Facing the need to fire employee

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I recently was informed that my mom’s caregiver/ housekeeper ( they live abroad) ) may have been misappropriating funds, by making phoney requests for expenses. This was brought to my attention by a trusted nurse, ( who I have known for a long time and who would not benefit one way or another). Apparently the housekeeper failed to pay the nurse, while the funds had been sent to her, more than once. The nurse then confronted her regarding this and she started to say that she was not being paid enough and overall badmouthed me and my mom. I confronted her about this on the phone today, and she became very upset and stated the nurse was lying etc, etc.
I know I have to fire her, but I feel horrible. She always cared really good for my mom (who has dementia), and I had trusted her with sensitive info. I considered her part of my family She has a small child and an elderly parent whom she takes care of. and no other form of income. If she gets fired she will also loose her work permit and will face deportation. I have been praying all day about this all day and I still don’t know what to do. I feel that firing her will destroy her life and her kid’s life too, but on the other hand I can not trust her at all. Please pray that I will come to the right decision. Thanks
 
Lord, please grant many graces to this employer that justice be done always in this and all situations. Send angels to help all involved parties with this and draw them through this enterprise closer to your Sacred Heart always. Heal all their wounds and may love prevail. Lead all these souls to the eternal garden of joy. Have mercy, Lord. Our Lady, angels, and saints, pray with us. Also touch this mother and heal her every affliction, whether spiritual or physical. Amen.
 
Praying that the Lord may grant you guidance in this matter. Also praying for all necessary graces for you.

O Blood and Water, which gushed forth from the Heart of Jesus as a fountain of Mercy for us, I trust in You!
 
I feel for you. Having power over someone’s lifestyle carries a lot of responsibility. Trust is practically impossible to recover.
You have two choices:
I) If you believe :a) that if confronted she would admit it and promise not to repeat the fraud;
b) repay the money stolen over time;
c) not harm your mother in some vindictive fashion:
d) and you can regain trust;
Then, you could confront her and give her one more chance, especially given that deportation is a real possibility.
2) If you a) can no longer trust her;
b) and fear she may harm your mother;
then, on balance, your responsibility to your mother outweighs your concern for a dishonest employee and you have no other option than to get the woman out of your mother’s life.

I know which way I would go, but I lost my faith in others when I was five.
May God guide you in the wisdom of the Holy Spirit in coming to your decision, but your duty to your mother is of the first importance.
 
When an employee steals from his or her employer, it is the employee’s own fault that they get fired. It’s a pity your employee cares so little about her own child and immigration status that she would risk being fired, but some people are that way. Get rid of her and give the opportunity to someone more worthy. You cannot do anything about someone else’s self destructiveness except pray for them. Do not become an enabler of a thief. How can she truly care for anyone in your family and then steal from them? Fire her!
 
Diana(name removed by moderator)my said:
I recently was informed that my mom’s caregiver/ housekeeper ( they live abroad) ) may have been misappropriating funds, by making phoney requests for expenses. This was brought to my attention by a trusted nurse, ( who I have known for a long time and who would not benefit one way or another). Apparently the housekeeper failed to pay the nurse, while the funds had been sent to her, more than once. The nurse then confronted her regarding this and she started to say that she was not being paid enough and overall badmouthed me and my mom. I confronted her about this on the phone today, and she became very upset and stated the nurse was lying etc, etc.
I know I have to fire her, but I feel horrible. She always cared really good for my mom (who has dementia), and I had trusted her with sensitive info. I considered her part of my family She has a small child and an elderly parent whom she takes care of. and no other form of income. If she gets fired she will also loose her work permit and will face deportation. I have been praying all day about this all day and I still don’t know what to do. I feel that firing her will destroy her life and her kid’s life too, but on the other hand I can not trust her at all. Please pray that I will come to the right decision. Thanks
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Prayers said may god guide you in making a tough descision
 
Hail Mary full of grace the Lord is with you. Blessed are you among women and blessed is the fruit of your womb Jesus. Holy Mary Mother of God pray for us sinners now and at the hour of our death. Amen
 
Our Father who art in Heaven,
hallowed be thy name.
Thy kingdom come, thy will be done on Earth as it is in Heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread.
And forgive us our trespasses,
as we forgive those who trespass against us.
And lead us not into temptation,
but deliver us from evil.

Amen.
 
Diana(name removed by moderator)my said:
I recently was informed that my mom’s caregiver/ housekeeper ( they live abroad) ) may have been misappropriating funds, by making phoney requests for expenses. This was brought to my attention by a trusted nurse, ( who I have known for a long time and who would not benefit one way or another). Apparently the housekeeper failed to pay the nurse, while the funds had been sent to her, more than once. The nurse then confronted her regarding this and she started to say that she was not being paid enough and overall badmouthed me and my mom. I confronted her about this on the phone today, and she became very upset and stated the nurse was lying etc, etc.
I know I have to fire her, but I feel horrible. She always cared really good for my mom (who has dementia), and I had trusted her with sensitive info. I considered her part of my family She has a small child and an elderly parent whom she takes care of. and no other form of income. If she gets fired she will also loose her work permit and will face deportation. I have been praying all day about this all day and I still don’t know what to do. I feel that firing her will destroy her life and her kid’s life too, but on the other hand I can not trust her at all. Please pray that I will come to the right decision. Thanks
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Praying for your intention.
 
Saint Michael, the archangel, defend us in battle, be our defense against the wickedness and snares of the devil, may God rebuke him, we humbly pray. And do you, O’ Prince of the Heavenly host, by the power of God thrust into Hell Satan and all the other evil spirits who prowl about the world for the ruin of souls.

Amen.

†

Our Father who art in Heaven, hallowed be thy name.

Thy kingdom come, thy will be done on Earth as it is in Heaven.

Give us this day our daily bread.

And forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us.

And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.

Amen.

†

Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee.

Blessed are you among women, and blessed is the fruit of your womb Jesus.

Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death.

Amen.

†
 
Remember, O most gracious Virgin Mary,
that never was it known that anyone who fled to your protection,
implored your help or sought your intercession,
was left unaided.
Inspired with this confidence,
I fly to you, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother;
to you do I come, before you I stand, sinful and sorrowful.

O Mother of the Word Incarnate,
despise not my petitions,
but in your mercy hear and answer me.

Amen.
 
To all of you who prayed for my family, thank you and God Bless you. Once again I have witnessed our Father works in mysterious ways. A cousin of ours needed employment and when she heard of our toil, she offered to come live with my mom and take care of her, while the other lady can do the housekeeping chores until her contract expires. This will give her a chance to get a new employer ( if anyone wants to hire her…) or to prepare to return to her own country in a less abrupt way. My cousin will get an employment and my mom will be well taken care of. Thank you Lord for helping out and ypu all for your prayers
 
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