Well see that’s the thing, it’s crazy because everyone keeps telling me that he’s going to leave me for a younger woman and it’s like hello I am not that old nor ugly…Seriously!!! When I first met my bf everyone in his family thought I was 20 years old…seriously they didn’t believe I was 27…and of course he was 23, so they were like WOW your girl looks fantastic blah blah blah, well from all the stress his mother has put me through because when I first moved here, I moved in with them, and I only lasted 4 months in her house…I couldn’t take it at all!!! So I did gain a lot of weight, now I am exercising because I thank GOD for blessing me with some of my mother’s genes, and when I am thin I don’t look my age at all so I am working on it you know? So I never felt older than him nor as if I looked too old for him until now…All my life I have been an insecure person, that’s never going to change, but when I am thin I don’t feel insecure at all, and if that’s the only way, like I stated it’s a work in progress…you know? But yes definitely now I feel too old for him…and his mother nor my mother are helping anything at all!!! Like I said one of my father’s best friend when he found out about us looked at my father and was like “you have a problem with that? Look at my wife and I we are 15 years apart, she’s that much older than me and she doesn’t look like it, nor does it matter, we get along perfectly well and I love her, we have been married for 15+ years what’s the big deal?” So my dad was like, ok maybe this might work and stopped talking to me as if I was a child, and began respecting my decision…
Yeah, I do believe that’s what happened…I mean she used to tell everyone I was her best friend and the best thing for her son!! Seriously!!! I kid you not!! It was crazy…and then…
Yeah that’s what her husband told me he was like if you ever have children things will get better between you and your MIL, but my bf’s sister was like “no don’t have any children unless you move to another state she will make your life miserable!!!” And I believe her because of the way she is to her daughter with her grandbaby…Some people just never change…She’s like her mother, very cold hearted people…It’s sad but true…I think I am just going to move around by my parents, not too close but within hours close, that way I will at least be able to see my father and have a better relationship with my family…esp if we ever decide to have children…that’s the only thing my mother never interfere’s with, is my raising my children…so I am blessed on that part!!!
Well that’s the thing I can ask her all the advice but along with the advice comes the whole “It’s your fault these kids are like this, you are too lazy, you don’t want to listen” etc etc etc and I put up with it and I listen, not once have I disrespected this woman even after all the humiliation she has put me through but I just can’t keep putting on the fake smile in front of her it hurts me soo much to do so…I all ready tried speaking with her, I have brought her flowers, taken her out, I mean major kissing up to make her feel superior and most importantly appreciated and loved, believe me I have tried it all, and I can no longer submit myself to such humiliations, I never did that to my mother…
Yes for my mother I am not good enough for anyone, seriously, she wanted me to find a rich man, she told me this countless times, that would take care of me and take care of her…Not some guy that’s working a 9-5…then again, she doesn’t want me to find a young man she wants me to find an older man, because the young one deserves a young woman and he will leave me for a young woman where an older man will be grateful he even has such a gorgeous wife…lol…
Yes he did, he couldn’t take it any more, after all I have gone through for that woman…seriously…Now I am not going to lie, deep down inside it felt good but I was not happy that he confronted her in the way he did…Even though it got results and she did apologise…first time ever too!!
Yes been annulled etc etc etc I hear you…I stepped on that one quickly…
We have, and the only thing we could come up with is, deal with it, put on the fake smile for our father’s sake, and spend time with them accordingly…that’s it!!!
Eh believe me been there done that, it’s a lifetime of issues with my mother that will never go away…Perhaps my insecurities are wrong etc, but I am rational, I don’t make ridiculous decisions, I am a little daring and I do grab life by the horns, lol, and I am not going to lie I am a wild child, but I love life, I enjoy my family, love my children, praise God for everything He has given me and done for me, am enjoying my bf as much as possible because even though all these problems are here he’s still sticking around, and swears his love for me, so why would I let go of something so precious? I will continue fighting for us as muc has possible, he’s worth it and my children love him…He’s been around more than their father has, and has done more for them than he has so I am definitely hoping for the best…Mentally I will always have issues no matter what!!
God bless you and yours,
God bless you and yours as well and thank you for your advice and help!! It’s greatly appreciated!!!
Ruthie
Thank you…Hope you can read my remarks all in red!!
