Explicit pregnancy sex question

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In the last month or so of pregnancy, vaginal sex is rather uncomfortable. Also, a c-section has a rather long recovery time, meaning at 2-3 months of abstinence, give or take.

My question is this: Can the semen be deposited elsewhere during the act if it is immediately placed into the vaginal opening, making sex procreative but not painful?

If so, would this be permitted at other times as well?

Why or why not?
 
LaSainte said:
In the last month or so of pregnancy, vaginal sex is rather uncomfortable. Also, a c-section has a rather long recovery time, meaning at 2-3 months of abstinence, give or take.

My question is this: Can the semen be deposited elsewhere during the act if it is immediately placed into the vaginal opening, making sex procreative but not painful?

If so, would this be permitted at other times as well?

Why or why not?
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One is to abstain from marital relations until healed. Such is a very old question. (even in terms of normal delivery there is a time one must abstain)

And I think it can be like 4-6 weeks not 3 months by the way…but that is a medical question which I think is to be avoided here (so ones doctor is to be consulted)
 
Sex needs to be both unitive (sexual intercourse) and procreative.

If for now it is uncomfortable or painful or dangerous for the mother, it is fine to abstain.

If it isn’t dangerous for the mother or baby, just uncomfortable, her ob could recommend a product or technique that might help the discomfort.

The OP should note that abstaining during this time is actually common.
 
Mary_Gail_36 said:
Sex needs to be both unitive (sexual intercourse) and procreative.

If for now it is uncomfortable or painful or dangerous for the mother, it is fine to abstain.

If it isn’t dangerous for the mother or baby, just uncomfortable, her ob could recommend a product or technique that might help the discomfort.

The OP should note that abstaining during this time is actually common.
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She meant after the c-section…birth.

Hence one is to abstain for sure.
 
Mary_Gail_36 said:
She did mention the last month of pregnancy…

Abstinence after the birth, of course is mandatory until the doctor says yes.
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I missed that 🙂

So my answers were regarding the post-birth.

As to marital relations in the month or so prior to birth…ones doctor needs to be consulted…

But certainly they are to be *marital relations * if they occur before birth (not what was suggested in the question)
 
In regards to abstinence after a c-section or vaginal birth…you need to follow your doctors instructions to the letter. This is for the health of a woman, who is still healing, and shoud not have sex or even just semen placed there as she is healing and it could cause complications.

Also the first several weeks after having a baby, you are too tired and overwhelmed, trust me sex is the LAST thing on your mind.
 
The marital act has meaning in the physical way it is carried out. So , no.
 
Thanks for the responses. May I ask why this is not permissible? Wouldn’t the act be open to life in this way?
 
LaSainte said:
Thanks for the responses. May I ask why this is not permissible? Wouldn’t the act be open to life in this way?
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May I ask, why is sexual release (when it is uncomfortable, or against medical recommendations to actually have sex) so important? Seriously people can survive a couple months without sex.

As for not putting semen in the vagina after labor and delivery…it is a foreign substance, which can carry germs into an environment that is still healing from at the least a major medical event, or in the case of a c-section surgery. Would you rub semen on an open wound somewhere else in the body? Probably not.
 
LaSainte said:
In the last month or so of pregnancy, vaginal sex is rather uncomfortable. Also, a c-section has a rather long recovery time, meaning at 2-3 months of abstinence, give or take.

My question is this: Can the semen be deposited elsewhere during the act if it is immediately placed into the vaginal opening, making sex procreative but not painful?

If so, would this be permitted at other times as well?

Why or why not?
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LaSainte, to answer your question, both the unitive (vaginal intercourse) and the procreative (act open to life) must be present in every sexual act. So “Can the semen be deposited elsewhere during the act if it is immediately placed into the vaginal opening” doesn’t seem to fulfill those two aspects. If you have intercourse, maybe very shallow penetration is an option. My wife and I were able to do this for vaginal sex when she was uncomfortable during the weeks before she gave birth.
 
LaSainte said:
Thanks for the responses. May I ask why this is not permissible? Wouldn’t the act be open to life in this way?
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Probably not. The male organ isn’t designed to just deposit a small amount of fluid at the vaginal opening. How could you ‘inject’ ejaculate the way the penis does without causing the irritation you were trying to avoid? (Maybe a question best left unanswered…)

LaSainte, CAF would be a much duller place without you. 😉
 
Pillows, the answer is pillows. At least it was for us. :o

Pillows change the angle. It works. 🤷
 
You can be physically intimate without engaging in a form of sex 🤷
 
Good_Daughter said:
Probably not. The male organ isn’t designed to just deposit a small amount of fluid at the vaginal opening. How could you ‘inject’ ejaculate the way the penis does without causing the irritation you were trying to avoid? (Maybe a question best left unanswered…)

LaSainte, CAF would be a much duller place without you. 😉
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Hehe. Thanks I think 🙂

Yes, the question is probably best left unanswered. I guess I just want to know what is permitted. I mean, I know it’s permitted to use a perforated condom for the collection of a semen sample, so I don’t see why it wouldn’t be allowed for the man to ejaculate somewhere else and then ensure that SOME or MOST of the semen make it into the vagina. It seems like the exact same thing to me, if not quite for identical reasons.
 
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