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Is it even real? I mean I see all people very happy living a PERFECT LIFE?? all smiles, parties, selfies…

and then…I go to the mall and see an old friend and she seems to be very different from her online profile…she looked very very heavy while her Facebook profile showed a different image…

Have you ever had this experience on facebook where what you thought was real is completely the opposite??
 
I started a social media thread over in the Back Fence forum.
Personally I don’t like social media. I only joined because I had two teenagers I wanted to keep tabs on what was being posted, as one of their friends got in trouble with L.E. due to bad posts.
Bullying, ect)
My sons now grown have grown out of it for the most part but I use it to: share photos(easier than email or snail mail) and keep up with old friends, relatives I haven’t seen in years.
Other than that I despise it. I am bombarded with friends and family political views that get shoved down my throat but I’ve had several people delete me over MY views on marriage and family. MY religious views are not appreciated, but they can post all their stuff. So now I only go on to share photos, ect. I’ve even considered deleting my account.
Maybe starting a blog, instead.
 
This used to come out in overly-long Christmas letters. 😉

Seriously, sometimes people take the temptation to put their best foot forward beyond a bit too far. It has always been thus, and it always will. I think Facebook is the work of the devil because of how much taking offense and cooled friendships it seems to cause, the amount of showing off and whole-cloth lies it seems to produce from people, the way it encourages both vanity and social insecurity, but the medium does have its innocent uses. The practice of putting a good picture of yourself on your profile instead of the most factual current picture you can get doesn’t even register as a sin. Would you want to see pictures of people bickering about which restaurant to visit instead of posing happily whle they’re enjoying the one they actually chose in the end? No. That’s TMI. Let that go…believe me, too much honesty would be harder to take than a cleaned-up picture that everyone realizes has been cleaned up.
 
I have a facebook account set to quite high privacy settings and have a small group of friends and family, and what you read is what is really happening to me. I can’t imagine how boring it would be to my friends if all I posted were gurning selfies and boasts.
 
Vanny said:
I am bombarded with friends and family political views that get shoved down my throat but I’ve had several people delete me over MY views on marriage and family. MY religious views are not appreciated, but they can post all their stuff.
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Exactly. Same here.

I gave up FB for Lent & haven’t looked back. 👍
 
I say it on all the FB threads:

High privacy settings, generous use of the “unfollow” option, and FBPurity.

So now my dad can see his grandkids, but I don’t have to see his political rants, I can automatically screen out game notifications and any post about the latest pyramid scheme, etc etc.

FB can be horrible but it’s also a good tool.
 
Mayita30 said:
Is it even real? I mean I see all people very happy living a PERFECT LIFE?? all smiles, parties, selfies…

and then…I go to the mall and see an old friend and she seems to be very different from her online profile…she looked very very heavy while her Facebook profile showed a different image…

Have you ever had this experience on facebook where what you thought was real is completely the opposite??
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I get the idea of making sure you post a flattering picture as opposed to one of you yawning or sneezing, but a lot of people seem to opt for fantasy over reality. I had one friend who, if you only saw the pictures she posted of herself, you’d think she hadn’t aged a day since high school. She went ballistic on a friend who posted an unedited picture of her that hadn’t been taken from the proper selfie angle (you know, held high at just the right angle so everything hangs in, down or out in just the right way), and which showed the thinning hair, wrinkles and bodily effects of three kids.

Most of what I post is positive but I don’t falsify my life or put on a rosy sheen to make it look better than it is. One of my wife’s friends would always post these cloying, saccharine updates about how her wonderful “hubby-wubby” was and how great their life was. When she posted that the divorce came through, you can imagine how unexpected it was.

One that struck me recently was the friend who’s taken to posting all sorts of memes and overbearing advice on how to have the perfect marriage. She posts several of these each day. It takes a good deal of self-restraint to not mention the fact that she was recently divorced for the fourth time and is now living in her parents’ laundry room with her two kids because she was always the breadwinner and has to pay alimony to all four of her deadbeat exes.
 
Mayita30 said:
Is it even real? I mean I see all people very happy living a PERFECT LIFE?? all smiles, parties, selfies…

and then…I go to the mall and see an old friend and she seems to be very different from her online profile…she looked very very heavy while her Facebook profile showed a different image…

Have you ever had this experience on facebook where what you thought was real is completely the opposite??
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On the one hand, people aren’t going to (usually) post something that casts them in a bad light or that is embarrassing.

On the other hand, some people use facebook along those lines to scam and deceive people.

There is a difference between that and looking your best.
 
I have a few friends that only post positive things about themselves. Then there are the people who seem to post only when they need to complain. Also, there are friends that post memes all the time, and others who “vague-book” (they post a cryptic message which gets a number of people to comment, “are you okay?” “what is wrong?” etc.) I really dislike vague-booking and usually do not respond to it, unless it is someone that I feel close to, which isn’t that many.

I use Facebook to post pictures of my dog, some memes, and for the groups that I belong to on FB.
 
I think Facebook and instant/directing/text messaging is killing social skills? What’s wrong with the phone? I saw 3 girls walking down out street and they never talked…only texted each other! Insane!

I think Facebook is the Devil too.
 
Mayita30 said:
Is it even real? I mean I see all people very happy living a PERFECT LIFE?? all smiles, parties, selfies…

and then…I go to the mall and see an old friend and she seems to be very different from her online profile…she looked very very heavy while her Facebook profile showed a different image…

Have you ever had this experience on facebook where what you thought was real is completely the opposite??
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I think Facebook is fine in moderation.

I was involved with Facebook several years ago and quit because I didn’t like the posts I was seeing from people I considered friends.

My husband wasn’t on it (and still isn’t) and I felt uncomfortable where it was headed.

It wasn’t until recently that I discovered many of my Church girlfriend on Facebook and I decided to give it a go again.

It’s the easiest way for my to connect with devote Catholic women and stay in touch with close family and friends.

I have a friend’s list of around 50 people.
Mostly of friends and family I like to keep up with and to see updates on my children’s school.

No, not everyone uses Facebook to display their flashy behavior/ Some do…but not everyone.

If you screen everything wisely and keep an eye on things you could get away with it.
 
I really like using facebook, however, I only am friends with people I know well in real life. I use it mostly to share photos and videos of my family. I would rather read and see the joyful things that are going on in my family and friends’ lives. If they call, it’s usually to complain about something.
 
pensmama87 said:
I say it on all the FB threads:

High privacy settings, generous use of the “unfollow” option, and FBPurity.

So now my dad can see his grandkids, but I don’t have to see his political rants, I can automatically screen out game notifications and any post about the latest pyramid scheme, etc etc.

FB can be horrible but it’s also a good tool.
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Good idea.^^

more to the O.P. - I also see people enjoying home improvements or buying new houses or things we can’t afford and it causes me to feel bad and insecure on one level as I think gee we haven’t ever gone to Europe and probably won’t be able to in the foreseeable future and we can’t afford to fix up our house or buy a new one-but then my husband reminds me that all that will burn and pass away one day and only what’s done for Christ will last into eternity so I realize I have my faith and health and children and in that I am so rich. Those other things will pass away.
So on that level-I’m happy if people look good or have nice houses or cars or whatever and try not to envy-which I think FB can make people insecure on that level.
 
I’m sure I’ll get called judgmental over this, but when someone gets upset because someone else’s life seems wonderful, isn’t that kinda…well…mean? I guess I don’t get it because my facebook page is only for people I like? And if you like a person, you aren’t going to be upset because they got a puppy and you didn’t, or they have a boyfriend and you don’t, or they went to Vegas and you can’t afford to, or their kid can say their alphabet and yours can’t. You’ll be happy, because your friend got to do cool stuff and you get to see the pictures and videos.
 
Allegra said:
I’m sure I’ll get called judgmental over this, but when someone gets upset because someone else’s life seems wonderful, isn’t that kinda…well…mean? I guess I don’t get it because my facebook page is only for people I like? And if you like a person, you aren’t going to be upset because they got a puppy and you didn’t, or they have a boyfriend and you don’t, or they went to Vegas and you can’t afford to, or their kid can say their alphabet and yours can’t. You’ll be happy, because your friend got to do cool stuff and you get to see the pictures and videos.
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Exactly.

And if it’s your cousin and you think they are showing off, you just hide their posts if it’s too much drama to unfriend them. 🤷
 
Allegra said:
I’m sure I’ll get called judgmental over this, but when someone gets upset because someone else’s life seems wonderful, isn’t that kinda…well…mean? I guess I don’t get it because my facebook page is only for people I like? And if you like a person, you aren’t going to be upset because they got a puppy and you didn’t, or they have a boyfriend and you don’t, or they went to Vegas and you can’t afford to, or their kid can say their alphabet and yours can’t. You’ll be happy, because your friend got to do cool stuff and you get to see the pictures and videos.
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I don’t think it is mean unless someone is wishing someone else a misfortune to happen due to the person’s success.
 
Allegra said:
I’m sure I’ll get called judgmental over this, but when someone gets upset because someone else’s life seems wonderful, isn’t that kinda…well…mean? I guess I don’t get it because my facebook page is only for people I like? And if you like a person, you aren’t going to be upset because they got a puppy and you didn’t, or they have a boyfriend and you don’t, or they went to Vegas and you can’t afford to, or their kid can say their alphabet and yours can’t. You’ll be happy, because your friend got to do cool stuff and you get to see the pictures and videos.
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I’ve never understood that attitude myself. We were going through a long period where everything was going wrong for us. Of the things I chose to share, I was pretty open about them on Facebook. I tried to be optimistic, but even then my news feed was a particularly depressing place. In the middle of it all we had one little bright spot. I mentioned it and how thankful I was in light of everything else going on. In response, I had someone lambaste me and accuse me of lying about and/or sugarcoating my life for the sake of my Facebook “audience.”
 
Gordon_Sims said:
I’ve never understood that attitude myself. We were going through a long period where everything was going wrong for us. Of the things I chose to share, I was pretty open about them on Facebook. I tried to be optimistic, but even then my news feed was a particularly depressing place. In the middle of it all we had one little bright spot. I mentioned it and how thankful I was in light of everything else going on. In response, I had someone lambaste me and accuse me of lying about and/or sugarcoating my life for the sake of my Facebook “audience.”
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No one’s ever said anything to me personally about being too positive on facebook, but that’s probably because I only have my own family and very close friends on my account and presumably they like me and want good things to happen to me. I only hear people complain about it elsewhere. I just don’t get it. It’s not healthy to only dwell on the negative aspects of one’s life and it’s good for anyone to be grateful for the good things that do happen.
 
FB is getting clogged up with ‘groups’, companies, SJW agenda-mongers, slacktivists and outrage junkies.
Social media? I don’t think so.
Take a look at all the trolling and unmoderated anti-social stuff which goes on there.

*disclaimer
Yeah, I was banned from Facebook. (Pseudonym rule)
Ironically, I was notified of the ban by an anonymous FB Admin who for some reason didnt want to use a real name either.
I complained.
I said…if folks on Facebook can freely change the definition of the word marriage why can’t I change the definition of the word “name”? 🤷
 
Check out Townhall icon Mike S Adams on FB.
He’s been moderated/suspended/sanctioned a few times.
Once they temp banned him and his first FB post upon returning was…"I’ve upped my posting standards Facebook. Now up yours"
 
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