a dead end in my use of reason-alone. I had to take a leap of faith, and I did just that on the Easter Vigil of 2009. I can’t say that I know for certain that Catholic ecclesiology is more historically correct than that of the Orthodox, but the Papacy makes sense to me, the visible expression of the Catholic Church is much more catholic, she has seemingly executed the Great Commission of our Lord to a much greater extent than the Orthodox churches, and so I went with Rome.
So when is your book coming out? 😛

Seriously, this is great. I love how even the liberal professors and textbooks couldn’t hide the success of the Catholic Church!

Very interesting conversion story.
 
Hmmm. Studied genetics but concludes that DNA proves the Book of Mormon false? Doesn’t sound like much of a scientist to me.

Tell me, what exactly is this “lynchpin proof”?
 
Maybe you should read up on things here.
Ever since I was a boy my father told me all about my Scandinavian ancestors, including the Vikings from a thousand years ago.

I’ve also since come to learn that some of my ancestors are from Mexico! (Mom’s side). Does this negate my Scandinavian ancestry?

This is what I meant by a faulty conclusion based on DNA; a conclusion which I might add I wouldn’t expect to be arrived at by a person who allegedly studied genetics. If Asian migration into the new world was ongoing and involved thousands of people, while a Middle Eastern migration involved two boatloads and occurred only twice, should it be surprising that any faint amount of Jewish DNA would get drowned out by Asian DNA?
 
When I left the Utah Mormon church 18 years ago, I left for less than theological reasons. The “bishop” was trying to help me and my first wife get on track with finances, but when things didn’t go according to how he thought they should, he said some unkind things about me, and I said some unkind things to him, and left him with the final words of “You can kiss my —.” Needless to say, I was in a bit of trouble. Instead of going through their kangaroo “Bishop’s Court” I left. When I left the Remnant Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, it was because I got tired of all the mental gymnastics with reading stuff word for word from the Bible that Joe had copied and pasted to his book of mormon.
 
The Bibleis just for show. They use the Book of Mormon
Since when? Last I checked, they primarily use the D&C and the Pearl of Great Price. Shoot, when I was in the Remnant LDS, I knew more about the Book of Mormon that most mormons.
 
So when is your book coming out? 😛

Seriously, this is great. I love how even the liberal professors and textbooks couldn’t hide the success of the Catholic Church!

Very interesting conversion story.
Thank you 🙂
 
Hmmm. Studied genetics but concludes that DNA proves the Book of Mormon false? Doesn’t sound like much of a scientist to me.

Tell me, what exactly is this “lynchpin proof”?
It may benefit you to go back and read my post you quoted. No where do I use the word proof, indeed, I said something along the lines of “there was likely no transatlantic voyage of any Jews.”

Nevertheless, I certainly would feel very confident betting all of my assets against there being Israelite expats in Mesoamerica as contemporary mitochondrial haplotypes indicative of a Middle East ancestry are nowhere to be found among Native Americans, except for in cases where there has been recent admixture with Western Europeans. The really cool thing about mitochondrial DNA is that unlike chromosomal DNA, it is highly conserved, does not undergo crossover effects (i.e. doesn’t get “mixed together” with other sources of DNA) and very rarely mutates. When it does mutate, it does so predictably and at a constant rate. It’s these qualities of mtDNA which makes it such a powerful tool in mapping human populations over time. We can know with relatively great precision how long ago a haplotype arose (i.e. when it mutated into existence), and based on relative frequencies within a population we can determine how closely related they are to other populations. We know that this is a sound assumption because when we map out haplotypes geographically (such as here) we see a gradual cline in the frequencies which correlate with distance from where the haplotype arose.

We’ll take the J haplogroup as an example. We know this haplotype mutated somewhere near the Caucasus mountains about 40k years ago. The age we can determine using that constant mutation rate I mentioned and then working backwards to accounts for the total number of DNA nucleotide bases within the haplotype. We can be fairly certain of the location of mutation due to its incidence in over 70% of people in that part of the world. As we start to move away from the Caucasus, particularly toward Palestine and the Arabian peninsula the incidence remains high but slowly declines. The same holds true as we move eastward toward India, until the incidence of the haplotype seemingly disappears. This is of course just looking at one single haplotype. In reality populations consist of many and when we speak of “Jewish haplogroups” or “Chinese haplogroups” what we’re really talking about is the total repertoir of haplogroups which together in their proper concentrations indicate common ancestry.

Your non-sequiturs about your Scandinavian ancestry are just that: irrelevant to this topic. mtDNA analysis cannot tell a single individual what their ancestry is because: (1) haplotypes mutate very slowly meaning that at best it can only tell you that you descend from some unnamed individual from some part of the world 40,000 years ago, and (2) individuals only have one mitochondrial haplotype. I’ve tested my own mtDNA and found that I have the T3 haplotype which evolved in modern day Iraq some 25k years ago. T3 is most prevalent among Palestinians, Syrians, Turks, the Balkans, and (yes) Jews. T3 is also present in some Northern Europeans, but the rate of incidence is so low that we don’t think of it as indicative of European ancestry. So what can I conclude from my mtDNA sequencing? Absolutely nothing! It was just a fun thing I did to waste time while I was messing around with a NextGen sequencer our lab got 😃

What can it tell us about populations though? Lots! T3 and J haplotypes are very common among Jews and people of Semitic origin. We know this for the reason I mentioned earlier concerning mtDNA geographic maps. What’s more interesting is that we also know this due to the small enclaves of Jews throughout Europe. While T3 and J are very very rare among most Western and Northern Europeans, the rate of incidence is almost the same among Sephardim and Ashkenazi Jews. But wait a minute! Jeff Lindsay and FAIR told me that such “Jewish DNA” would have “diluted out by now”! Granted, the haplotyping of European Jews isn’t identical to that of Palestinian Jews (or Arabs for that matter), but we nevertheless see a micro-sample of the relative ratios among the Diaspora. We should then expect to see the same among the American Diaspora of Israelites too, yes? The problem is that we don’t observe this… at all. In fact, what we do observe is almost complete homogeneity among Native American haplogroups without a T3 or J in sight. This homogeneity implies to me that Native Americans were reproductively isolated from the rest of the world for a couple dozen thousand years, which of course is irreconcilable with a Book of Mormon history that informs us that Israelites migrated to the New World, interbred, and moreover were the progenitors of huge civilizations. So what are our options in explaining these data?
  1. Heavenly Father is tricking us by altering Native American haplotypes,
  2. There was a very very severe genetic bottleneck in which after the Jaredite and Nephite voyages they did very little breeding and remained entirely isolated from the rest of the Native Americans,
  3. The Book of Mormon chronology is off by a couple dozen thousand years (in order to fit the Jaredite and Nephite expeditions in before these haplotypes evolved), or
  4. There was no translatlantic expedition of Israelites to the New World.
Now seriously, leaving your LDS biases at the door for a minute, ask yourself: which of these explanations is the most parsimonious with the evidence? Yes, they’re all possible, but which is most likely?
 
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