Explaining the process of Courting

[thewanderer]

Hey - there’s nothing wrong with being stubborn! My stubborness keeps me out of a lot of trouble, and gets me in a lot of trouble

So, I think we have to agree on this: Terms do not define our life, our life determines our terms. So the “dating vs. courting” debate is really not important. It’s what happens in each one that is important!

The best relationship is the one that helps you become the best version of yourself and works towards God’s will (look up Matthew Kelly’s “The Best Way to Live” - excellent!) When the relationship makes both of those involved a better person in God, that’s success.

By not being stubborn I meanthat I really am not one of those people who will refuse to listen to any sort of reason and gets into discussions just to try and prove their point, as cyberangel seemed to imply about me. As for the idea that dating vs courting depends on the person and what’s best for them I entirely agree with you.

 

[LaMusicaSenior]

:whackadoo: It’s great to have something we agree on

 

[sbe]

There is a great book by Carmen Marcoux called Arms of Love that I highly recommend.
I believe that if your vocation in life is to be married, then you must start praying for your future spouse. There is a website called courtshipnow.com that you can check out.
sbe

 

[oldfashcathgirl]

I just want to say that I admire you for knowing this at your age.
Continue to grow in Him (Jesus) before you enter into a relationship with anyone else.

I am 20 and I also believe in Courting before marriage, I think it’s a beautiful way to have a relationship I refuse to get into any “recreational dating” habits and I choose to only have a relationship that is dedicated to our Lord and has a vision (Proverbs 29:18) either we will be called to marriage to eachother or not. Courtship will help you both come to the conclusion together.

I previously courted but after a time of discernment and prayer we both knew it was not meant to be and mutually parted.
I had to be the one to bring it up and the first time we weent out my dad came with me. (he gave us room to talk, but he was there for accountability) Everytime after that we were in family situations only and laid down our boundaries together.

I think that any man who I will court will have no problem with it because of his faith in God and what his standards are, if he knows nothing about courting and you are the one to tell him (plain and simle) he will be excited to enter into that relationship if and when God calls you both there. If he is not wanting to go under those circumstances he is most likely NOT the man God is calling you to live the rest of your life with.
(sorry for the lengthy answer )

I pray for you to be encouraged and know there are other girls out there who strive to have wonderful courtships!!!

OFCG <3