excommuncation

[scared]

Hi:

I am really having a hard time in the church right now, well actually for about a year now. No matter what I try there are just too many issues that keep coming up. I did approach my PP last year and it was a disaster. Needless to say we are not seeing eye to eye. So I am left to try and deal with issues that I desperately need help with. However, this is where things get real tricky, we only have one PP, I am in a remote rural area, no other parish reasonably close and even if I did get to another church based on previous problems with clergy I probably wouldn’t approach the priest.

My problem is that I have been having thoughts of having myself excommunicated. If I were to enter the church go to receive, which I shouldn’t do because I am in mortal sin, but what the heck I am already destine for hell so what is one more, then instead of consuming the eucharist I crush it in my hand and throw it at the priest’s feet. Automatic excommunication, right? I don’t know what to do anymore, my PP is aware of the situation I am in, not what I feel like doing, but the other stuff.

I know it is wrong, but I need this tug of war inside me to stop it is driving me crazy.

scared

 

[UKcatholicGuy]

Scared,

If you desecrate the Host, you will not be hurting the priest, but your Savior Who loves you more than you know. Please, don’t ever do something like that. It sounds like you might be struggling with scrupulosity? If so, please send me a PM, as I struggle with it myself and would be glad to help you.

As far as going to Communion in mortal sin . . . there is no reason to do that. God wants to give you His forgiveness in the Sacrament of Penance. All you have to do is go to confession! No sin is too big to be forgiven-- none! St. Peter denied Our Lord three times, and Christ still took him back, and made him the head of His Church! Listen, God loves you. It may not seem like it at the moment, but you must believe me that He does. Don’t do anything you would regret or that would be sinful, for those are temptations from the devil. The devil would have you believe that God is angry at you, that He thinks you are worthless, that He doesn’t care about you. The devil would have you believe that you are too far gone to come back, that forgiveness is impossible, that Church is not for you. Listen to me: It’s all a big lie! Turn to God. Turn to Our Lady!

Please talk to a trusted priest. If you don’t know of one, please contact Catholic Answers and they will put you in touch with one. And please feel free to send me a message if you need any help.

May you rest in the merciful arms of Jesus Christ and His most pure and holy Mother.

 

[CRW]

Hi:

I am really having a hard time in the church right now, well actually for about a year now. No matter what I try there are just too many issues that keep coming up. I did approach my PP last year and it was a disaster. Needless to say we are not seeing eye to eye. So I am left to try and deal with issues that I desperately need help with. However, this is where things get real tricky, we only have one PP, I am in a remote rural area, no other parish reasonably close and even if I did get to another church based on previous problems with clergy I probably wouldn’t approach the priest.

My problem is that I have been having thoughts of having myself excommunicated. If I were to enter the church go to receive, which I shouldn’t do because I am in mortal sin, but what the heck I am already destine for hell so what is one more, then instead of consuming the eucharist I crush it in my hand and throw it at the priest’s feet. Automatic excommunication, right? I don’t know what to do anymore, my PP is aware of the situation I am in, not what I feel like doing, but the other stuff.

I know it is wrong, but I need this tug of war inside me to stop it is driving me crazy.

scared

Despite any problems that you may have, why would you desecrate our Lord? Have you considered professional medical assistance? Professional therapy? Visualize our Lord on the cross, his suffering, his pain, and most of all, his love for you. There are no sins that our Lord will not forgive - none. Pray to the Blessed Mother for help. She loves you as she love her son.

 

[G_S]

Dear Friend,

Please do not consider such a drastic step. You need to find someone to talk to. If you really cannot find someone, at least you are reaching out to us. Pray, pray, pray. – But do not isolate yourself. If you are scared, ask our loving Savior for courage. He will give it to you. I will pray for you.

 

[scared]

Praying, devotion, the rosary, I haven’t been able to do for sometime. If I could go to confession without being scared to death I would, I have tried, turned tail and run.

As for medical help, not it is not medical. There are many factors that have brought things to this point. Most of it is that I don’t have the support of my pp. These are issues that need to be dealt with the help of a priest. I have spoke with a catholic counsellor, but many of the issues require a priest and without one I am basically lost.

scared

 

[thistle]

Praying, devotion, the rosary, I haven’t been able to do for sometime. If I could go to confession without being scared to death I would, I have tried, turned tail and run.

As for medical help, not it is not medical. There are many factors that have brought things to this point. Most of it is that I don’t have the support of my pp. These are issues that need to be dealt with the help of a priest. I have spoke with a catholic counsellor, but many of the issues require a priest and without one I am basically lost.

scared

Try a diiferent priest at your parish or even at another parish. You are not bound to talk to one particular priest.

 

[rpp]

Praying, devotion, the rosary, I haven’t been able to do for sometime. If I could go to confession without being scared to death I would, I have tried, turned tail and run.

As for medical help, not it is not medical. There are many factors that have brought things to this point. Most of it is that I don’t have the support of my pp. These are issues that need to be dealt with the help of a priest. I have spoke with a catholic counsellor, but many of the issues require a priest and without one I am basically lost.

scared

Having only one priest at your parish can be difficult when you have difficulties with them.

If you have comitted a sin which may result in excommunication, the act of going to confession with the purpose of confessing that sin and reonouncing it will avoid excommunication.

Say, for example, you participated in an abortion. CCC 2272 says automatic excommunication. However, if you go your priest, even one you do not get along with, and confess this, renounce it an amend your life so that you will not commit the sin again, the priest can absolve you. In nearly all diocese in the US, the priest is given the right to lift this automatic excommunication for abortion for those who confess it and genuinely regret it (which is vertually everyone anyway) and promise to not do it again. Even if the priest for whatever reason does nt lift the Ecommunication, he must notify the bishop of your situation and the bishop can.

One last point. Priests cannot excommunicate people. Only bishops and the person themself can excommunicate.

Oh, and literally for Heaven’s sake, never desecrate the Blessed Sacrament.

 

[kage_ar]

Call the Catholic Answers Apologists line. They have a Priest who may be able to assist you via phone.