Extreme sexual addictions

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I have mentioned this before, and it is so shameful… I have had a terrible sexual addiction for almost twenty years. I have gained no ground this Lent again. I am in treatment and anti depressants have helped some. But the addiction rears its head and I fall over and over. I think my confessor is becoming tired of me. Priests have prayed over me in front of the Blessed Sacrament using exorcised holy oil. I love God very much, but always fail Him in this area. And because if it I so seldom get to bewith my Lord in Holy Communion. I so miss the intamacy I had with God as a child. And now I am beginning to despair of ever being in heaven with Him. I ask your prayers and advice.
 
Been there before. Just about a year ago. The problem is gone now. I asked the The Blessed Virgin Mary to help me. I asked her to appeal to Jesus for help. I went to confession time after time. Satan was working the show. But I knew all was wrong! Prayer after prayer! I was at confession week after week! The thoughts in my mind, “Oh, it’s for your health.” My priest was very kind. Until I asked him if it was a mortal sin? “YES IT IS!” I was praying the rosary every night then, as well as now. But Satan just kept working the situation. By chance, or not. I found about about the Brown Scapular. Now that made a big difference! Got it blessed. I still had my moments. Satan was still working me. Then I was shown I had to be enrolled in the Brown Scapular. My priest didn’t know this. So I printed the enrollment prayers, found my priest, and got enrolled. Silence! That problem for me came to an end! Mary is Good! She worked me until I was right! I pray the Hily Rosary every day. I wear a Brown Scapular always.
 
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Been there before. Just about a year ago. The problem is gone now. I asked the The Blessed Virgin Mary to help me. I asked her to appeal to Jesus for help. I went to confession time after time. Satan was working the show. But I knew all was wrong! Prayer after prayer! I was at confession week after week! The thoughts in my mind, “Oh, it’s for your health.” My priest was very kind. Until I asked him if it was a mortal sin? “YES IT IS!” I was praying the rosary every night then, as well as now. But Satan just kept working the situation. By chance, or not. I found about about the Brown Scapular. Now that made a big difference! Got it blessed. I still had my moments. Satan was still working me. Then I was shown I had to be enrolled in the Brown Scapular. My priest didn’t know this. So I printed the enrollment prayers, found my priest, and got enrolled. Silence! That problem for me came to an end! Mary is Good! She worked me until I was right! I pray the Hily Rosary every day. I wear a Brown Scapular always.
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I also wear a Scapular. I thought it just had to be blessed. How do I get it enrolled?
 
You are on the right path. 🙂 I am praying for you; fortitude, endurance, hope. 🙂 I have been there as well, not as long as you mentioned, but several years. You are doing the right thing; keep it up! 🙂 You WILL overcome this; and how MIGHTY you will be when you are through.
 
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I also wear a Scapular. I thought it just had to be blessed. How do I get it enrolled?
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A brown scapular? All you have to do is ask your priest if he can set aside a few minutes for you. It only takes a few minutes and I’m sure he will be happy to accommodate you! 🙂

Once you have been vested - if the scapular breaks or is lost - you only need to have the new one blessed.
 
In addition to all of the previous excellent advice, Why don’t you consult a medical hypno-therapist? They can be very helpful and can have superb results in getting rid of bad habits with post-hypnotic suggestion therapies. Why not talk it over with your current counselor and possibly get a referral from him/her.
In addition to the hypno-therapist, continue with your prayers and meditations,…and sacrificial fasting is the forgotten offering to the Lord in our society. It might help.
 
I take Paxil for depression and one of the side effects is a drastically reduced libido. You may want your doctor to switch meds.
 
When you cannot make ground on some virtue (here chastity) you need to keep on working at it, but also work on the other virtues. The more opportunities you put yourself in for God to be able to give you the graces of those virtues (i.e., volunteering more for charity, etc.) the easier other virtues will become. You might try asking for spiritual guidance in other aspects of physical abandonment to God, like fasting for example.
The more you try to run after a rabbit in a field, the farther away it will get; you need to corner it in a room to have a chance at catching it. By building other virtues and aspects of temperance, you will be cornering chastity, so to speak.
In the end though, only the grace of the Holy Spirit can make it possible so ask for Mary’s intercession, that the graces she was full of by the Spirit, she might ask that you too might share those graces.
Never stop praying and confession.
 
I suggest that you pray the Three Hail Mary’s. You can find out how to pray them on this website: catholictradition.org/Mary/three.htm
Remember that you must pray this with great fervor and devotion if you don’t want to fall into impurity. I used to struggle with this as well but when I started praying this, all the temptation went away. Pray it each morning and evening. Feel free to message me if you have any more questions!
God bless you :crossrc:
 
I don’t know if these will help you in your particular situation, but they are short video presentations addressed primarily to young people.
I found much of the advice to be applicable to sin in general.
Even if they don’t help you at this moment you may find something here useful if you find yourself giving advice to others in the future.
Sex & Morality
A Sexual Fantasy World
Battling Sexual Sin
Conquering Sexual Sin
The Sexual Gateway Sin

The grace of God can overcome any sin. Each time temptation peeks around the corner invoke the names of Mary and Jesus. Keep a holy object, such as a crucifix, handy. Keep the image of our Lord dying for us in your mind’s eye. That will help to banish impure images.

God bless you in your struggle. Try thanking God for this struggle – you can (in the end) grow in holiness by battling over and over and over.

Dominus tecum, Reg.

(P.S. If those links don’t work for you type the titles into YouTube. They are posted there as well.)
 
Layp3rs0n said:
I also wear a Scapular. I thought it just had to be blessed. How do I get it enrolled?
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Procedure for Blessing and Investiture

Priest - Show us, O Lord, Thy mercy.
Respondent - And grant us Thy salvation.
P - Lord, hear my prayer.
R - And let my cry come unto Thee.
P - The Lord be with you.
R - And with your Spirit.
P - Lord Jesus Christ, Savior of the human race, sanctify + by Thy power these scapulars, which for love of Thee and for love of Our Lady of Mount Carmel, Thy servants will wear devoutly, so that through the intercession of the same Virgin Mary, Mother of God, and protected against the evil spirit, they persevere until death in Thy grace. Thou who livest and reignest world without end. Amen.

THE PRIEST SPRINKLES WITH HOLY WATER THE SCAPULAR AND THE PERSON(S) BEING ENROLLED. HE THEN INVESTS HIM (THEM), SAYING:

P - Receive this blessed scapular and beseech the Blessed Virgin that through Her merits, you may wear it without stain. May it defend you against all adversity and accompany you to eternal life. Amen.

**AFTER INVESTITURE THE PRIEST CONTINUES WITH THE PRAYERS:
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P - I, by the power vested in me, admit you to participate in all the spiritual benefits obtained through the mercy of Jesus Christ by the Religious Order of Mount Carmel. In the name of the Father + and of the Son + and of the Holy Ghost. + Amen.

May God Almighty, the Creator of Heaven and earth, bless + you, He who has deigned to join you to the Confraternity of the Blessed Virgin of Mount Carmel; we beseech Her to crush the head of the ancient serpent so that you may enter into possession of your eternal heritage through Christ our Lord.
R - Amen.

**THE PRIEST THEN SPRINKLES AGAIN WITH HOLY WATER THE PERSON(S) ENROLLED.
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Mary, Mother most pure, and Joseph, chaste guardian of the Virgin, to you I entrust the purity of my soul and body. I beg you to plead with God for me that I may never for the remainder of my life soil my soul by any sin of impurity. I earnestly wish to be pure in thought, word and deed in imitation of your own holy purity. Obtain for me a deep sense of modesty, which will be reflected in my external conduct. Protect my eyes, the windows of my soul, from anything that might dim the luster of a heart that must mirror only Christ-like purity. And when the “Bread of Angels” becomes my food in Holy Communion, seal my heart forever against the suggestions of sinful pleasures. Finally, may I be among the number of those of whom Jesus spoke, “Blessed are the pure of heart for they shall see God.” Amen.

Most pure virgin, St. Dymphna, we live at a time when many are intent on satisfying every carnal appetite. Your single-minded dedication to Christ alone is providential and inspiring. Please help us by your power with God to see life in proportion as you did. With your aid we propose to perform all our actions for a pure motive, and promptly to resist all our evil inclinations. Amen.

St. Raphael, pray for us.
St. Joseph, pray for us.
 
Layp3rs0n said:
I have mentioned this before, and it is so shameful… I have had a terrible sexual addiction for almost twenty years. I have gained no ground this Lent again. I am in treatment and anti depressants have helped some. But the addiction rears its head and I fall over and over. I think my confessor is becoming tired of me. Priests have prayed over me in front of the Blessed Sacrament using exorcised holy oil. I love God very much, but always fail Him in this area. And because if it I so seldom get to bewith my Lord in Holy Communion. I so miss the intamacy I had with God as a child. And now I am beginning to despair of ever being in heaven with Him. I ask your prayers and advice.
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Confess weekly, and go to daily Mass and take Holy Communion, daily. Say the Rosary, daily.

Know what? For Him, throw out any source of temptation/sin. The computer, lock it and don’t use it unless it’s work related or CAF, and when you’re done, turn it off. Don’t spend too much time on the computer. Got a TV? Throw it away for God. You don’t need it. And if you’re married, your spouse should support you, and let you throw away the TV. Got any kind of magazines, fashion and stuff? impure pictures? will that lead you closer to God? No? throw it away. You don’t need anything that won’t bring you closer to Our Father.

So you get aroused, what to do? 1. Pray, 2. no matter which day is it, watch the movie The Passion of the Christ.

I know you don’t want to please Satan, you want to please God! I know. Just like God is there, the demon is there. He’s going to tempt you so badly, why? because the evil wants you by his side, he wants you to not be happy in God’s arms. He disturbs devoted practicing catholics! even Saints! why? he hates God, and he is so envious. Do you want to give Satan the pleasure? NO!

Now, you go and try your best, confess, listen to daily Mass and live it, it heals. Pray the Holy Rosary, for your soul. To help you put God first over anything and anyone. Alright? Good. 👍
 
If you have been addicted for 20 years and have been battling it for all (or most) of this time, then isn’t it time to consider a 12 step program, such as Sexaholics Anonymous? Is there a reason you can’t try it by attending a meeting, or have you simply never heard of it?

This has been recommended previously in CAF by several posters, and is recommended by Fr Echert on EWTN Q & A. I just mention this to assure you that it is accepted by Catholics. Only you can determine whether it is right for you, however.

The following quote is from Narcotics Anonymous, but I believe it is true of all the 12 step programs (AA, NA, SA, etc…).
When at the end of the road we find that we can no longer function as a human being, either with or without drugs, we all face the same dilemma. What is there left to do? There seems to be this alternative: either go on as best we can to the bitter ends - jails, institutions or death - or find a new way to live. In years gone by, very few addicts ever had this last choice. For the first time in man’s entire history, a simple way has been proving itself in the lives of many addicts. It is available to us all. This is a simple spiritual - not religious - program, known as Narcotics Anonymous.
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I have never used narcotics myself but I have been to several meetings and I find it inspiring listening to people who were on the verge of total destruction and then recovered through NA.
 
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