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"Excuses, Excuses"

Inevitably, somewhere along the line, people thinking about religious life come up with good reasons why they should not pursue and investigate this call to religious life. Fears set in, doubts set in, and there is always something that is holding them back.

Sometimes, the reasons one decides not to act on a religious vocation at the present time are good and certainly have to be considered. When these reasons surface, they need to be considered and sometimes may require that one’s personal plans be put to the side for the time being.


Yet, sometimes, they may be just “excuses.” Excuses that are “self” centered are something not God orientated. Excuses that flow from some fear I may have of responding to a call from God may be real but not worth considering. When do we know if our reasons for not considering a call from God are good reasons or just excuses.

Where can we get help? Well, a good spiritual director can help with this. Often time, we need to seek the guidance of others who may be better able to help us make this distinction. One important point to remember is that there is probably no “excuse” that has not been used before!

All the “excuses” we can think of probably were thought of and used before. God has heard them all! If you don’t believe me, check out scripture!

If you can identify with one of the popular excuses listed below; take a moment to investigate the Lord’s (name removed by moderator)ut to your concern (after all, God is the one calling). Although it is not David Letterman’s these can be seen as the Vocation Director’s “Top Ten List” of excuses given for not considering the possibility of being a religious. So, in descending order, the top ten listof excuses given for not entering religious life

#10 “I want to be happy.” Check out: Psalms 37:4; Matthew 5:1-2; John 10:10 and Mark 10:28-31

#9 “I’m afraid of being alone.” Check out: Exodus 3:4-22; Luke 1:28-31 and Matthew 28:20

#8 “I’m not smart enough.” Check out: 2 Corinthians 4:7-18 and Exodus 4:10-17

#7 “I am afraid of making a commitment.” Check out: Ruth 1:15-17 and 1 Corinthians 25:5-10

#6 “I want the good life.” Check out: Mark 10:17-31; John 10:10 and Matthew 13:44-46

#5 “I want to have a family.” Check out: Genesis 12:1-3; Matthew 12:46-50 and Mark 10:28-31

#4 “I’m not talented enough.” Check out: Luke 1:26-28

#3 “I’ve made mistakes; I’m a sinner.” Check out: John 21:15-23; Matthew 9:9-13 and Luke 7:36-50

**#2 “I am afraid I will fail.” ** Check out: Exodus 14:10-31 and Luke 15.

And, the top excuse given for not considering the possibility of religious life is…

#1 “I am not holy enough.” Check out: Isaiah 6:1-9 and Luke 5:1-11

Although put in a humorous way, these “excuses” are real. They can be paralysing. They can make it impossible for us to go on with our life. They need to be reconciled. You can take comfort in the fact that they arise in the hearts and souls of everyone who considers a religious vocation You are not alone.

What do we do if we discover that they are not good reasons but just “excuses” for not considering religious life? Well, perhaps the prophets, disciples, and followers of Christ who had these same excuses can give us some direction. It is clear that all of them had to put their “self” aside and trust in God. Moses had to do it. Mary had to do it. All the apostles had to do it. God wants us to be happy in our lives. Happiness comes from trusting in God. Perhaps we need to do it.

ecclesia-ottawa.org/archidiocese/index_e.aspx?DetailID=171
 
"Excuses, Excuses"

Inevitably, somewhere along the line, people thinking about religious life come up with good reasons why they should not pursue and investigate this call to religious life. Fears set in, doubts set in, and there is always something that is holding them back.

Sometimes, the reasons one decides not to act on a religious vocation at the present time are good and certainly have to be considered. When these reasons surface, they need to be considered and sometimes may require that one’s personal plans be put to the side for the time being.


Yet, sometimes, they may be just “excuses.” Excuses that are “self” centered are something not God orientated. Excuses that flow from some fear I may have of responding to a call from God may be real but not worth considering. When do we know if our reasons for not considering a call from God are good reasons or just excuses.

Where can we get help? Well, a good spiritual director can help with this. Often time, we need to seek the guidance of others who may be better able to help us make this distinction. One important point to remember is that there is probably no “excuse” that has not been used before!

All the “excuses” we can think of probably were thought of and used before. God has heard them all! If you don’t believe me, check out scripture!

If you can identify with one of the popular excuses listed below; take a moment to investigate the Lord’s (name removed by moderator)ut to your concern (after all, God is the one calling). Although it is not David Letterman’s these can be seen as the Vocation Director’s “Top Ten List” of excuses given for not considering the possibility of being a religious. So, in descending order, the top ten listof excuses given for not entering religious life

#10 “I want to be happy.” Check out: Psalms 37:4; Matthew 5:1-2; John 10:10 and Mark 10:28-31

#9 “I’m afraid of being alone.” Check out: Exodus 3:4-22; Luke 1:28-31 and Matthew 28:20

#8 “I’m not smart enough.” Check out: 2 Corinthians 4:7-18 and Exodus 4:10-17

#7 “I am afraid of making a commitment.” Check out: Ruth 1:15-17 and 1 Corinthians 25:5-10

#6 “I want the good life.” Check out: Mark 10:17-31; John 10:10 and Matthew 13:44-46

#5 “I want to have a family.” Check out: Genesis 12:1-3; Matthew 12:46-50 and Mark 10:28-31

#4 “I’m not talented enough.” Check out: Luke 1:26-28

#3 “I’ve made mistakes; I’m a sinner.” Check out: John 21:15-23; Matthew 9:9-13 and Luke 7:36-50

**#2 “I am afraid I will fail.” ** Check out: Exodus 14:10-31 and Luke 15.

And, the top excuse given for not considering the possibility of religious life is…

#1 “I am not holy enough.” Check out: Isaiah 6:1-9 and Luke 5:1-11

Although put in a humorous way, these “excuses” are real. They can be paralysing. They can make it impossible for us to go on with our life. They need to be reconciled. You can take comfort in the fact that they arise in the hearts and souls of everyone who considers a religious vocation You are not alone.

What do we do if we discover that they are not good reasons but just “excuses” for not considering religious life? Well, perhaps the prophets, disciples, and followers of Christ who had these same excuses can give us some direction. It is clear that all of them had to put their “self” aside and trust in God. Moses had to do it. Mary had to do it. All the apostles had to do it. God wants us to be happy in our lives. Happiness comes from trusting in God. Perhaps we need to do it.

ecclesia-ottawa.org/archidiocese/index_e.aspx?DetailID=171
I have definitely used some of these excuses earlier last year when I started discerning. I didn’t think I was the “right man for the job” (or woman, in my case), and I wanted a family and the normal life. God has other plans for me, however, and the “Hound of Heaven” wouldn’t let me go without a fight. Now, I’m applying to a community! If I can do this, anyone can. I’m like the worst God could find.
 
:bigyikes: :hmmm: The only thing missing from your post is attention: Lainey f/y/i…😊
 
What about: “I’m afraid I’m not strong enough (health-wise)”?
 
If you take this: “#5 ‘I want to have a family.’ Check out: Genesis 12:1-3; Matthew 12:46-50 and Mark 10:28-31” and skip down to this: “Although put in a humorous way, these ‘excuses’ are real. … It is clear that all of them [the prophets and apostles] had to put their ‘self’ aside and trust in God”, it looks as though this is saying that selfishness leads us to marry, and that we would all be a priest or religious if we could just root out selfishness. Is that what this is saying or at least implying?
 
…and the “Hound of Heaven” wouldn’t let me go without a fight…
You don’t know how many times I’ve tried to tell the “Hound of Heaven” that I am not his little yellow tennis ball and to puh-leez leave me alone 😊
 
If you take this: “#5 ‘I want to have a family.’ Check out: Genesis 12:1-3; Matthew 12:46-50 and Mark 10:28-31” and skip down to this: “Although put in a humorous way, these ‘excuses’ are real. … It is clear that all of them [the prophets and apostles] had to put their ‘self’ aside and trust in God”, it looks as though this is saying that selfishness leads us to marry, and that we would all be a priest or religious if we could just root out selfishness. Is that what this is saying or at least implying?
Hmm, never really thought of marriage as being selfish. I, myself didn’t write this article I received this 5 years ago when I was on a weekend retreat…I do provide a website where it originally came from. Therefore, you could direct your question or concern to

The Archdiocese of Ottawa
The Diocesan Centre
1247 Kilborn Place
Ottawa, Ontario
K1H 6K9

Telephone number: 613-738-5025
Fax number: 613-738-0130
E-mail: reception@archottawa.ca

JMJ_coder- I don’t see that on the list but you could discuss this with your parish Priest or whomever (that is if you are) discerning with.

God bless,
goforgoal
 
For me, excuses 10, 9, and 6 were reasons that I continued my discernment.

We really can not fault anyone who discontinues discernment for religious life/priesthood as it is really an individual endeavor and we are not really in on it and know all that goes on.

That being said this is a nice list with the Scriptural links.
 
"Excuses, Excuses"

Inevitably, somewhere along the line, people thinking about religious life come up with good reasons why they should not pursue and investigate this call to religious life. Fears set in, doubts set in, and there is always something that is holding them back.

Sometimes, the reasons one decides not to act on a religious vocation at the present time are good and certainly have to be considered. When these reasons surface, they need to be considered and sometimes may require that one’s personal plans be put to the side for the time being.


Yet, sometimes, they may be just “excuses.” Excuses that are “self” centered are something not God orientated. Excuses that flow from some fear I may have of responding to a call from God may be real but not worth considering. When do we know if our reasons for not considering a call from God are good reasons or just excuses.

Where can we get help? Well, a good spiritual director can help with this. Often time, we need to seek the guidance of others who may be better able to help us make this distinction. One important point to remember is that there is probably no “excuse” that has not been used before!

All the “excuses” we can think of probably were thought of and used before. God has heard them all! If you don’t believe me, check out scripture!

If you can identify with one of the popular excuses listed below; take a moment to investigate the Lord’s (name removed by moderator)ut to your concern (after all, God is the one calling). Although it is not David Letterman’s these can be seen as the Vocation Director’s “Top Ten List” of excuses given for not considering the possibility of being a religious. So, in descending order, the top ten listof excuses given for not entering religious life

#10 “I want to be happy.” Check out: Psalms 37:4; Matthew 5:1-2; John 10:10 and Mark 10:28-31

#9 “I’m afraid of being alone.” Check out: Exodus 3:4-22; Luke 1:28-31 and Matthew 28:20

#8 “I’m not smart enough.” Check out: 2 Corinthians 4:7-18 and Exodus 4:10-17

#7 “I am afraid of making a commitment.” Check out: Ruth 1:15-17 and 1 Corinthians 25:5-10

#6 “I want the good life.” Check out: Mark 10:17-31; John 10:10 and Matthew 13:44-46

#5 “I want to have a family.” Check out: Genesis 12:1-3; Matthew 12:46-50 and Mark 10:28-31

#4 “I’m not talented enough.” Check out: Luke 1:26-28

#3 “I’ve made mistakes; I’m a sinner.” Check out: John 21:15-23; Matthew 9:9-13 and Luke 7:36-50

**#2 “I am afraid I will fail.” ** Check out: Exodus 14:10-31 and Luke 15.

And, the top excuse given for not considering the possibility of religious life is…

#1 “I am not holy enough.” Check out: Isaiah 6:1-9 and Luke 5:1-11

Although put in a humorous way, these “excuses” are real. They can be paralysing. They can make it impossible for us to go on with our life. They need to be reconciled. You can take comfort in the fact that they arise in the hearts and souls of everyone who considers a religious vocation You are not alone.

What do we do if we discover that they are not good reasons but just “excuses” for not considering religious life? Well, perhaps the prophets, disciples, and followers of Christ who had these same excuses can give us some direction. It is clear that all of them had to put their “self” aside and trust in God. Moses had to do it. Mary had to do it. All the apostles had to do it. God wants us to be happy in our lives. Happiness comes from trusting in God. Perhaps we need to do it.

ecclesia-ottawa.org/archidiocese/index_e.aspx?DetailID=171
Haha!!! I LOVE THIS!!! Wish I had it six months ago when I was still discerning. 🙂
Very good list and extremely true.
 
If you take this: “#5 ‘I want to have a family.’ Check out: Genesis 12:1-3; Matthew 12:46-50 and Mark 10:28-31” and skip down to this: “Although put in a humorous way, these ‘excuses’ are real. … It is clear that all of them [the prophets and apostles] had to put their ‘self’ aside and trust in God”, it looks as though this is saying that selfishness leads us to marry, and that we would all be a priest or religious if we could just root out selfishness. Is that what this is saying or at least implying?
Probably not. Those who really truly hear a calling who just get married instead could be getting married for selfish reasons. But there are also a lot of selfish reasons for religious life too. Knowing that you’ll always be taken care of, being sexist, not wanting commitment, and a few others. There can be selfish reasons for doing just about anything. It just depends on your intention for making any given decision.

Hopefully that helps.
 
Probably not. Those who really truly hear a calling who just get married instead could be getting married for selfish reasons. But there are also a lot of selfish reasons for religious life too. Knowing that you’ll always be taken care of, being sexist, not wanting commitment, and a few others. There can be selfish reasons for doing just about anything. It just depends on your intention for making any given decision.

Hopefully that helps.
Yet those who do get married are called to that life and must live it out to its fullness.

One may feel called to religious life/priesthood but there is no call present until the Church actually calls one forward for solemn vows/ordination.
 
You’ll never truly know until you receive the solemn vows.
Why do the vows have to be solemn; religious congregations and societies(as opposed to “true” orders, which are in the minority) seem to offer “only” simple vows?
 
Probably not. Those who really truly hear a calling who just get married instead could be getting married for selfish reasons. But there are also a lot of selfish reasons for religious life too. Knowing that you’ll always be taken care of, being sexist, not wanting commitment, and a few others. There can be selfish reasons for doing just about anything. It just depends on your intention for making any given decision.

Hopefully that helps.
I agree with you. What I am saying is that this is what the article seems to imply. I have heard that elsewhere on websites for vocational discernment: things like “Seminarians often describe the call in words like, ‘Someway, somehow the thought of being a priest entered my mind, and it didn’t go away. I tried to ignore it, to avoid it, to run from it and to cover it. But in those quiet moments of truth, when I was honest and unselfish, the thought always came back.’” (Diocese of Bismarck).
 
With all due respect, do you know how easily it would be for people to push vocations on others with this? I mean I myself use this one “excuse” and here is my defense of it.

#9 The verses are not very convincing to those who aren’t confident in the sound of a metaphysical voice. Not to mention, when was the last time God did something as crazy as the ten plagues?
 
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